To not want my dp to go on holiday with another woman?

[SleepyDopeyGrumpy]

His best friend who he has been intimate with in the past and who he spends a lot of time with.

AIBU?

I think it's Borderline Personality Disorder that he has Hearts but same initials.

However, I am sure there are plenty of people with either condition who are capable of staying faithful if they love someone.

I don't think there's anything wrong with him going on holiday with a female friend. I would be completely fine with that.

What I wouldn't be fine with though, is her saying she doesn't want to meet you because it would be "weird for her". That means that she at least doesn't see their friendship as just friends but as a bit more and that would set alarm bells ringing as it's clearly not platonic.

Oh crap Hilly, didn't realise. Thanks.

Faithful. Yes. That's me.

Is it just me that thinks a relationship of a couple of months is not yet a partnership?

He's (sort of) your boyfriend, OP. And not a very good one by the sound of it.

Yes that's exactly what I said. It's too early to be calling him DP.

Just the two of them sounds weird. Is there more to this holiday?
My ex of college years and I remained fast (and very platonic) friends after we broke up and when he was getting married I arranged a week foreign holiday for him and our group of friends as a bachelor party. His now-DW was very nice about it, even though she didn't know me that well and may well have expressed disapproval - if she had in any way been uncomfortable though, platonic friendship or not, neither I (as a friend) nor he, as a loving DP, would have gone. Very much a trust thing.

what happened to the poof'ed thread, mary ?

was there an explanation ?

did it begin with T, or did the wife find the thread ?

or does that amount to the same thing ?

AF, no explanation, just that it was being deleted. Rowena (I think) did raise an eyebrow at the linked thread though, so perhaps it was deleted because of libel privacy issues. Other treads still there.

Sorry, have just realised you asked Mary & I do my normal butting in bit!

no worries, RC, good of you to reply ! (I do the butting in thing too, I mean you never know if people have gone off to do RL for a few hours do ya ?)

mary, that was my thought too

I mean the first post was still standing from last year and this is a public site, so always the chance you will come across something you perhaps weren't meant to see (that's if you were on the level of course, which I don't think this was)

What is TSSDNCOP?

Get rid op.He is taking the piss big time.I'm sorry tp say he sounds more into her than you.You deserve so much more.Don't settle for second best

OMG a West Wing reference that I didn't get - must watch the box set again!

yanbu

at Rowen. Whoops.

Ahhh . I hope that's the case. Better than the alternative. I guess. I still wait for MrDiamondCock to come along though, so to speak.

And now the spitball one's gorn.

What is going on here?

You're a mug, sorry but you are.

I was going to write a nice supportive post but I can see a lot of people have done that and given you the best advice possible, but you cant see what's going on.

I don't want you to end up hurt, this man is a loser.

EVERY Thursday she goes to his flat? That would have been enough for me to dump the fucker!

Spitball? What was that about? (Don't tell me if it's gross, I'm eating dinner.)

You IS joking??

Spitball has gorn???????

I've been on MN all day waiting for the outcome of that fred

SPITBALL is GONE??? Noooooo, I was sooooo sucked in.

ERRRR

No No No and hell No.

put the kettle on spoon in the nescafe and then take a big nose full of the steam.

Bear in mind that when a man follows a woman around whining, declaring undying love and demanding exclusivity after 8 weeks, acts controlling around friends and insists that he can help her with her MH problems and work on The Relationship after eight weeks that's generally seen as red-flag behaviour. Especially if the woman's trying to let him down nicely and back away, but he insists that 'we can get through this together'.

Just because the OP here is the woman doesn't stop it being actually fairly unethical behaviour to cling so hard to someone with MH issues who is clearly resistant to the idea of a relationship with her.