Women who pack suitcases for men.

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I hear of this relatively often.
JUST DON'T DO IT.

I answered way back on page one. Reading through the posts about men not being capable of these (easy) tasks reminded me of something though. When dh and I got together he told me that he wasn't 'allowed' to use the washing machine in his previous relationship as he dyed something once. I reminded him that he was an extremely intelligent human being and that I trusted that he could work through any difficulties (or something).

Funny how we fall into gender roles. I once tried to get out of programming the heating system and dh reminded me that I had lived on my own for years and managed it previously. Touche I believe.

I'm all in favour of helping out one's partner but please don't try to convince me it's because he's incapable.

Women like the OP are disassembling the patriarchy, and I am extremely unhappy about it. Please desist, and go and put the kettle on. There's a love.

I never buy clothes for DH. Not because he's an evil control freak (which of course, he is) but because he has better taste in men?s clothes than me.

Left to my own devices in a menswear shop I?d veer into the Terminally Twee aisle every time. After years of observation I realise I wouldn?t be the only woman there.

I buy most of my husbands clothes but my teen sons buy their own.

I know what my husband likes to wear, i know his size and i like to shop and there is only so much i can buy for me.
I dont buy my sons as they are really fussy and built like stick insects so need to try things on.

Doing things for your oh is not a sign of being some hard done by put upon wife anymore than doing nothing is a sign that you dont love your partner.
People just have different ways of running their lives and if it suits me to do it my way then who are you to say it is wrong

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No everlong, that's not what it is at all.

But it wouldn't cross my mind to go out of my way to buy him socks. His clothing of himself is not my responsibility.

I pack bags because I'm better at it, because DH couldn't care less what he takes and because it would take him ages to do it. DH does the ironing, put the bins out, does anything car related.... Surely that's what a partnership is about, playing to each others' strengths.

Bloody hell. You're right.

I'm very, very odd for not imposing my taste on my husband and he's very, very odd for not wanting to wear my idea of a nice shirt.

DH packs for me. I pull stuff out and he packs - way better at it than me. I have to edit what he is taking though as we always rent somewhere with a washing machine but he insists on taking 14 days worth of clothes, socks, pants....

Yes, feminist shit, what a load of bollocks, what has that ever achieved.

It's not demeaning to pick up a shirt you think your partner might like. I don't think anyone's saying that.

I packed for dh once. He spent the whole holiday saying "where's my x, y,z" and "did you pack this, that, the other?" that was the first and last time I ever packed for him.

Now he does his own and still asks did I bring his whatever and I can reply "you pack your stuff, not me so if something is missing it's not my fault".

I have on occasion purchased a garment for Mr Inferior, solely as a present. Not socks, obviously. I have no idea about his socks. He appears to wear them. And pants, too.

The last (and only) time I have ever packed a man's pants it was an ex, who had left (after several years in our mutual flat), leaving behind his washing and three pieces of bacon (which at that time I did not eat) in our fridge. I put them in a jiffy bag and sent them to his office. Second class. In a heat wave.

That packing a suitcase for someone else is ridiculous and that generally men do this "oh noooo i'm soooo useleeeess" crap so that you have to do everything/the boring thankless tasks.

Seems to me it's a thread about how life is too short to pack another adult's pants. With many people disagreeing and saying oh no, pant-packing is a crucial aspect of their relationship.

Sorry, their marriage. I have at least a get-out-of-suitcase-free card.

It does make me laugh when people say they play to their strengths in a relationship.

I would never consider "being able to pick up clothes I own and put them into another place" as a strength. If a grown man isn't able to do that, then he really needs to grow up.

Chuckled at this, MI: I have at least a get-out-of-suitcase-free card.

Indeed - your skills are clearly unsuit(cas)ed to marriage