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to dislike facebook moms showing piccies of their kids at sports day/winning football trophies/baking and just general boasting

220 replies

wettestjuneever · 28/06/2012 22:37

ok call me old fashioned but when did it become acceptable to just boast about your children winning things under the guise of being "very proud" which is really just a massive boast.
I feel sorry for these kids whose entire lives are played out on facebook statuses and videos.. when did we become so what I used to think of as "American"...!
So AIBU or is this just huge boasting???

OP posts:
Hopandaskip · 29/06/2012 06:46

Don't ever visit my Facebook then, it is a continual stream of what we are doing, where we are going, what we have seen etc. I really enjoy seeing that from my friends so I also do it.

iMoniker · 29/06/2012 07:11

My DS1 made the lead line-up for his school musical. I posted boasted on FB
My DS2 got straight As this semester (despite the fact that he has been struggling with his epilepsy). I posted boasted on FB (didn't mention the epilepsy, just that I was proud).
My DD is a joy - she is a happy, kind little girl. I often post boast about her.

My family and friends like to share in our happiness. Why are you so miserable that other peoples' happiness upsets you OP?

psychomum5 · 29/06/2012 07:17

if you don;t like it, dont look at it, or read it.

maybe just don;t go on any forum where parents can be proud of their children, or talk about their children, or acknowledge their children....maybe just rewind yourself back to the 50's where parents put children in a 'be seen and not heard' place.

WhyTheBigPaws · 29/06/2012 07:26

OP for what it's worth I completely agree with you, and with what CurlyHairedAssassin said. You wouldn't walk up to another Mum in the playground and start telling her how your DD had won the class prize or got a great report in case her child hadn't done so well so why do it on FB? If you want to share the news with grandparents/family/whoever then either change your settings or bloody well speak to them. I am really starting to hate FB tbh, it's so bloody shallow and full of people who need the validation of other people clicking the Like button - I get a bit like it myself if I post an update and I hate that so I'm thinking of coming off all together.

SoupDragon · 29/06/2012 07:39

Ok, nice to know we're not allowed to be publicly proud of our children any more. Fabulous. Thanks for letting me know, OP.

BerryLellow · 29/06/2012 07:55

And if you don't want to completely hide the person, Facebook has made it even easier for you with a range of options, from hiding individual posts to just seeing most important updates.

So you're being a bit silly, and unreasonable imo.

And I couldn't give a shiny shit if I bore people about my dc, I think they are amazing :o

ariadne1 · 29/06/2012 08:00

It's kind of a diary though isn't it.Not just to tell others but for you to look back on. l

YouOldSlag · 29/06/2012 08:00

OP YABU
YABU
and YABU some more.

PenisVanLesbian · 29/06/2012 08:01

Imagine if there was a simple way for people who dislike facebook to not have to look at it....if only it wasn't compulsory for everyone to have a facebook account and look at it daily....

Hmm
2rebecca · 29/06/2012 08:04

My main facebook friends are my extended family who live some distance away so my facebook is mainly family stuff and fairly innoccuous. I email or phone my real friends. I put less stuff on about my kids now that they are old enough to have their own facebook pages. I only have about 20 "friends" though

weaselm4 · 29/06/2012 08:07

My dad's overseas, DH's family at opposite end of country. They like to see grandchildren/nephew/niece.

All there is to it. Meh.

YouOldSlag · 29/06/2012 08:07

Penis, yes imagine that it was optional to join Facebook. optional to be friends with people, and optional to look at the news feed of "complete acquaintances". If only, eh?

Or you could just hate everything they put up and feel angry and negative about it all like the OP.

People being proud of their children and sharing photos of them with friends and family. What a bunch of bastards!

weaselm4 · 29/06/2012 08:09

Arf@PenisVanLesbian

Ambrosius · 29/06/2012 08:13

I think its a bitter person that begrudges their friends and family their successes.

WhyTheBigPaws · 29/06/2012 08:19

But why the need to share your pride in your children with everyone else? Surely it's more important to let them know you're proud of them? It's as though your their achievement only means anything if everyone on FB virtually pats you on the back via the Like button.

Ambrosius · 29/06/2012 08:28

My f + f like to know what we're doing and are happy for us when good things are happening! If love to hear about childrens acheivements lifes too bloody short not to celebrate successes and happiness. What bunch of miserys some of are!

IMeMine · 29/06/2012 08:30

I post photos of my two, mostly so family can see them and not pester me for photos I don't really update my status anyway, just add photos now and then. I must look a right boring sod! Grin

My SIL does update quite often about her children and post videos and photos, but all my other facebook friends only do it occasionally really. She does use it more than many though so it makes sense that she would do this. Some people seem to live their life through facebook though and update constantly.

Coconutty · 29/06/2012 08:31

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2rebecca · 29/06/2012 08:31

My parents used to phone and tell my grandparents if we'd done something nice/ good. Many of you say that grandparents are on the phone (usually excessively) wanting to know about the kids. You put a picture/ some info on facebook and they can see it. I don't care if someone likes it or not. I'm putting it on to share info and because I prefer the internet to the phone. If anyone objects they can defriend me.

Hullygully · 29/06/2012 08:33

oh who cares?

They just look a bit tossy

5madthings · 29/06/2012 08:35

yes i like seeing the achievments of my friends and family and that includes their children! plus i often put a photo up as well which again is good for family etc and i dont have hundreds of friends on fb either.

bronze · 29/06/2012 08:39

My brother lives the other end of the country, my parents live abroad. It's an easy way to share and if someone doesn't like it they can fuck off.
I like sharing in my friends and their children's happiness and success.

I posted a picture of my dd with her stickers from sports day. I was fucking proud. She was born prem with a small chance is survival and now finds academic work very hard. My friends and family know this and are chuffed for her and like to see the pictures of that success.

bronze · 29/06/2012 08:40

5mad I like seeing your pics. Your sons outfits rock

StripyMagicDragon · 29/06/2012 08:41

My dh's family live in hong kong, so I like to put up pics of dd on Facebook when she's doing something they'd like to see. Posted a video of her using chopsticks the other day.
They don't have Skype, so it's Facebook, emails and phonecalls. If my friends dont want to see it, they don't need to. I'm not burning it onto their retinas.

5madthings · 29/06/2012 08:45

thankyou bronze my sons outfits have come up in a discussion today on another thread, (the one about buying a boy a cardigan) as i am 'that' poster that bought her son a dress and sent him to school in it (rolls eyes) but yes he does look rather funky is his purple tutu Grin and he loved seeing his pic and all the 'likes' he got :)