Guests bedrooms, beds and children

[Mosman]

I'm genuinely not sure if IABU i'm a little stressed so my judgement is a bit blurred.
Jist is against my better judgement MIL is coming with us for 6 months when we emigrate to Perth some may remember the real dilemma about taking her in the first place but she's coming to try it out and help us settle in - god help me.
So there is an minor issue being blown out of all proportion IMO about beds and bedrooms.
When we first arrive we need to keep our costs down, DH doesn't have a job yet so I want to rent a 2/3 bedroomed place, DH and I will camp on the sofa bed, the baby will sleep with us and as we get our stuff over the children, 3 girls need a room for their beds and toys etc.
Grandma (MIL) thinks she should have a room to herself and we should buy her a bed as soon as we get there as she has arthritis and a whole catalogue of various other problems. The kids would be expected to sleep on blow up mattresses.
She also isn't happy that the baby will wake in the night - well who is and thinks we should get a bigger place so that less people are disturbed i.e. her. Nevermind that I have to work to support us all on this magical mystery tour.
She isn't planning to contribute towards the rent, will buy her own food as she has two big bills coming up - not sure how she would have handled those big bills if she was staying at home but she is basically pleading poverty.
Nobody made her come with us, at first she didn't want to because she would loose out financially but it seems that WE can loose out and that's just fine.
I am getting more and more aggregated about the whole situation and we aren't even on a plane yet.
Am I being a cow ? It's only for 6 months I guess.

The whole plan seems to be 'throw enough shit at the wall and hope something it sticks'.

I don't think it's real. on a previous thread op said she was earning over £100000. Now she would have to be earning over $300000 in oz to have equivalent spending power and make the move worth while. I don't believe it is so easy to for an immigrant to get that salary in the current climate but if she did she Could certainly afford a bed and decent sized house on that salary, if not business class up grades. She also said on that thread she might become a sahm in oz. Not that I believe any of it any more.

I also think on this thread or maybe the elderly parents one she said she was supporting her family on £20000, so who knows what's true.

It's one thing talking about upgrading of he gets a job quite another to just go ahead and book the tickets, he hasn't got it yet and hopefully I am not jinxing him by even thinking about it.
How to reverse your fortunes ? Go to Australia I am getting an 110% payrise. When DH gets a job he will be on $300,000 a year which is why it's been hard for him to find something in the UK he has a very niche role.
Hope that clears everything up.
I am perfectly entitled to change my mind about MIL that change of thoughts came about exactly the same time as she started to think that she was DHs wife or child in terms of priorities and imaging all was back to how it was 5 years ago when in fact it is only me who is actually employed at the moment.

As for whether you believe any of this well quite honestly that's the least of my concerns right now.
I am hiding this so this now so bitch away.

$40000 is not small change out of $300000. It is more like a quarter. He will only take home around half of that salary and has five children to support.

Sorry, four children.

No you were right the first time he has Mil the fifth child

In five minutes they probably won't be earning it anymore - things change, dont you know.

Because he hasn't got it yet coldinoz and as you say it's a 12 month lease. I have the cash to pay for four months but what if it takes longer for him to find something ?

It does say 2 or three in the o p

Have you ever even seen a map of Australia op? Perth and Sydney are at opposite ends of the country.

This whole thing is pure madness. You don't plan to emigrate half way around the world in the way you would plan a day out at Alton Towers and hope 'it will all be fine in the end.' Especially not when you have an elderly relative and 4 young children that you are responsible for, as well as an unemployed husband. I'm absolutely...gobsmacked.

Teeb where do you think head offices are based that might interview for roles at that level even if they are based in Perth ?

Hiulda I shall be as vindictive as she is how's that ?

To be quite honest with the amount of chopping and changing and time you have put into planning, it wouldn't surprise me if you did plan for your husband to work in Sydney while you live in Perth and you all do a lovely weekly commute back and forth. I can't believe you will be going on a plan within a week and only now you are seeing your MIL's documents and discussing accommodation and financial arrangements, you still don't know if your husband has a job out there, no childcare arrangements in place. What the hell have you been doing? When did this great idea come to your mother to emigrate, a fortnight ago?! It sounds like such an unbelievable botch job that I don't think this is real.

If you were single or a young couple deciding to have a fun little adventure then I would wish you luck. The fact you are putting young children and an elderly woman through this madness is just cruel.

*Will be going on a plane.

She isn't emigrating, she can't emigrate she's too old I'll and has no money.

What do you want to happen,op?

I just want my life back to how it was in 2007 Hilda, I want DH working full time, me working part time being there for the children and parents phoning occasionally, maybe seeing them at Christmas for a few weeks. I genuinely don't care if that was in the UK or Australia but if it has to be in oz then that's fine.