To refuse my 9yr old a FB acc,even though her 9yr old friends have one?

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There seems to be a lot of bitchiness going on,on them and to be frank,don't want my daughter to participate.

And no, I don't sit on FB whilst my DCs are sitting with me, I hate FB.

I mumsnet on my phone, at work, and at home.

Funnily enough, none of my DCs have a mn account though.

Why does this bother you to the point of a Tantrum, Tantrum?

You don't want your dc on FB: fine. Very sensible decision if you don't think you can supervise them there adequately.

McHappy, starmaker7 & I find it perfectly workable.

I can tell you one thing, as a year 7 tutor - it ain't the accounts that kids have with parental knowledge & supervision that cause the problems.

So you see everything on FB do you?

You see messages from one friend to another about your dc?
You see every single wall post, status update, picture that their friends post?
And when they hit 9, 10. And have more friends?
You'll see everything then?

And it is lying, you are pretending your Dc is 13 when they are not.
And you are trying to justify that?

Shame on you.

star lying about your dcs age and creating an illegal account on Facebook is against their terms and conditions....you don't give a shit about those???

Again could someone answer this
Nobody is addressing the fact that when they are old enough to know that they shouldn't have had those accounts as very young children...that their parents lied about their age to get one....what example will that have set? For all age restricted activities, especially when it comes to the internet??

YANBU OP. I agree with you. There are many reasons - b**ching and bullying just two of many - why FB doesn't allow accounts till age 13. (I even feel 13 is a bit too young).

I didnt spell actually wrong my l button isnt working unless I bash it!

I really do not care, but if people are telling me that rules should be followed then that applies to themselves as well.

I am now going to hide this thread as it clear that it is going no where.

McHappy I have not called anyone any names? So why not answer my question?

omfg so shoot me ,do you not have anything else to worry about than what other people let their children do? Am hurting you no ,am I hurting my children no ,is no one allowed to have a difference of opinion to you ?

My 14&13 yo are on FB, like I said in the knowledge I check it.
At 13&14 they have learnt about Internet safety, they have a level of maturity to cope with the inappropriate language, sexually references, and rumors on FB, a 9 year old does not.

That's why the age limit is 13.

I have seen first hand the damage FB causes to children of 10,11 who's parents think think they are supervised and safe.

Thankyou Raven ,neary missed your post there ,I'm finding this all rather odd!

I just find it hilarious that people will fight a corner when they know its rather questionable and ignore the points that people make?

When he asks why I set it up I will tell him, it was for him to play games nothing else.

And you are potentially hurting your dc, yes.

Like I said. Look into the dangers of so called safe accounts of 10 year olds.

Then tell me it's safe.

'Nobody is addressing the fact that when they are old enough to know that they shouldn't have had those accounts as very young children...that their parents lied about their age to get one....what example will that have set? For all age restricted activities, especially when it comes to the internet??'

I'm happy to address that one. One of the first things any child needs teaching about the internet is: don't ever put accurate personal details on a website unless it needs them to provide a service to you.

We're all using pseudonyms on here, last time I looked...& FB has historically had a 'not available to U13s' disclaimer because it makes its data protection a faff otherwise.

Yes its very odd that some peoria think its wrong for a 6 yo to be on FB.

that doesn't really answer the question....are you suggesting that lying and claiming to be older is a good lesson to teach a child about internet usage?

When he is watching porn, that will be ok cos he is just watching, even though he is 12.

They are my children and I am happy with my choices ,in the grand scheme of things and life in general there are worse things than a child having a fb account .

Hi, you are completely reasonable!!!!!!!!!! The world is going crazy with all this technology. I have heard cases like yours before, and one particular one where the parents are dreaming of going one year to middle east for work so their daughter will forget everything about facebook!!!!!!! They gave in because all her friends have it, and now it is a great problem for them. Do not give in, it is not good for them, and you have the perfect reason: it is not legal.
Be strong.

No, it's absolutely fine to think that it's wrong for a 6yo to be on FB.

I wouldn't give an 11 year old a fancy phone, but lots of people do.

We can disagree without you getting quite so het up, surely.

Yes there are many many worse things that can happen as a result of having a FB account when not mature enough and when you have a profile page telling people you are older than you are, quite a lot older it would seem.

Well Santa is not real, the easter bunny is not real the tooth fairy is not real and many other examples of lying to your children.

Why not just tell them the truth because if you have lied to them about characters what else are you going to lie to them about

I'll be teaching my child that Facebook, alcohol and sex, amongst other things are best enjoyed when one is of the correct age.

I will also be teaching her that saying she is older than she is to 'the internet' is a terrible idea.

'that doesn't really answer the question....are you suggesting that lying and claiming to be older is a good lesson to teach a child about internet usage?'

Yes.

Not specifically 'claiming to be older', but making up all personal info, absolutely.