to dislike facebook moms showing piccies of their kids at sports day/winning football trophies/baking and just general boasting

[wettestjuneever]

ok call me old fashioned but when did it become acceptable to just boast about your children winning things under the guise of being "very proud" which is really just a massive boast.
I feel sorry for these kids whose entire lives are played out on facebook statuses and videos.. when did we become so what I used to think of as "American"...!
So AIBU or is this just huge boasting???

then you are very lucky

sometimes noblesse obnlige and all that

Meh. I'm just harsh. I even refused a friend request from my niece (I didn't want to read about her drunken University exploits!)

Lurking: Please will you note the difference between "my lovely dd turned 1 today!!" with replies to the MUM saying "Awww! Lovely! Hope you all had a nice day"

and

"happy birthday to my precious angel, I love you so much!" with replies such as "Awww, happy birthday Jack! Big kiss! What a handsome big boy you are now ! Xxxx. ". Times 50 from random fb acquaintances of the mum.

There is a world of difference. In fact it's the difference between MN and er, other parenting boards which shall remain nameless but we all know which ones we're talking about.

It's the Bella magazine-ness which irritates the hell out of me, rather than the mention of the child's birthday per se.

I don't mind it if they post other stuff too, but to limit posting with boasting :o irritates me. I have an acquaintance who does this, also takes a photo of her daughters report WTF??????

The main problem I have here is that you complain about us following 'American' trends and yet you talk about 'moms'.

if it's occasional, it's OK, and normal. If that's all they have to say, yes it's too much, it's not interesting and it doesn't reflect well on themselves as individuals if they don't have anything to say about themselves

mammatj point well made :o

But even if they post about the bad bits of parenting like sleepless nights they do it in irritating ways: "Emily was awake for 4 hours last night, the naughty little munchkin!". The replies go along the lines of "oh dear, Emily, be a good girl for your poor mummy tonight!"

Fgs you are 2 grown adults and the baby isn't even awake never mind able to read the message.

Meh.....

Twee as fuck. I love people's enjoyment of their kids - its the twee way they post about them that is so infuriating.

It isn't always boasting to show a picture and say you were proud of your child. I hate the fact that we are not allowed to be proud of the things our children do.

Now if someone is saying it all the time ver and over and nothing else and there child seems to fab at every little thing - maybe so. But then you just ignore and skip over them surely?

But the odd sport's day pic with a 1st sticker is hardly a massive boast is it? Surely you're just proud they've tried hard and done well?

DD is performing tomorrow. I'll probably put a picture or video up on FB of her doing so as some family have asked to do so if I can. I may even say that I was proud of her. It isn't boasting - it's just sharing something nice that I feel.

I assume those who aren't interested will skip by it with the scroll bar or not click further, just like I might if I wasn't interested in something.

TBH what I don't like far more is people who only ever have whingy posts or cryptic ones.

Or the letters..

Dear baby
Please sleep for mummy tonight because mummy and daddy are so tired.

Lots of love Mummy and Daddy xxx

I agree with Hulababy - I actually enjoy reading status updates about people's kids doing well.

Why are people so jealous?

Please stop, Tango, I've got itchy teeth!!!

"moms" was in the spirit of the obsessive updaters who can't get on with their activity/wedding/night out /hen night [groan] due to spending most of their time uploading the photies onto fb...living life through a lens

I like children. I like babies. I like good school reports and taking part in sports. Its great to share those things with family and close friends.

I'm sure I'm quite typical in that I have some work colleagues and acquaintances on fb as well as family and closer friends.. I don't show my info /updates/photos etc to those who I don't think of closer friends so I have them on restricted, but they have theirs open.

Most are fine, but some update with endless stuff about their own marvellousness and endless comments to "lovely ladies" and "girlies" and about their offspring about whom they are indeed "very proud" sometimes several times a day. There's no law against it !! I just like the outdated social etiquette about being modest about things.

But yeah I'm a miserable old bugger and might write to Germaine Greer or one of the other "Grumpy Old Women " about how much I hate stuff.

haha to the letters from baby
brilliant

Well tomorrow I will be putting a fucking giant boast about my kids on FB.
I have the sum total of 39 people on my friends list and each one will be pleased as punch.

The serial "my DS did his biggest fart ever, clever Ickle chap".

Yep. Annoying.

you don't need to be so defensive!
It depends what you put as to how twee it sounds, rule of thumb should be if you wouldn't go up to your "friend" in the schoolyard and tell them you are amazingly proud of your perfect princess for winning best short story of the year in the local paper, then don't do it on facebook!
simple as the hide and delete functions!

nothinggoldcanstay Sorry it took me so long to reply to this.
Ineed - yeah well I think posting means either you though or you think there was the possibility it wasn't going to happen otherwise what are you trying to say? Actually what is it you are expecting other people to say? If you are actually asking people to say "well done" that's a bit sad because those people that know and love you would anyway.
TBH I did think it wasn't going to happen. The interview was crap, I ummed and ahhed the whole way through. And of course there was a chance I wouldn't have got on the course, if everyone that applied got on then the 2 hour key skills and interview process would have been a waste of time. And as I have family and friends all over the world then FB is the easiest way of letting them all know. If they are interested then they can like/comment, if not they can always hide/delete! As for saying it's a bit sad wanting people to say well done, well I have had crippling depression, and suffer with VERY low self esteem so seeing people congratulate me is actually very helpful And yes they could have said well done via text/email whatever, and some of them did phone me as well, but I chose to announce it over FB.

I don't know where you are going to college but if you have been raised in say Mogadishu most of your life then fair play.
Nope, am going to college in my home town in South England, but see my point above re self-esteem! Plus I was tols when I applied that it is very hard to get a place on this course as they have so many applicants.
IMO anyone who is making the massive step of returning to college/work after years out deserves a congrats!

Oooh bright children and cakes baked...
Can't wait for the next exciting instalment.

I dont think you are being unreasonable, OP. I don't FB but have acquaintances who put every move and fart that they and their children do on the bloody thing.

so parents can't be proud of kids and celebrate their achievements? If people don't like me talking about my kids on fb I'd suggest they either block my comments or defriend me. I have family all over the globe so it's a great way to let my db, mum, dad, in laws etc how dc are doing.Think people who don't acknowledge achievements are neglectful to dc's needs though that doesn't have to be on fb. Rather see positive stuff than old school friends hanging dirty laundry and telling me if dp and they are together this week or what a bastard ex is.

I like it, especially from far away friends and family.

As predicted bymy urgent status says how proud I am of my little girl today, she sang beautifully and performed her monologue really well today, just 10 years od with a bunch of 17 and 18 year olds. It's not boasting. I'm just really blooming proud!!!