To think if people are having a pay bar they should say so on invite?

[GlassofRose]

I'm going to a wedding next week and my partner is the best man. The couple have been a bit funny with partner this year being very pedantic over what he can and can't write in his speech to the point he told them to write it for them. He's also been in trouble with the bride for getting the groom drunk on his stag night (a whole month before the wedding). They also originally didn't invite me, then invited me to evening only (I'll be travelling up there the night before with my partner so would have been twiddling thumbs in hotel till evening) until my partner asked for me to be invited properly.

I asked my partner to ask if it was a pay bar or free bar as I just had an inkling these two are having a wedding they can't really afford although there was no mention of it on the invite. The reply he got from groom was "Of course it's a pay bar we're paying for the wedding...

Either way, Do you think if guests are expected to be paying for their own drink it should be mentioned on the invite?

Eek, that groom sounds as though he's in for a lifetime's worth of fun!

It's always good when people who you suspect to be wankers reveal turn out to be wankers. It shows your judgement is accurate and it gives you a reason not to stay in touch without all that pesky guilt.

She sounds a right nighmare.

I've just read all your posts on the whole thread, and I have to say that you sound absolutely lovely and I'd be happy to share a glass of rose with you any time. Oh and in case there's any confusion I'd buy the drinks!

SpringHeeled Me too. We were planning on getting an event bar to come on site, but now I think we'd be better off spending the £300 that'd cost us on a few casks of cider instead.

Good form with the updates, OP :)

Lookingatclouds -

Thank you

I thought i'd update and let you all know as I know some people thought I was a guestzilla. Glad the update made people think otherwise, at least I know I wasn't imagining it.

Been to pay bar and free bar weddings. Most have been pay bars. I've always made the assumption it's a pay bar. A free bar has always been a nice surprise! Never been told one way or another in invite.