Husband problem-Wedding photography

[Moony33]

We've just got married and the whole thing had been a total nightmare. I've done virtually all the planning(though 90% of the cost was paid for by hubby) My husband has a brother who's a very experienced wedding photographer, but whom hubby also wanted as best man. My husbands brother has had a bad time of it lately so he thought it a good idea for him to do both roles and was told by a close family member that it "would break his heart" if he couldn't do both. I thought this was a terrible idea. When the photos arrived, despite a few good images, the quality was nowhere as near as good as I expected with a lot of the classic images missing and some bad quality shots I've now gone absolutly ape for days at my husband blaming him completly and have said the "marriage is deteriorating before our eyes". I've more or less demanded that he pay to get additional photos done and how he should have hired an external photographer but what makes me the most upset is that he took his brothers feelings over mine. I'm not sure I can forgive and forget until he pays for another photoshot. The photography was a wedding present but i'm so very upset.

Actually I have changed my mind,

I think YANBU and have every right to be furious with that dumb DH of yours.

setting trap to tempt OP to return to the thread

Vivipru, hmmm......In this parallel reverse AIBU, the wife is still being unreasonable and he should still divorce her.

So, could anybody re-write the OP to make it reasonable?

Are you for real? Got to be a troll...?!

But I'm the off chance this is real: YABVVVVU

pynewpassion I've completely confused myself now. I can't work out if the wife has written a reverse aibu or the husband or what the sod is going on

Knid you mean write it from the wife's POV so she comes across as the reasonable one?

My DH's godson was meant to do our wedding video, so we didn't hire anyone. He turned up pissed and without a camcorder.
We were mildly annoyed in a "oh, it would have been nice to have a video" kind of way. But we never argued about it.

Maybe it's a reverse AIBU from the brother, who has just printed out the photos and gone Aaargh! ...and wants to test the water on how his bridezilla SiL is going to react?

My friends got married and another family member recorded it then, except they cut off their heads.

Op yab-fuckin-u

BoulevardOfBrokenSleep. I think you may have something there..........

Vivipru, you need to write it in a way that the wife is being reasonable. The OP's and yours make the wife unreasonable.

If bad or missing classic wedding pictures = deteriorating of marriage, then wife is massively being unreasonable.

Is this the Matrix?

I like Boulevards scenario....

Yes, Vivipru, rewrite it to make the wife look reasonable. If you manage that, we'll give you standing ovation.

Oh you had to go and turn it into an challenge didn't you.

Can I just check - is it to be from the wife's or the husbands POV Knid?

Either. You'll get a sitting ovation if you can do it from the brother's point of view.

Lol, I have a £700 wedding album upstairs, looked at it once.

Salvage the best shots, do an album. You will NOT look at it again for ages.

Btw we went through a difficult period after getting married too, bit like baby blues etc.

I planned 90% of our wedding too, thats why everyone congratulates the bride at the wedding. They know how long you spent choosing everything while your new dh desperately tried to distinguish between ivory and bone on the colour charts for anything you showed him.

Come on, the clock is ticking!

Oh for the love of jesus, so we're framing the wife as being the good guy, but written by the Brother posing as the husband?

The op is bonkers. Ain't real is it.

I don't know, it's getting a bit too complicated. So, how about:

• post it from the wife's point of view
• with the same basic scenario
• to make her look reasonable.

:)

AIBU? My wife thinks I am...

We've just got married and it's now turning into a nightmare. My wife did virtually all the planning, as I'm always working and frankly, all that is more up her street than mine.

My brother was my best man, but is also a very experienced wedding photographer (www.moonybro33weddingphotography.biz - excellent service and reasonable rates) He's had a really really bad time lately and a relative told us he'd said be honoured to provide our wedding photography as a gift so I agreed, although my wife was very unsure and voiced her concerns on more than one occasion. Her main concern was that as best man, he would already be stretched having a brother and SiL-to-be with such high expectations and it would be too much to expect him to take brilliant photos too.

When the photos arrived, despite many good images, I admit the quality was not as we had hoped with some of the classic images missing and a couple of poor shots. On the day, my DBro was not at his best, he'd put me up the night before and I admit I'd kept him up drinking. DW was very upset, and blames me. We've done nothing but row ever since, she is so distraught, at one point she actually said and said our "marriage is deteriorating before our eyes". She now says she won't be happy until I pay to get additional photos done, that ultimately its my fault since I should have hired an external photographer. She seems to think that I took my brothers feelings over hers, and says she's not sure she can forgive and forget until I pay for another photoshoot, which I think would be a bit of a waste of money.

I felt that I was over a barrel at the time, and having him do our photos would save us additional cost over and above the already high wedding expenditure.

AIBU as she says I am?

We could give you ideas, maybe, but you have to string them together to sound believable!

Maybe the brother put the really shit ones on facebook?

Even if you have shit photos, anyone worth their salt could make a decent album about of average photos, with a little bit of photoshop and some imagination....