To not want my dp to go on holiday with another woman?

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His best friend who he has been intimate with in the past and who he spends a lot of time with.

AIBU?

It is a yearly thing apparently

I agree with dexter, I think there's still something between them.

Is your 'D'P seriously going ahead with this?
If mine even considered that he wouldn't be coming home to me that's for sure.

Dump your boyfriend before you get in too deep.

No part of that situation is ok.

Erm, yanbu.

that's just crackers international, that. YANBU.

absolutely no way. Do you want him swanning off once a year with this woman who will not even meet you because you make her uncomfortable? WTAF? I would tell him that it doesn't fit with my idea of a our relationship, so it is off.

You've only been with him for a couple of months, I'd just walk away.

He's clearly showing you that she matters more to him than you do. She gets to decide how and when you meet, he is going on holiday with her, how she feels matters more to him than how you feel...

Sometimes you have to take a step back, have a good look and ask yourself if it's really worth it.

If it were me I would be telling him he could go if he liked but he wouldn't have a partner when he got back.

yanbu, but you have only been together a couple of months, so be prepared to be dumped if you insist he doesnt go

Are you sure you're not the OW?

This is so odd.

And I know that girlfriends come and go and friends (hopefully) last forever, so you shouldn't dump a good mate for a shag. BUT. They should not be the ones dictating how and when you are introduced to them. Because if they are just FRIENDS - they have no reason to not meet you.

The fact that she is coming up with all this means that this is not just a friendship. She's got to come to terms with the fact that you exist and meet you on her terms. A pal doesn't need that. A pal says hey, let me meet the new squeeze then...

How can she not feel comfortable with you when you have never met?

Pissed off her fuck buddy is shagging someone else more like.

Run for the hills

"It would just be them and i would not be invited."
And I would no longer be his DP by the time he returned!

You've only been seeing him for a couple of months, I'd just draw a line and end the relationship. If he can't see the problem then he's just not worth the effort.

Weird and unreasonable.

I would tell him that if he went away with a woman who refused to let me go too, and who was setting the terms under which she was prepared to meet me, he had best hook up with her because he and I were all done.

So let me get this straight. You are dating a man who is best friends with his ex (such best friends they are no longer together ) yet your partner's "best friend" refuses to meet you as it would make her uncomfortable? And presumably your partner is fine with her take on things, yet doesn't see the problem at your discomfort at him going on holiday with a woman he has previously shagged?

He sounds a gem. I'd get shot now tbh. If he is so insensitive and pigheaded towards you it doesn't bode well for your future. A gang of mates that happen to include this woman, fine (as you haven't been together long), but one to one? Nah, he can fuck right off.

Sounds very odd to me.. I wouldnt tolerate it myself, I would just dump him.

DTMFA

I have a male friend I am very close to and have had a few moments with. We have gone away before. If I was in a new relationship and my new DP wasn't 100% OK with it, I would not go away with him.

I introduced my DH to my male friends as soon as I could do it. I think it's really important for new partners to meet your friends anyway. However, it is more important with male friends because I want my DP (now DH) to be happy with me to have male friends and they can check him out and see if he passes muster. All this dictating terms stuff is nonsense.

I'd dump him tbh, he sounds like a right wanker!

Why will this woman not meet you? there is more going on here!

How can she feel uncomfortable spending time with you, when she hasn't even met you? You are her best friends partner, she should be pleased to meet you and get to know you!

So if they go every year, how have his previous partners felt about it? Are they going abroad? Sharing a room? I know myself, I wouldn't want to go on holiday and sleep in a room on my own (but then maybe I am a wimp).

I'm afraid I would have to say to him that I wasn't at all happy with this, and that if he still insists on going then we would have to call it a day.

YANBU and I would be a bit at the 'she's not comfortable meeting you' and it has to be under particular circumstances as anyone who has nothing to hide and wants what is best for their friend's relationship wouldn't behave like that.

Will show my arse on town hall steps if they are just pals.

Yanbu

You are being taken for a fool.