to dislike facebook moms showing piccies of their kids at sports day/winning football trophies/baking and just general boasting

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ok call me old fashioned but when did it become acceptable to just boast about your children winning things under the guise of being "very proud" which is really just a massive boast.
I feel sorry for these kids whose entire lives are played out on facebook statuses and videos.. when did we become so what I used to think of as "American"...!
So AIBU or is this just huge boasting???

I like seeing pictures of how my distant friends children are getting on on Facebook. If they posted pictures constantly for every minor semi achievement I'd find it irritating, but as my friends only seem to do it when it's something special or a particularly good picture, then I like to be able to see.

I hardly ever put my dc on fb, because I just don't want to, but I know that when I occasionally do, I know there are people that are happy to see.

Oh you miserable caaah.
Fancy anyone getting pleasure from their child doing well.
Don't share the joy folks. Make as little of it as possible, and get back to not making a spectacle of yourself forthwith.

sigh

MY friends baby sat up for the first time the other day she put a boasting proud mummy pic of him on facebook it was lovely to see

pictures are fine esp to family but a lot of the fb statuses about kids are very boastful .. and whats more, have they got their kids consent to flaunt every item of their lives to all on the net.. ? I don't think so

Oh how ridiculous. No, my kids do not give their consent. They are 2 and 5. My mother did not seek or obtain my consent either when she took photos of me into work or to relatives houses when I was young. Get some bloody perspective.

Also, my FB page has strict privacy settings and my children are not naked.

Perhaps my 5yo will sue my arse when he is 18, can afford a lawyer, and becomes aware that I posted a fully clothed picture of him on a tractor age 5 whilst visiting a farm.

Sole Thanks :) I didn't know Mom was used in the UK. I guess you learn something everyday

OP Would I tell my friends/family about DCs 'achievments' without facebook? Yes, maybe not ALL the people I have on there, unless I happened to bumo into them that week, but some of them yes I would call/text/email to let them know.

And I actually DO ask my DC if I can put pictures of them online, although I am aware I am probably in a minority here!

I will quite happily boast about my kids on FB (I did so tonight actually) firstly because all of my friends on there do the same and that's great. They're my friends so we share each others celebrations. Secondly, it's for family who live overseas so they can keep up to date with what's happening in the kids' lives and thirdly, it's for my timeline so I can look back at stuff in years to come.

So sue me :)

bumo??? meant bump

yes the OP is a bit misleading the way I phrased it
... pictures are nice to see and for family boast / enjoy all you like, but for most people their facebook "friends" are often acquaintances and I find telling them all what difficult books their dc are reading/ personal best in swimming etc a bit annoying

Its worth bearing in mind as they get older Youold

hide them if they are serial boasters then just hide updates if it is really annoying but people can put what they like on facebook

I started a thread about this very thing last week and you were all nicer to me than you are being to the OP, I think I was a bit more self critical in my OP though, ie. I was annoyed with myself for being jealous as well as a bit annoyed about boasting, which I do think s rude.

My ds is this years Dux of the school (in Scotland, it's an award for the highest attainment as he goes into his final year)
I put it on facebook to all my family and may have mentioned it on MN.
I'm not boasting, I'm so proud of him I want to shout it from the rooftops.

YABU

I never really post any personal updates on my FB but I am not bothered if people post a proud and potentially "boasty" status or pic etc of their DC - let people please themselves

YABU. That's what's fscebooks for. If you don't like it hide the posts!!

ladybeagleeyes well done him you must be really proud of your brainbox boy i would have shouted that from the rooftops

yabu i post updates about my children on fb sometimes, infact i intend to put a pic of my dd up tomorrow, her hair is now long enough for pigtails! and its looks super cute, so i shall put a pic up so my parents and sister and other relatives that live away from us can all see!

ditto when my boys do well at school, yes i am proud but its also a way of letting family know about their achievements etc :)

well done to you ds ladybeagle :)

yeah made a mistake in the Op should have said I hate facebook
thats the truth
piccies are ok
the statuses are usually crap

Thanks Mrs Jay .
I went to prizegiving yesterday and burst with pride with him standing there holding that trophy, which will have his name engraved on it for 2012/13 for ever.
Boast, boast.

The dux mum at DDs school was on stage as a guest of the head teacher she was bubbiling her son was glaring bless her

Absolutely ladybeagle, you have every right to be proud. Well done to your ds.

well maybe it just depends on the status that goes with it and how frequent the updates are but some are definitely competitive parenting updates.
my children do well but I don't post it.. I just congratulate them

Actually, I struggle with pride in general...

Are children supposed to make us proud? Why? They are their own people, they aren't our accessories to show off.

Aren't they just supposed to gain experience in life, grow up, be happy and loved and try their best?

If they don't do well/come top whatever, does that mean we then have to be ashamed as well? I wouldn't like that either. That would be a depressing update.

when i am extra proud of my DC (because i am proud of them anyway) i will share it on facebook, if people on my facebook don't like it then delete me.

i read about friends hoildays, nights out, graduation ect and their fun so i have the right to post about the most mportant things in my life Because my 2 dc are my life

YABU. So people are proud of their children's achievements. That's not boasting - its natural. So delete them if you don't like it. Can't imagine they'll be too bothered if you are so miserable about their kids anyway.