To say screw you society, I just had a baby and I'm going to be fat!

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Actually to say screw you media, mom and all the women who tell me how "easy" it was to loose the weight after the baby. Grrrrrr.

I guess sometimes you can go up a lot of dress sizes not just because of weight gain, but because your shape changes due to the effects of pregnancy (e.g. separated abdominal muscles)

OP you seem to have some very rigid ideas about healthy/unhealthy food. I eat granola with milk for breakfast almost every morning and I'm not fat (and don't think it's 'bad' food ). It might be worth weighing out your portion though, because with cereals it's easy to eat a lot more than you realise, and granola is quite energy-dense.

And the idea that if you don't have time to make freshly-prepared veg and salads from scratch, you might as well give up and just have a burger? Isn't there some middle-ground, something easier to prepare? Or eat the burger on the occasions when there's no other choice, but stop when you feel full, don't feel you have to finish the portion if it's too much?

Again it's the amount (in calories) you eat that makes the biggest difference, not whether the food is 'healthy' or not. And eating less takes less time!

Medals for all the perfect people with their awesome diets and exercise routines! Maybe work on the empathy and non judginess now since you have healthy living down pat?

I really do think 9 months on so 9 months off in regard to losing the extra weight. I ballooned after my little girl up to 14st but that was because I ate Chinese every night along with lots of cake and cans of coke. At first I really did think sod it I've just had a baby but then I realised how shit being fat was making me feel.
By 9 months I was back in a 10-12 with minima effort just cutting down, more water, more walking and less Chinese! Also I think by 9 months my body was back to normal and I'd lost a lot of fluid which made me look chubby. Although saying all this, I don't think my stomach will ever be flat again

Ephiny, no there's no real middle ground. It's a burger or hot dog or fries or pasta if I don't make my own food. There's a reason over half of the UAE is obese.

Sorry for waffling but what I was trying to say was, your body needs to recover and get back to normal before the weight loss starts.

Yanbu. They say it took nine months to grow a baby, let yourself have nine months to gently get healthy. I ate loads of chocolate when I had a newborn, lost all the weight through breastfeeding...

Geez. I think I've eaten 2 chocolate bars since DS was born. Went 2 months without eating take away or eating crisps. Didn't lose a single pound.

Most I lost after DS was 2 kilos while I was breastfeeding, and that's cause I felt nauseous ALL the time and didn't eat. (Also why I had to stop BF because my milk dried up do to lack of calories).

Well I'm sure you'll find the time/inclination at one point in your life OP.

Good luck with it.

Yes like GIlberte i don't drive and I sling my dc2 a lot and walk for miles so it is easy to be active when it is incoorperated into your life rather than having to make time for it.
For breakfast I have lots of fruit and yogurt cashew nuts and some oats. I prepare it the day before if I am working the next day. Lunch on my work days is left over dinner often with extra veg and less carbs .

Actually I don't drive either and come to think of it, looking back to when I was a kid, most women walked everywhere too.

I think lifestyle does play an important part in weight gain/loss.

It is very rare to lose the milk supply due to eating less calories. Unless you were really starving.

Rightbuggerforit. - go have another cake, love. - or two.

OP, give yourself a break! No-one is perfect, and it takes time for most people to get back into shape.

Don't forget these skinny celebrities have help with cooking, cleaning, looking after the baby, hairdressers, personal trainers, make-up and nail technicians, stylists....no wonder they're always back in shape within seconds of giving birth!

Again. 50 degree Celsius. In the shade. I live a 30 minute drive from my work. Waling is NOT possible.

choceyes, I would often eat nothing all day.

I was thinking more if there was something you'd find quicker/easier to make, if you were struggling to find the time to chop lots of veg etc. What's wrong with pasta, btw? Carbs are not evil or bad, but they are a good place to cut back if you want to lose weight, so eat pasta and cereal if that's convenient, but just watch the portion size.

Also even eating burgers and similar you should lose weight just by eating less (though I agree it's not an ideal way to eat from a health point of view!)

IMO it shouldn't be a case of 'pushing yourself harder', you sound under enough stress already. Just small adjustments like cutting back portion sizes and maybe trying to do a little exercise when you can fit it in.

Would it be worth getting a medical check-up if you really think you're not losing the weight as you would expect?

gilberte,

I was exactly the same. I also walked everywhere. Getting out and about with the pram kept me sane as I found it really hard with a baby that would not settle and seemed to BF non stop. I did look awful looking back though and my family were concerened with my weight loss.

NORMAL weight gain during pregnancy is between 20lbs and 3 stone. Nothing to do with binge eating - this is NORMAL and HEALTHY>

So assuming you have a 7 lb baby, you will still be betwene one and 2.5 stone overweight afterwards, which people will lose at different rates.

God, how hard is it for the judgey pants to understand?

Confused, do you have a maid and a pool on compound or wherever you live? That heat is crap during the day but could you do laps in the pool, even walking? Other than that an excerise video at home with the A/C on.

Why do people keep talking about celebrities? Forget the celebrities...I have no idea why anyone would compare themselves?

If you have to compare yourself to other people (and I don't think it's helpful to) at least compare with every day people with a similar pre-pregnancy weight.

I don't have a maid no, there is a pool, but it's always full with screaming brats who love nothing more than to get in your way when you're trying to do laps and for whatever reason the gate is locked from 9pm till 7am (when I leave for work).

OP - you came on here asking for responses and do not actually seem interested in anyone saying anything else other than yes just eat whatever you want. If you are happy with that then fine but I suspect that you are not due to the fact you have come on here in the first place.

Eat pasta instead of burgers, carbs will not make you fat - eating too many of them (or anything else) will. If you want a really easy diet to follow then look at Slimming World, no weighing or counting points, just basically eating lots of 'free' or 'super free' food with some additionally healthy options. You can probably join online. My friend lost a stone in 3 weeks with no exercise, she had probably 2 stone to lose altogether.

Just do what you are happy with, no one else can tell you to lose weight, it has to be what you want!!

Auntymo if you read the thread, there are a fair few people admitting to binge eating.

So assuming you have a 7 lb baby, you will still be betwene one and 2.5 stone overweight afterwards

No, but some people will be.

Confused that sounds really bad. I had terrible nausea in the first few months of pregnancy both times and the only thing that made me better was to eat loads, but some people go off food completely I know! I put on about 2.5 stones in pregnancy both times, and mostly in those first few months.

If my only option was burger for lunch I'd have just the burger without the bun and a few chips with salad if there was salad with it.

Accountants I don't eat whatever I want, so I can't imagine why I would be interested in just those posts.

What I really wanted to know is if I was being horribly unreasonable to just tell people to screw off I'll loose weight when I'm ready, stop pressuring me to do it now.

It seems, from many on this sites point of view, I am being unreasonable.

Are you out in UAE for the foreseeable future? Sounds like a nightmare if you can't walk as no pavements, can't buy ready made healthy food at lunchtime, gyms and pools not open in the evening... If you're only there for another year, for example, I'd say sod it, do what you can, but serious weight loss can wait.