To refuse my 9yr old a FB acc,even though her 9yr old friends have one?

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There seems to be a lot of bitchiness going on,on them and to be frank,don't want my daughter to participate.

god 9 year old girls can be horrible enough to each other without facebook!!!

YANBU

my DD is 8. she wont be getting fb until she is much much older. probably 16, but then i am dead strict and she knows i mean it, so wont bug me if i say no!

Course not, 'AWWWW, but all my friends have them' is the oldest trick in the book

You're saving her from all the shit that goes with it so doing her a favour.

Stick to your guns! I teach in a school where 7 year-olds have FB accounts, and I think it's wholly inappropriate. My DD is nearly 10 and it'll be the 12th of Never some time before I allow her to have one.

I've banned myself from Facebook. I'm 35.

Oh I've seen their accounts and looked at their unsecured pages.
I have a feeling their parents don't supervise whats going on there either.

I thought Facebook had a minimum age of 13?

I agree with you. Don't let her have an account.

SimplySoo I wouldn't care if min age was 6,shes still not getting an account lol.

yanbu.

DD1 isn't allowed until she's 13, has been begging for the last 2 or 3 years. I've stuck it out. Only problem is, she's 13 next month. Feck.

Alfalfa Oh shit. Get her to save her password so you can have a good snoop in case she forgets.

YANBU my dd is 9 and doesn't even really know what FB is.

YANBU at all, too much bitchiness with girls at that age.

I was horribly, horribly bullied at 9, can only imagine how much worse it would have been if FB had been about.

It's bringing all of the drama that goes on in school into your home as opposed to leaving it at the gates at hometime. Just my two cents.

We let ours have it last year. They were 14. They're currently on a ban!

Don't let her have it i always used to say would you jump off a cliff if your friends did it

Plenty of time for facebook when she is old enough.

13 is quite young enough imho. Dd didn't get an account until she turned 15.

not really appropriate for anyone still in primary school, hence their age limit.

More broadly this "tween" trend of trying to turn children into adolescents, when in fact they are two different life stages and one of the achievements of the modern world is to separate them from each other and adulthood, is not helpful for the emotional health of 8-11 year old primary school children IMHO.

My dd doesn't have one and she's 12. I've said she can once she's 13, though I do know younger kids who are on there.

YANBU please don't let here,myDD 12 and not on dispite 2 years of all her friends being on it. Causes so many arguments in my experience

YANBU
Given how incredibly stupid Y5/Y6 girls can be only to all be friends 5 minutes latter. Sharing their callings out across the Web for all to see is definitely not wise.

Oh pooh sticks, fucking auto correct

YANBU - I have refused my DD (9) too.

Mainly because of a "joke" one of her friends had made on FB recently in regard to rape

as somebody else said you don't want the bitching coming into your home and afterschool do you , It can be a PITA sometimes,

one day people will wake up and abandon facebook.
you are right not to allow your child on there. make starting age 18! and before then, train her to take the internet with a pinch of salt...

YANBU! My DD who is 8 started to use my skype account a few months ago and was perfectly happily chatting to friends. Wtihin an hour there was enough vitriol on a chat thread to make your toes curl. Vile vile language, bullying etc and this from a bunch of 8 or 9 yr old kids. I took a transcript of the 'chat' to school and the relevant children were talked to about how to behave online. My daughter was no angel but did come out worst in the whole thing.

She asked me a week later if she could have a facebook account. I turned on her, gave her my death stare and hissed 'ssssssskyppppeee'. She paled and returned to Moshi Monsters...!!