To refuse my 9yr old a FB acc,even though her 9yr old friends have one?

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There seems to be a lot of bitchiness going on,on them and to be frank,don't want my daughter to participate.

Because he can not spell or read

just like most of the people who spend all their time playing games on Facebook then

[whispers] some friends of mine made a FB page for their baby...

So what about when he can?

yeah, what tantrum said....at what age will you remove his access to Facebook?

Then he will have had plenty of experience knowing that I will check on him every 2 minutes

It will be a long time yet before he knows his password and email address

If I knew your sons name...I would report his account to the High Priests of Facebook

Ok,if you honestly think its appropriate for a 6 year old to have an a social networking site meant for adults then I give up, I really do.

But at least your coins are safe, that's clearly the most important thing.

Mine have got it (9 and 6) ,we moved area and they keep intouch with their old friends on it. All posts on their wall come to my phone via email,they arent allowed to add people,no one can search for them unless they are my friend first and their ages are locked down as tight as mine is which is very. DD2 plays games on hers but dd3 doesnt go on hers often. My grandchildren have them so their families can see pics of them without my dd1 having to be their friends and therefore them being nosy as to her business ;0)

At 6, they do not need to be responsible for keeping in touch with anyone, it's your job.

Starmaker thats what that penguin thing is for. My dd has it because she moved schools.

ALL you can do is play games and choose for a selection of sentences, ie. How was your day? Would you like to play noughts and crosses, I like your igloo etc. When they get older, you can relax the settings so that they can cant to their friends, but by then I don't think she'll be bother with it.

EVERYTHING they write, read. do etc is sent to your inbox, not that they can do much there than earn coins and buy stuff for their penguin. i believe moshi monsters is similar. Why don't you look at that? Im sure your dc would like it more than Facebook as its made for children.

I shall look into it ,thanks .They also keep intouch with family in Germany/Spain and talk via skype ,they are never unattended ,Ive been around on the internet for years I know the risks

But children do not wake up on there 13 birthday and suddenly be safe on the internet it takes time for them to know what they can and can't do.

The fonder of facebook belives that young children should have Facebook.

Key phrase there
made for children

There's a good reason you have to be 13 to have FB, IMHO it should be older.

It's not age appropriate for a 6 year old

The founder of Facebook is a fucking idiot then, have you actually seen the things that 11 and 12 years old use Facebook for?

It's a social networking site, it's about meeting new people, do you think at 8 or 9 they have the maturity needed to use Facebook in an appropriate fashion??

And if you believe you will be monitoring every activity, that's fine.
Are you also monitoring what their "friends" are doing?

They are removing the age limit arent they??

its like having their ears pierced ,each to their own ;0)

To be honest I'm not surprised the founder of FB thinks they should have it. he would, wouldn't he?
Doesn't make it right. There are sites aimed at kids. FB isn't one of them. You teach them what they need to know using other sites. If you judge at 13 they are still not ready then they don't get an account. For me, the minimum age is just that, a minimum. Not the age at which they are automatically set up with an account.

I could give a flying pig what most 11-12 year old are putting on Facebook, I couldn't give a shinny shit.

I know 100% what my son is doing online, he has 2 friends on Facebook who are my niece and my nephew ( which my sister has full control over there accounts)

If parent do not supervise there children online it is there fault not mine.

Having their ears pierced as a baby is completely different to having your daughter run away with a man she "met" on Facebook.

Having their ears pierced is completley different to having your dc bullied online and children making Facebook groups about people they don't like.

Having their ears pierced is completley different to your FB receiving obscene messages from their friends and thinking they have to post sexy pics and be judged on how hot they are at 12 because their friends are doing it.

My 14yo DD has had a fb account since she was 12yo. However, access is strictly controlled by me, she ONLY uses the laptop in the front room ( where I can supervise her), she isn't allowed to accept ANY friends without my permission, and I have her log-in details and can log in as her, and check her account at any time. She also HAS to keep me on her friends list, and keep her privacy settings on the ones I put on there. So far, she has kept to these rules to the letter.

Fb is great for her to keep in touch with her cousins, who are spread from Cornwall to the top end of Scotland, and IMO, provided you follow the rules I do, then there's no problem with fb.

But if the parents don't supervise their children online, you cannot restrict what they send him and post to him.

Obviously not now but when he is 11.

And the fact you don't give a shit what other children are doing on FB is exactly the reason your 6 yo should not have an account.

McHappy trust me, whatever setting you have on there are useless, Facebook has gone mad recently, everyones complaining that their privacy setting have altered etc etc. in addition, your son is playing in an adult game, with sometimes very adult adverts flashing at the sides.

If he has his own account, you must have lied about his age, don't think for a second he hasn't noticed....so now he knows its ok to lie about your age on the intent. Bravo McHappy

I do the same thing with my 14 yo, cardy, because I know exactly what her friends are up to.

She has always kept to the rules.

At 14, it's nice for them to keep in touch with friends and the majority are mature enough to understand how to deal with unwanted attention, to ignore and report cyber bullying etc.

At 9?
I doubt it.