To refuse my 9yr old a FB acc,even though her 9yr old friends have one?

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There seems to be a lot of bitchiness going on,on them and to be frank,don't want my daughter to participate.

I'm het up because I have seen the damage it causes and people refuse to acknowledge the actual real danger, and just say i don't care

I do care, I see this shit all the time but no, let's pretend it's ok.

Raven but that is the personal info that is being falsified here, no? and that is the info that the dc will realise has been falsified once they are old enough?

And yes, a 5 yo believing in Santa is exactly the same.

I'm sorry that you feel that way ,Ive also seen what trolls and liars can do on forums and fb ,its not nice thats why I protect my children and yes I google their names and check fb for pages groups etc just in case as there are some spiteful nasty people out there .Not just on the www but IRL too

But so have I.

& it seldom occurs when children have been taught to use the internet under supervision & with a cynical eye. Much more common when they're naively using an account their parents don't know they have, & that they can't discuss with them for that reason.

^^that was for Tantrum ,damn you fast typers ;0)

Well Santa is not real, the easter bunny is not real the tooth fairy is not real and many other examples of lying to your children.

Are we really comparing this to a child being on Facebook?? really??? I genuinely don't know how to respond.

Which I'm fine with, thatisall. I use my own judgment re: film certificates on DVDs too -I've vetoed U certificates & allowed 12s, based on my knowledge of my children.

I'm perfectly happy to tell them that dh & I decided we were OK with supervised access to FB below the official age.

Raven, sorry that's not true.

A 9 yo can't cope with any of this adult stuff regardless of whether is a supervised account or not.

And you cannot know everything that goes on, no matter how you try.

And the fact you try and find out so much is because you know DC is too young for FB

Sorry but I do know this.

I dislike the assumption that those children whose parents have not allowed encouraged to lie on the internet by setting up an underage Facebook account will certainly be lied to by their dc.

they only have to wait til their 13....not long

What adult stuff? I'm logged into my ds's FB account atm, as it happens, because I'm curious to know what you think he might be exposed to by his uncle, his grandma & a select handful of family friends.

Last activity was 2 weeks ago, when he 'liked' a lego Ramones video I posted on his wall.

My dd is 9yo, yanbu at all my dd doesn't have an account either yet her mates do.
I don't think she is mature enough yet tbh and there is too many things i would rather she didn't get into for example; bitching, bullying, being groomed and sometimes unsavoury images can be found on there if 'liked' by other 'friends' of 'friends'.
It has an age rating of 13 for a reason so my daughter will not have an acc until atleast 13

Oh & a few days before that he & BIL had a conversation about who has the smelliest socks. I'd say BIL, definitely.

Is it only children who have had fb from a young age that will lie to their parents then ?

I'm wondering what adult stuff too Raven ,my statuses dont go on their wall ,all they tend to do is join together pictures of themselves and their bffs with glasses on ,cartoony type pics?

No one said DCs that had FB from a young age would lie to their parents, it was the other way around, those of us who don't let children under the legal age have FB will be lied to.

Not IME starmaker7.

One of the usual things I have to deal with with cyberbullying in my form is '...but I'm not allowed FB! I can't tell my mum I'm being bullied, she'll go ballistic about me having an account'.

I pray to god FB and the like will have died a death before my currently 2 yr old DS shows an interest.

Steer well clear OP. it's full of shows off and idiots posting either incomprehensible drivel or banal observations on their tedious little lives.

Nice for baby photos of course.

(sorry sm7, that was to yours of 23:23! Fastmoving thread!)

Yes at 6 they clearly won't have many friends, not many 6 yo are on FB.

But they will get older, still be under the legal age and have more friends.

I'm not being funny, do you parents with 6 yo FB users have pre teens, 11,12 on FB as well?

Do you know what goes on?

Oh not as someone said ^^ they don't give a shit.

I've seen them. On accounts with high privacy settings. And the damage it caused.

it is lol I cant keep up

tar no it isn't, but nobody is implying that are they? They are however implying that if parents prevent children from having FB until the required age, then they will get one anyway and probably won't be able to talk openly about things to their parents.

That is quite a generalisation wouldn't you say....I would never make a generalisation the other way.

star not tar

I teach 11 & up & know exactly what goes on.

Which is why they need to know about safe internet use younger than this.

Doesn't have to = allowing them on FB. My first post on this thread was to OP saying yanbu, don't allow this if you aren't comfortable supervising it.

I don't understand Puffpants. Your FB page is full of people you allow there, it's easy to avoid the drivel. Open forums like this are a different matter.