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AIBU?

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Original poster

To not want my dp to go on holiday with another woman?

252 replies

SleepyDopeyGrumpy · 11/06/2012 19:07

His best friend who he has been intimate with in the past and who he spends a lot of time with.

AIBU?

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Springforward · 11/06/2012 19:07

YANBU.

Ambrosius · 11/06/2012 19:09

YANBU.

MistyRocks · 11/06/2012 19:10

yanbu

DesperatelySeekingSedatives · 11/06/2012 19:10

yanbu. is it just them going on holiday or are others going too? Either way he'd be on the business end of a hissyfit if it was me.

goingeversoslowlymad · 11/06/2012 19:10

Hell no YANBU. Do you live with DP? Can you not go too?

HorraceTheOtter · 11/06/2012 19:10

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dexter73 · 11/06/2012 19:10

I'll join in with a yanbu too! Have they asked you to join them or is it just a holiday for them?

LeoTheLateBloomer · 11/06/2012 19:11

Just the two of them or in a group? And if it's a holiday rather than business trip why aren't you going too?

McFarts · 11/06/2012 19:11

hell no youre nbu! why on earth does he think thats ok?

GnocchiNineDoors · 11/06/2012 19:11

Is it a group holiday / work trip etc?

We need more details.

ZZZenAgain · 11/06/2012 19:11

huh? Few people would like that.

Ormiriathomimus · 11/06/2012 19:12

Just them?

Original poster
SleepyDopeyGrumpy · 11/06/2012 19:12

It would just be them and i would not be invited. The other women does not feel comfortable spending time with me and i have yet to meet her. Apparently i will soon but only in a mixed group environment of her friends and my dp. I do not live with him and i have two ds's who i could not provide care for anyway to go away not that it is an issue as like i said i would not be invited.

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HecateTrivia · 11/06/2012 19:13

Depends, really.

If it's just the two of them, then I think that's a bit weird.

If there's a group, it's work or some other story, then less so.

As others say, there's really not enough detail to form an opinion.

ZZZenAgain · 11/06/2012 19:13

you haven't even met her and she would only meet you with her friends around?

Totally weird

RandomNumbers · 11/06/2012 19:14

how long have you been a couple?

does he think of you as his girlfriend/partner?

welliesandpyjamas · 11/06/2012 19:14

In an ideal world YWNBU but...

Is it just the two of them, or more people?

How would he feel if the tables were turned and you went on holiday with a good friend with whom you'd previously been intimate?

My mother didn't think twice about my dad going on holiday with an old family friend. They are now divorced. Deceitful Dad and the deceitful old friend are now married. Turns out she wasn't a lesbian after all! Imagine that!

Original poster
SleepyDopeyGrumpy · 11/06/2012 19:14

A couple of months and yes we are exclusive.

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HecateTrivia · 11/06/2012 19:14

x-post.

that is really odd. The two of them off on holiday together and you're not invited.

I would suggest that their previous intimacy is not as previous as he'd have you believe.

dexter73 · 11/06/2012 19:14

That is weird. I think she still fancies him.

CuttedUpPear · 11/06/2012 19:15

YANBU

DailyMailSpy · 11/06/2012 19:15

Yadnbu!

GooseRocks · 11/06/2012 19:15

Hell no YANBU. She doesn't feel comfortable?? Poor dear! Well you don't feel feel comfortable about this "plan" and you're his partner!

Ormiriathomimus · 11/06/2012 19:15

Was it arranged before you got together? Otherwise it's just v odd.

corlan · 11/06/2012 19:16

Did they arrange the holiday before you got together?