AIBU to think that women should not have to be discreet when breastfeeding?

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I'm not saying that anyone should purposely flop both boobs out into someones dinner. But it makes me really mad that some people think women should have to be discreet when feeding their baby, sit in a corner or breastfeeding 'booth'.

I also think a breast is just not comparable to a penis to a vagina and if people are offended because they see breasts as purely sexual then that is their own problem.

Noone would object to me sitting in public drinking my coffee or feeding my baby a bottle of cows milk yet people find breastmilk offensive.

I'm not bitty mad I lasted 2 weeks breastfeeding but it still makes my blood boil that it is seen as controversial by many.

AIBU?

Women should only be discreet imo if they're going to continually accuse people of 'leering' at them, simply because they're looking in their direction.

Other than that I don't care.

YANBU, but this topic will probably kick off now, so I am issuing you with my first ever .

I couldn't do it without a 'v' pillow and being virtually topless. I never breastfed when I was out unsurprisingly.

YANBU. If people can't cope with seeing a body part being used for its biological purpose, they should be discrete and sit out of the way/in a pathetic people booth.

No they shouldn't have to be discreet but personally I want to be discreet. I want to be able to BF in public but I don't want all and sundry to see me latching on etc.

YANBU - but I was always discreet due to the fact that you do get men out there leering. If there was nothing to leer at, they won't do it.

Yanbu . I won't purposefully flash my boobs either but people should be more tolerant of breastfeedibg mothers and unit expect them to use cover ups or special rooms .

I am currently breastfeeding, i am happy to do it anywhere. However, it does make some people uncomfortable, so therefore in certain circumstances I am much more discreet- for example around elderly gentlemen who just are not used to it.

unfortunately it is a huge contentious issue, breasts are still seen as a sexual body part when they should be viewed indifferently really. Their primary function is to provide food to our babies, if everyone still breastfed then it wouldn't be so shocking to see a breastfeeding mum.

Not expect

women do not have to be discreet. There is no law that says they do.

I breastfed for a long time and wasn't especially discreet. I am sure a lot of people got a unexpected glimpse at a nipple. No-one ever said a word. < the bastards, I like a good squabble>

I am of the opinion that the 'controversy' regarding breastfeeding is perpetuated by pointless threads like yours.

90% of people don't give a shiny shit how or where woman feed their babies as long as they do.

I know it probably will bubble but some peoples ignorance has really got my back up today so ready to rant & am sure this is the best place. Really fancy a jammie dodger now though.

Also had one about women should stop breastfeeding once the baby has got teeth

Do people really think it's shocking though?

Well I'd be a bit annoyed if a man got his shlong out and started pissing against a tree in the town centre definitemayeb but really I can't understand why anyone gets offended by a nipple or bare breasts being on show at all.

I've always found it odd that p3 of The Sun is considered by some to be somthing of a national institution but feeding your baby is somehow 'obscene'.

Agree with worra though. I've had my eye caught by a pretty scarf before then glanced from it to its wearer and found myself being glared at by some eagerly offended bint with a child squished to her chest. She then tutted at me.

That's made me cross all over again writing that!

Depends on definition of discreet!
Obviously feeding a baby: fine.
Letting it all hang out after baby has lost interest: a bit too much.

YANBU. It shouldn't be hidden away in corners (even though I always chose a seat at the back when bfing in public!) I was on holiday in Malta last year and saw a mum bfing her few-month old child at the bus stop and nobody blinked, it seems much more supported over there. I went with 16mo ds and when a lady found out I was still bfing she clasped her hands together, beamed at me and said 'Wonderful!'. I have never had such a positive reaction over here.

methe I think you are wrong.

I had a discussion with 5 people today who were all of the opinion that breastfeeding should be done discreetly so as not to offend people. One even said women could go into a public toilet to feed.

Novack - pmsl @ shlong - hilarious!

There is no need to hide away while feeding (unless you do need to strip down to the waist, but also there is no need to apply nipple cream liberally and overtly in public place. There is also no excuse for forgetting to put your nork away after feeding in the library. People really do need to use common sense when it comes to breast feeding.

I think breastfeeding is mostly done discreetly not because it offends people but because if there is a quiet corner to sit in Mums would prefer it rather than sit in the middle of the cafe wouldn't they?

I bf to 6months, happily in public. Never felt like anyone was offended, never had any stares or comments. I didn't use a cover up, just a loose top I could pull up.

The other day I was in a cafe, there were two women breastfeeding (at separate tables, not together).

Don't really see what your problem is, OP.

People can think what they like as long as they have the good sense to keep their outdated ridiculous opinions to themselves.

Luckily, judging by responses on this thread most people don't experience others negativity when feeding in public anyway.

I breast fed everywhere, but always with a terry nappy thrown over my shoulder to hid the mechanics because female boobies are seen as sex organs/toys by a lot of men.

If you mean that women should be able to whip it out and let baby latch on for the world to see then no, I do not agree with you.