To slightly envy single parents

[Nobhead]

I'm not saying that being a single parent must be a walk in the park, I'm sure it's very difficult in many ways (financially, no "break" etc). My DH has been working away since Tuesday so it's just been me and DS but actually it's been quite nice, easier almost. I have been ready for work earlier in the mornings, DS has gone to bed quicker without DH getting him all giddy before bedtime, I have eaten what I want for tea when I want to, watched what I want on TV, been on MN at night. I haven't had to listen to him moan or distract me in the mornings with the "nobhead where is my football kit, keys, wallet, phone?" or spending all night on twitter and showing me every single thing he or anyone else tweets or retweets.
It's only been for 3 nights and I'm sure the novelty would wear off after a while but I have really enjoyed it. DH asked me on Monday night if I would miss him and I said "yes of course" but I must have had a look on my face that said otherwise because he said "no you won't, you can't wait until I go look at your face" I felt really awful but I was secretly looking forward to it. God I'm a bad person and I probably am being totally U.

I'm never sorry I had them, not at all. I'd be even lonelier w/o them & I enjoy their company. But I'm at the mall right now, surrounded by couples and it's just ... grim.

To anybody reading this I don't feel lonely at all being a single parent. Ds is at a better age. That was more before he was 7 or so. I also do not crave a relationship whatsoever as I know only about half of them are happy and know mens' ways very well.

We aren't all flat out miserable I am sure. Under pressure yes with too much to do the whole time but I am certainly not miserable whatsoever.

YANBU, but my single parenthood was shared care so I had best of both worlds.

Kinda miss it now I have a partner, sometimes prefer casual dating and being able to do my own thing!

YABU. As I read your OP it didn't sound like a single mum life. You wouldn't be sat eating and watching what you want - you would be doing all the things you can't do with your child there, or feeling guilty for not doing them - never fully relaxing. Also, you wouldn't be feeling relaxed and chilled - because your husband is working providing a dual income even though he is not there- you do not have to combine bringing his income with providing all emotional support for your children, when you are not there because you are busy doing the former. Also, it's fun to have a cosy weekend with your DC without hubby (because he is providing the money elsewhere for you to have the cosy weekend), and have the knowledge that next weekend - when you want him to do the tesco shop while you clean the house then all go to visit Santa or whatever, your kids won't be sat in the house all day or dragged around tesco because you can't be in two places at once and the rest of the week you are in work so can't do it then, and nobody cares or notices, but you have to care and notice everything your child does. No breaks. You are so patronizing. Enjoy your star fishing in bed and stop comparing it to being a single parent.

YetAnotherUser I prefer casual sex to a relationship I just don't have it to give yet until possibly ds is say 16. I may still be of the view that it isn't worth getting serious with anybody then either. Who knows. I can well understand you missing the casual relations. It is much easier than investing one's emotional energy in one man. I love making my own decisions and planning my schedule with nobody to answer to beyond ds and his general stroppiness (he is preteen).

Having said all of the above I hope you are happy and am pleased somebody has moved on and we aren't all longterm spinsters! Not that there is anything wrong with that either but somehow society expects us all to move on and get hooked up with another man asap which is just plain daft to my mind.

Apologies if going off the point of the thread. :)