To say screw you society, I just had a baby and I'm going to be fat!

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Actually to say screw you media, mom and all the women who tell me how "easy" it was to loose the weight after the baby. Grrrrrr.

I don't know how the celebs do it. Is their a pill you can have if your famous and have been in Closer more than 3 times?

Yanbu. I has taken me 4 years to lose one of the stones that I put on with DD2.

I have another 2 to go...but whilst there are chocolate rice crispy treats available and coffee with fat milk, I shall happily sit here and plumply enjoy them.

OP, honestly, do it when you are ready.

"'Society' really won't give a crap if you develop heart problems, diabetes, asthma, premature death or any other weight related illness."

Jesus Christ, I'm 8 kilo's overweight, not morbidly obese.

be as fat as you like, it is your choice.

I can sense some anger though, directing it to the media is fine!

Life will never be manageable, there'll always be a reason to not do something like exercise. It's something that people always seem to have no problem sacrificing. Saying they have no time to do it, yet they find time to sit down and watch 2 hours or tv or surfing the web at night.

You're obviously not happy as you are, but aren't willing to do anything about it right now. Good luck for when you are ready.

Yanbu, I can't stop eating choc & cake, i'm on maternity leave. Of course I wish I could eat as much as I like & not get fat!

8 kilos you say? Aha, a stealth boasting thread

I don't really watch TV at night. I put baby to bed, do some tiding and go to bed myself.

Your weekdays do sound busy, so perhaps reestrict hardcore exercise to weekends? But you can control your diet every day without taking up time. Diet is always a bigger factor than exercise in weightloss anyway, imho (although exercise is good for toning up what is there).

ha Chandon, no. Not boasting at all. Just don't see why everyone thinks these 8 kilos must miraculously disappear ASAP.

OP, no-one is saying you have to lose it right this minute

For a start your body doesn't affect anyone's life here.

It's up to you when you lose it and when your life becomes more 'manageable'

To be honest, the best time for any woman to lose weight (if she needs to) is before getting pregnant, to cut down on health risks to both Mother and baby...although what with unplanned pregnancies etc that's not always possible I know.

Going back to work worked for me both times!

I think the reverse is true generally - unless you're a celeb, there is a pervasive acceptability to "let yourself go" when pregnant or have had a baby.

I do think "9 months up, 9 months down" so certainly think it's not unreasonable to be bigger and flabbier post-birth, but I do think there are implications for being overweight and unfit for many months and years after having children.

confusedgypsychick I can understand you're exhausted working FT and having a tiny baby but I think some regular exercise can actually reduce exhaustion and promote wellbeing. Even just a 20 min swim in the evening, or the odd gym class.

Sidge, sadly being in the ME to do either I have to work around women's hours. Which are all during the day while I'm at work. And I'm not allowed to leave work for long enough to get to the nearest one's, work out and get back.

"I just had a baby"....6months ago? That's not just happened.

If you want to loose weight and exercise then you can't really blame your baby any more.
The only time I have to exercise at the moment is 8pm and I'm not happy about it but I need to exercise so I do it. I've had enough of my wobbly middle bits, and there's only one way to shift it.

It is hard to find time to exercise I agree but it's a mindset imo

Rather than thinking "where will I squeeze exercise into this routine", think "I will exercise at x o'clock now how will I fit everything around that?"

How about when your DH gets in? DVD on the TV? get up half an hour eralier? It can be done!

Hope that didn't sound too smug. I know it's hard!

Good luck!

With both pgs I suffered hyperemisis for half of each pregnancy, I lost a lot of weight BUT I ate for ten in the second half, shortbread fingers dipped in a jar of nutella was my fav snack. It took about 9 months to get back to shape the first time and dc2 is now 18 months and I'm comfortably in my pre pregnancy clothes. I've accepted I will never be the shape I was pre dcs but don't give a flying fuck!

Confused - do what you want. The first year of a baby's life is bloody hard work, the last thing you want to be doing is putting extra guilt / pressure on yourself. Yes, being overweight isn't ideal health-wise, but there are all sorts of decisions people make which affects their health.

Do you actually want to diet / exercise / loose weight? I got the impression you didn't?

How can I not blame the baby? He's hardly old enough to take care of himself?

lose weight! Sorry

IMO, there's a difference between fat and baby fat. There's no logic to being unhealthy and not doing anything about it when you have a baby that relies on you. Nor is it expected that you do a 5k run between each breast fees.

I always think it takes 9 months to put on, so nine months to take off again.

Everything in moderation.

If you find comments rude and hurtful you have to learn to ignore them if you're not going to do anything about it.

Congratulations on your new baby!

You don't have to work out - Just move about more,.. work some stretching and squats and other exercises into your normal day - and eat less or more healthily.
Its YOU that IS bothered by this. Either do something about it and stop looking for reasons why you can't or just stay as you are. Its your life so yes, if you want to stay as you are ( but I don't think you do !)- say 'Screw you' to anyone who says anything to you.

Oh and although I may be a bit bigger than pre dcs, I'm certainly fitter and eat healthier so its not all bad. Gardening and pushing a pram help keep fit, as does chasing a toddler and playing football with ds1!

Op, don't get down about it, get out and about with your baby and make healthier choices, the odd treat doesn't hurt. Give it time.