to dislike facebook moms showing piccies of their kids at sports day/winning football trophies/baking and just general boasting

[wettestjuneever]

ok call me old fashioned but when did it become acceptable to just boast about your children winning things under the guise of being "very proud" which is really just a massive boast.
I feel sorry for these kids whose entire lives are played out on facebook statuses and videos.. when did we become so what I used to think of as "American"...!
So AIBU or is this just huge boasting???

I assume these are your friends so YABU a bit U

Depends who is on your facebook. If you are an anal collector of friends than personal stuff doesnt go up at all. If it is a family orientated facebook to keep in touch with relatives and the odd real friend then it saves those Christmas round robins that plop on the mat.

If all I had to post about was my kids winning a race in sports day then I'd live a very sad existence. It's hardly boasting is it though. It bores me to tears, nothing more.

What is wrong with being proud of your children and letting other people know of their successes?

Do your children not have any trophies nor bake moist brownies or something?

I think its normal to put aspects of your life on Facebook?

I know what you mean - I have a few friends on facebook who put up every time their kid does anything...I can't work out whether I am cross because I think it is boasting or because I am just a teensy bit jealous of how achieving her kids are! (not that I would swap my little darlings, of course!).

YABU and curmudgeonly. It's a parent's job to be proud of their kids.

Why shouldn't we boast about our children? As long as it's not done in a "my child is better than your's", if doesn't bother me in the slightest. And no, I'm not one of those FB moms, so not defending myself

Is being proud boasting? It's a hard one. One the one hand it's nice to post stuff about your family for relatives who live far away to see, on the other it's a bit rubbish if you feel like you can't in case you offend people. My dd recently learnt to read and I really wanted to post a little video for my far away cousin to see, but I didn't in case I offended the school mums I have on fb. I'm sure there's probably a way of limiting your audience in fb though, but I don't know how.

Whats wrong with being proud of your children? Just get of FB if you don't like how other people use it.

Although not really my scene either, I find it odd that you view parents being proud and wanting to share their kids achievements as boasting?

My pfb DS has lots of pics of him uploaded. Almost on a daily basis infact. I don't mention him in most of my status updates though.

If anyone is annoyed by it they can defriend me. More than one person has made positive comments about looking forward to my pics and videos.

He's never won anything though.

Haha yes I am quite mardy and possibly IABU
I was brought up not to show off. That is normal to me.
Being happy for a friends child... I do feel that but the number of things people put up on fb is way OTT and part of the self promotion that fb lends itself to!

YAB a bit of a dick, aren't you?

Sneering at Americans and criticising people for telling their friend's about their lives?

I posted dd got a few prizes at school I was maybe boasting but mostly i was very proud of her am i not supposed to be proud am i supposed to just say dd was a shite today would that be better

Stupid fucking iPhone grocers' apostrophes

YABU.

It's not showing off, it's enjoying moments in your children's life.

Facebook is about what's important to YOU. You therefore put things YOU are interested in.

In my case, this is my children. They delight me and are a main focus of my life. I post other stuff too, but I often post photos of them that delight me. Also, many relatives inc my Mum live abroad.

YABU and miserable.

wettestjuneever- meet the "Hide" button. She will help you out.

I put a picture of DS2 at sports day on my FB. But I didn't mention on there if he won the race (he didn't, although he did win a different one) I don't see how it is 'boasting' I just thought it was a lovely photo of him!

(And isn't 'Mom' an American word? Or is it used elsewhere?)

Well I find all your views very interesting.
I like children and I like them achieving things but they gain most satisfaction from that through hard work and achieving their goals .
I don't think, before facebook, it would be socially acceptable to tell friends[not family] about all of our childrens achievements.. I mean you don't go telling all your friends when your child gets a great report for example do you ?
But since facebook is slightly detached from reality, people think it is ok to tell them everything, and like all things on facebook, they put themselves in an extra good light.

I agree YABU. I love hearing about stuff the kids of my friends and family have done.

Didn't you ever win anything as a kid?

Mom can be regional in the UK. I use Mom, I'm in the West Midlands. Some say Mam of which is usually used in the North of England and possibly elsewhere.

Yes, pre Facebook I would have phoned relatives to talk about my children and I would have posted them photographs.

People who post details and photos of their children are not always boasting or saying other kids are inferior or anything, they are just saying "doesn't he look smart in this one?" "This is his first time on a farm/ this is his first day at school" etc.

I like children and I like them achieving things but they gain most satisfaction from that through hard work and achieving their goals .

How does Facebook undermine this? it's just people talking about their children and sharing happy moments. it's not "spoiling" them or posting up their IQ or anything.

pictures are fine esp to family but a lot of the fb statuses about kids are very boastful .. and whats more, have they got their kids consent to flaunt every item of their lives to all on the net.. ? I don't think so

So if none of you agree, how come everyone gets so worked up on the threads where parents are "stealth boasting " about their childs reading ability etc..?

Tell you what, you put what YOU want to put on FB and I'll put what I want on. How does that sound?