to dislike facebook moms showing piccies of their kids at sports day/winning football trophies/baking and just general boasting

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ok call me old fashioned but when did it become acceptable to just boast about your children winning things under the guise of being "very proud" which is really just a massive boast.
I feel sorry for these kids whose entire lives are played out on facebook statuses and videos.. when did we become so what I used to think of as "American"...!
So AIBU or is this just huge boasting???

Be thankful that you aren't subject to my FB. All you would be seeing is my dog pictured on days out and camping holidays.

I don't do status up dates, though.

"But why the need to share your pride in your children with everyone else?"

But why the need to feel as if pride in one's children is a dirty subject?
Why the need for the miseries to label it boasting?

I so agree with you. Some people just cannot stop boasting about their kids' achievements and beauty and wonderfulness on FB. One boast after another and you end up rolling your eyes at it.

Why is it Ok to complain about your children to others and not to show your pride in them? What a warped society we live in.

Whilst I do cringe slightly at the (on TV/sterotypical) over the top reactions of americans*, I did love seeking bumper stickers that said things like "proud parents of an honour student" whilst over there on holidays.

• Obviously I am not lumping them all together but in the same way the English are stereotypically reserved, Americans are the opposite. :)

YABU. Absolutely to the comment about it being a diary to look back on. Especially for those of us who lose phones with pics on every few months! I love seeing my friends kid's progressing from afar when we can't meet in person all the time.

The only reason I have a FB page is to put pics of my DS on it! I don't do status updates though.

Im not on Facebook but tbh everyone has a hundred reasons to brag about their child etc, except some people take it to the extreme and show no interest in others, but want everyone to notice their children. if people love the facebook attention then either read it or delete them cos that sort of thing is never going to stop. Or do what i do dont even go on facebook!

YABU and mean.
It's part of my job to be proud of my DC and their achievements.

My FB is for friends and family. I think giving the DC a shout on there is more than reasonable.

Forgot to say YANBU!

There is one reason and one reason only that you are still on Facebook but get irritated by this - you are jealous.

Dress it up how you like but that is at the root of it.

Blimey, that's all I do on FB

That is nice adversecamber .

I grew up in an abusive household also and my opinion is as long as your children feel cherished and loved and happy and self confident. My personal opinion on Facebook is I dont like it one little bit. And as long as my kids know im proud thats all that matters I dont need to prove it to anyone else .

It's not about "proving" anything though. I think the moany mums are missing the point. It isn't "boasting" or "proving" anything. It's letting your extended family see what your family including the kids is up to. I like to see my cousins' family pictures as I see them every couple of years and it's great to see what they are up to. Small kids can't have their own facebook pages so they go on their parents' pages.

Its HER facebook so she can put up what she likes, so what.

My DS is a cadet and was part of the Rememberance Day parade. Being a proud mum I uploaded tonnes of photo's, no one else has to look at them do they. I only have close friends and family on mine and one would hope they would be pleased for me/him.

Are you jealous of a few mates?

I think the moany mums are missing the point. It isn't "boasting" or "proving" anything. It's letting your extended family see what your family including the kids is up to.

Yes! We live quite a way away from our F&F so I use FB as a way to keep people updated on our lives, what the kids are up to, their progress, things they do, etc, etc.

These people are our close friends and family, so they do want to hear about this stuff, we're friends/family - I like to hear about what their kids are up to, etc, etc. I'm interested in their lives...they wouldn't be friends otherwise.

But then I'm antisocial on FB, I don't have hundreds of people on there I hardly know or have no interest in hearing from.

I also ring them, email them, visit them, etc.

Hully is right!

But anything you put there, you're putting it because you want people to see it, aren't you? I do see some rather wanky stuff there, and it kind of depends how you do it - but if I put a photo of my girls up, even if I don't comment with it 'My Beautiful Girls!', I'm not doing it hoping for 12 comments saying they're ugly, am I?

I would not, personally, post anything about school reports, grades or competition winning, but that's just me.

There are people who use Facebook to share photos to family im not talking about them im talking about the bragging narcissist types so if you share pictures etc im not talking about you just the people who brag for the sake of bragging but show no interest in others etc! And i aint a moany mum far from it [GRIN]

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YABU - children NEED to have parents who are proud of them and who WANT to shout their achievements from the roof tops. That's what makes them grow up into self-assured, successful individuals! (sadly, this was a concept that entirely escaped my own parents)

I'm proud of my dc and what they do - it doesn't matter whether they do it first or better than anyone else. I update fb and post pictures so that relatives can see what they're up to as none of our family are local. I find that now most of my cousins and aunts and so forth are on facebook, we keep in touch far more than we did before. If anyone thinks I'm dull or boastful then they can delete me. I'm sure people have, but

I think people are picking this thread up wrong. The OP didnt say anything about people showing their family or friends pics. Its mostly about general boasting on Facebook I think she means.

It's not boasting.

Most people have friends and family on fb!

I post "boasting" my kid did this and that couldn't care a less if any of my fb "friends" thought I was boasting cos I AM...very very proud of my kids and their achievements - mostly my family and real friends love it

There are loads of things that pee me off on fb but it washes over mainly all the dog photos oh and what ppl eating why oh why?