To say screw you society, I just had a baby and I'm going to be fat!

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Actually to say screw you media, mom and all the women who tell me how "easy" it was to loose the weight after the baby. Grrrrrr.

YANBU

YANBU. New babies are always easier when you know there is cake in the cupboard.

Why would you be fat after having a baby unless you were fat before being pregnant? Only with the celebs is there pressure to be back to skinny within two weeks.

YANBU. I found pan au chocolat the only thing to help my breast feed.

I was fat before I got pregnant, and I'm even fatter now. And I'm having a harder time loosing it.

YANBU.

I was a fat heifer for at least a year after each of my babies was born. I quaffed wine and ate cake on a daily basis. Last year my skinniest, most beautiful and model-esque friend had a baby and took a year + to get back in her size 8 jeans. It made me realise that very, very few people shrink back like the celebs seem to.

I say: eat biscuits and be happy! You have the rest of your life to concentrate on losing weight and looking good. Now is the time to enjoy your baby and ease up on worrying about your appearance.

YABU - why not think, screw you society, I am going to eat healthily and find time for myself to exercise. I don't think that having a baby has to equal being fat. I would not like to be fat, so cannot really understand why you would want to be.

Yanbu. Fuck them.

My mother is the one driving me nuts. DS is 6 months old, I've been back to work since he was 9 weeks. I drop him off at nursery at 7:30 (leave the house at 7), work from 8:00 till 4:00, get home at around 4:45, try and take him for a quick walk (don't always manage) because he eats dinner at 6:00 and is asleep by 7:00. Plus I've got dinner to make for DH and I (DH helps a lot with housework, baby and chopping stuff for dinner, but he burns water, so I can't trust him to make food). DM keeps telling me "You've got to find more time to exercise, you've got to eat better" Where am I supposed to find the time? :(

I was a fat heifer for at least a year after each of my babies was born. I quaffed wine and ate cake on a daily basis

Nothing to do with having a baby and everything to do with a bad diet then.

eat biscuits and be happy! You have the rest of your life to concentrate on losing weight and looking good. Now is the time to enjoy your baby and ease up on worrying about your appearance

I cant understand that logic at all. The more weight you pile on, the harder it is to lose it.. being fat is unhealthy, you can look very attractive when you are large, but it still doesnt help your heart no matter how great your appearance is.

YABU. Having a baby is no excuse for being fat and unhealthy. It is hard enough without having no energy because you eat rubbish all day and don't take care of yourself. How do you expect to look after your family properly if you aren't looking after yourself? It's almost like women are proud to be fat after giving birth these days, as though it's some sort of badge of honour.

I was almost 6 stone overweight when I fell pregnant, I had just started WW and had already lost a stone when I had to stop. I could have said 'Fuck you society, I'm pregnant and I'll scoff what I want!' but I didn't, and after giving birth was only 7lb heavier. I have since got down to 10st, starting as soon as I got home from hospital.

It is just as easy to eat some fruit than it is a Snickers.

ithaka, if you could please point out in my schedule where I can fit in time for working out?

And I do eat healthily, unfortunately I still don't seem to be loosing weight.

Ithaka, I think thats incredibly patronising.

Maybe women are fed up with being told they should worry about being fat (which Is what you just did) when they've just given birth?

It doesn't really take any more time to eat better and to eat less.

It's your body and your life but I'm sensing you're really feeling the opposite of what your thread title says.

Oh and of course your can trust your DH to make food...you just have to teach him how to do it.

What if you both couldn't be bothered made out you couldn't cook meals? Neither of you would be able to raise a family.

I sympathise, you days sound very busy and it is so hard with a young baby. But your last post proves my point - you deserve to eat healthily and to be supported to exercise, if you want to. Can you mother have the baby for a few hours at the weekend, so you can have time to go for a walk/cycle (or just rest, if you want).

Being fat is not punishing society, it is damaging yourself and you deserve to look after yourself.

But why would you be fat after giving birth unless you were fat before conceiving? You mit but some weight on in pregnancy but not enough to make you suddenly fat.

I workout in an evening when the dc are asleep. I also fit lots of exercise in elsewhere. Doesn't have to be a workout, just move lots and briskly and eat healthily.

If you really are struggling, have you had a checkup with a gp?

My mother is in another country. I live in the Middle East and it's 50 degree Celsius in the shade here at the moment. So outdoor activity is limited to before 10am or after 5pm, unless I want to die of heat stroke.

How about wii fit, or something similar? If you want to exercise, that is. I am sensing you don't really and it is entirely up to you.

It is possible to beslim without exercising, but it is of course entirely your body and your choice.

Being fat is not punishing society, it is damaging yourself and you deserve to look after yourself

I totally agree with that.

'Society' really won't give a crap if you develop heart problems, diabetes, asthma, premature death or any other weight related illness.

But you and your family certainly will.

If you really do eat healthily - you would not be overweight unless you do not move about very much.
Its best not to be obsessed about it, just decide not to eat any junk food - not to have huge portions and try to have only healthier foods.

I love my food, but decided a few years ago to eat healthy food for my health - not just because i wanted to be slimmer. We were eating quite a lot and I never felt hungry but it was all low fat & vegetables and fruit and Fish & Chicken,.. and I found I couldn't stop losing weight. It took a few weeks for the sweet cravings to go away - but they DO go away.
I think many people give up too early but once you get used to the change in diet you start to prefer it to all the carbs & sweets and junk stuff.

However, with a new baby I think you should stop worrying about what other Mums look like and how you compare - and just get on with bonding with your baby an dtrying to enjoy being a Mum.

Hoonoobrooncoo I'd have thought that was bloody obvious, but in case anyone else is as thick and rude has equally little imagination as to how that might happen, I was a size 8 pre-pregnancy (not fat!) and am a 16 now at 38 weeks. I've put on 4 stone - my appetite was enormous most of the way through, it made me feel very sick to be hungry too, so I ate all the time, and I've had bad SPD, so not been able to move much for excersize, and it's been generally fucking miserable and food treats made it more bearable.

squeaky, you make a hell of a lot of presumptions!

My diet wasn't bad at all. I had hyperemesis during pregnancy and initially lost a stone (both times), but was then ^ravenous' in the third trimester and while breastfeeding. I was HUNGRY, so I ate and yes, I gained weight.

'I cant understand that logic at all.' Really? Its not that complicated. During the first months, I was breastfeeding and dealing with sleep deprivation. My priority wasn't my figure, it was my baby. When I went back to work after about a year or slightly less, BOTH TIMES, I started exercising again, I was generally more active and my diet changed, as I wasn't at home, sitting on the sofa, breastfeeding and ravenous. Guess what? I lost weight.

Honestly, its not that hard and in fact, its what happens to most women

I am 35 years old and slim. I had my kids at 28 and 30. That was a 2.5 yr period maybe where I was a bit porky. Its not the end of the world, surely?

OP, have a slice of cake and ignore the misery guts

I would love to have time to work out. But between work and baby at the moment I am exhausted. Which is why I just want to say screw you to everyone I just listed above and wait until life becomes a bit more manageable. Yet it would seem I have to loose it right this F-ing minute. Or I'm a burden to society apparently.

Oh and Hownoo, I was a size 8 pre pregnancy and a size 18 afterwards. I gained 3 stone, but also I had emergency sections, so had a big, bloated pot belly for months.

Yay for you if you popped out a sprog and were back in your thong the following week