to dislike facebook moms showing piccies of their kids at sports day/winning football trophies/baking and just general boasting

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ok call me old fashioned but when did it become acceptable to just boast about your children winning things under the guise of being "very proud" which is really just a massive boast.
I feel sorry for these kids whose entire lives are played out on facebook statuses and videos.. when did we become so what I used to think of as "American"...!
So AIBU or is this just huge boasting???

Depends what context its in i suppose.

It has always been very normal to bore to death everybody else with the stories of your kids, and photographs. With FB you decide what you watch and when instead of being locked in a room suffering hundreds of pictures of someone's family holidays.

Because it is very much populated by professional links I do not post my kids photos on fb, but I truly enjoy getting to see images of my friends and relatives'' growing families. I wish they posted more!

Thats in reply to soupdragon im not talking about posting pics or telling people how your children are doing. There are a lot of boasters on Facebook you cant really deny that thre is!

Flipping 'eck OP, you're a bit of a miser aren't you?!

I post photos and status updates of my DC on Facebook for a couple of reasons. The main reason is most my family live in Cyprus and it is quite a good way of keeping in touch with them and showing them how their niece and nephew are doing. I also only have friends and family on my friends list; Facebook isn't a popularity contest and I prefer quality over quantity...

In any case and regardless of reason(s), it is my Facebook page and I can choose to put on there what I wish. Posting a pic of my DD with her first gymnastic badge isn't boastful; Christ, my cousin represented the Cyprus Youth Team in gymnastics and my DD is hardly that standard (or ever likely to be), but she was proud of her achievement and wanted to show her family in Cyprus.

If it bothers you so much, hide their updates or delete them as a friend. Problem solved!

So, I put on my FB that DD got a distinction in her tap exam. Is that boasting? No, it's just me being proud of my child.

Why is it Ok to complain about your children but not to say you're proud of them?

Thankfully i have only a very small number of FB friends and none of them are miserable fuckers.

I dont think thats boasting to write how your kids did well in some thing or show pics. I personally dont like Facebook and wouldnt put my kids pics on it unless they were old enough and want to go on it, but thats my choice. I dont like the self obsessed idiots on it but i have nothing against people who are proud of their kids and want to tell their loved ones how well they did and share pictures.

I always boast about my children. Obviously they are cuter and more intelligent than anyone elses and I hope everyone else feels the same about their own children!

YANBU

Looking at my friend's and family's little ones updates and pics pales in comparison to reading about someone's dinner/it's FRIDAY!!/jokes from other sites/news links I can read myself/commercial shite they 'like'. Why just the other day I wished my cousin would feck off with her cute photos of a recently aquired gappy smile and wishes from the tooth fairy, I wanted to know how her sheep in Farmville were doing.

But why the need to share your pride in your children with everyone else? Surely it's more important to let them know you're proud of them? It's as though your their achievement only means anything if everyone on FB virtually pats you on the back via the Like button.

What a ridiculous statement. Do you honestly think that parents put photos on FB and are NOT proud of their kids in person, and don't tell them in RL?

It is entirely natural to be proud of your children NO MATTER HOW WELL OR BADLY THEY DO.

I cannot believe there are people on here who think taking a pride in your beloved children is "boasting" and wrong.

My DS came last but one in Sports Day and I put it on FB because I was proud he had a go and tried hard. If that's wrong then the world is fucked up.

Taking a pride in your children is natural and everyone does it, whether on Facebook or having a raft of photos on the mantelpiece.

What would you prefer OP? To keep our kids a secret? To never mention them? To display indifference in order to make FB less irritating for people like you?

I hate this stupid idea that we are receiving validation through approval of our children. We are not. It's expressing love for those short people that bring us joy. If you can't see that I feel sorry for you.

Why does it bother some people so much how others choose to use Facebook? If their updates offend you, hide the posts or defriend the person. Presumably at some point you either sent or accepted a friend request to/from them, so you must have some interest in their lives?

I have a couple of FB friends who post stuff I don't find particularly interesting (endless 'motivational' photos/slogans in one instance, pictures of random tattoo artwork or links to videos for bands I'm not keen on in the other) but I like both of these people, this is just one facet of their personality and I enjoy reading the more personal updates they post every once in a while, so I put up with and scroll past the boring shite.

Cop on OP, and listen to yourself: "some people who I have chosen to interact with on an optional internet site post things I don't always find interesting or that I wouldn't choose to post myself". And your problem is...?

I'm neither miserable nor in need of sympathy and I am as proud of my DD as the next person.

I'm sure people who post the kind of thing we're talking about do praise their kids in person as well, of course they do. But I just don't get the need to share it with the wider world, same as I don't get the need to share many things that people put on FB.

I guess I just feel some things are for a smaller audience but I do take the point that some people have friends and family on FB who will be glad to see these sort of posts. I use it (sparingly) to keep in touch with people I don't see any more - anyone who really matters to me I speak to in real life. I don't think someone I once worked with or knew at school is that interested in my DD's achievements but I get that other people use FB in a different way.

Have to say I am surprised at the reactions on this thread knowing how FB is so often slated on here!

Thing is facebook is a good way to keep in touch with people. We have family all over the world and it is a much faster way of keeping them up to date with what the kids are doing

face book is social networking it has a 'sharing' feature people share news and photies I dont know why people find that difficult to understand

some people* not all

Better to be a proud FB parent than one who complains about ther teenage children..While they have their children as friends. :(

Sadly, I know a lot of VERY cruel and self absorbed FB mums.

YABU. I post photos of myself with my cousins/kids I baby sit all the time because they're happy memories and I love my family.

'some people who I have chosen to interact with on an optional internet site post things I don't always find interesting or that I wouldn't choose to post myself'

And that's really all there is to it.

such shameful boasting everlong tsk is there any need for it

sneaks back well done him

Too many people are misunderstanding the OP's point. She is surely referring to acquaintances, rather than close friends and family who OF COURSE will be interested to hear of achievements etc.

It boils down to the type of "friend" that people put on their list. Half the time they're just acquaintances whom you don't want to offend by refusing their friend request. Then you're stuck with their cringeworthy announcements like "happy birthday to my gorgeous princess" and there is a list of 50 replies saying "happy birthday

I don't mind this as long as the children involved are happy about it

I am pleased for my friends and their children when they achieve something they are proud of, to me it's no different from sharing something that made you laugh or cheered you up, I certainly don't sit there looking at a picture of my friend's ds clutching a football trophy and think "Oh fuck off, smart arse"

And by the way, the people who post the most cringeworthy comments also seem to use the word "hunni" a lot. Which gets right up my nose. And post photos of their precious darling in their "lovely new baby uggs" etc

Curly- no they don't. I have never found this. You are just being silly now.

It is National Grumpy Old Bugger Week?

There's "I don't want to go on holiday with my kids" on one thread and "I don't like seeing people's beloved children on FB" on this one.

All this rain is sapping our bonhomie and goodwill to each other. Come back heatwave- all is forgiven!

YANBU.A friend of mine said on her page that her face was aching from smiling at the teachers at her DD's parents'evening,because of the wonderful things she was hearing about DD.....