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Was I unreasonable here.

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Yummymummyyobe1 · 04/06/2012 21:45

I was going to name change for this but don't think it is necessery. Anyway here goes.

My DP, me and our DS1 live in quite a nice area. We are on first name terms with the three neighbours to the left of us and are quite friendly you know the sort of thing popping in for a cuppa, and neighbourhoog get togethers as well as lists of contact number and spare keys to one anothers homes.

Anyway to the right hand side there are how do I put this delicately?? a couple of properties where the famliy's/tenants are less then salubrious police visits are numerous and their genral behaviour is frightful for example their children seem to think it is more than acceptable to trespass on private property by climbing over the wrought iron work and playing chase across the four front gardens.

So today my DP and his father popped out for an hour whilst I stayed in with our DS1 whist he napped. Anway the door bell went and as bold as brass a member of the family to the right had the audacity to knock on the scrounge. We had just had a delivery of baby related items a new supply of nappies and formula you know the sort of thing. She stood on the doorstep and asked if I had some spare baby formula and nappies as they were sort this week. I politely said we didn't (a small white lie a know) anyway after this she stood there and asked if I was sure, as we have a small baby ourselves. At this my blood began to boil a little as no should mean no and not a chance to negotiate.

Anyway after storming down our front path and slamming the gate closed I overheard her say something about people like them. Ha what a nerve I think she has that very wrong and how we would help the people to the left (which I would as they put their famlies and children first).

The reason I said no are as follows:

  1. They all have mobile phones
  2. Most of them smoke
  3. They always have a drink in their hand
  4. Have Sky

under normal circumstances not an issue but if you can not afford to look after your child then some if not all the above are not needed, and surely any parent would put their child first before luxury items.

Was I unreasonable to turn her down based on the above grounds or should I have helped?

Thanks xx

OP posts:
xkatyx · 06/06/2012 21:33

Wow I have read a good bit of these thread and a bit Confused at the replys!!

The op pointed out that they can afford "luxury" things that not everyone can, and If they cut these down then maybe they wouldn't find them selves short every month!!

If my neighbours behaved like this towards me and was so rude in asking I would proberly do the same!! And it has nothing to do with class.

Personally if I had to ask neighbours for nappies or milk I would be completely embarrassed!!! Fair enough everybody finds them self short and a knock on the door saying "I'm sorry to bother you but I have run out of nappies/milk could I borrow one till I pop to the shop" is fine!!!
But she sounded beyond rude like she for some reason expects to be given everything!

I have neighbours like this who drive me nuts!!

TantrumsAndBalloons · 06/06/2012 21:35

"can I have a pack of nappies?

"no but I can give you a couple to tide you over if you need them"

How hard is that?

A simple, random kind act.
Even if it is for chavvy neighbours who are clearly eligible for milk tokens, and social services intervention cos they run out of nappies.

JambalayaCodfishPie · 06/06/2012 21:35

if that is the case then why did our other neighbours and ourselves have a lovely day having a delayed street party in the garden and are all off out for the day on Friday.

I was talking about the posters on here. Not your neighbours.

TantrumsAndBalloons · 06/06/2012 21:36

And op tbh, all this drip feeding is ridiculous, it doesn't say in your first post it was a pack.

I'm struggling to believe this

Yummymummyyobe1 · 06/06/2012 22:21

xkatyx my point exactly.

TantrumsAndBalloons I should have seen beyond the edge of my nose on this case rather than being outraged at being asked for a pack. My mood was pretty foul anyway feeling poorly and tired. Sorry I did not give all the details in the original OP but I was typing faster than I was thinking (if that makes sense)

JambalayaCodfishPie sorry cross meaning there. I would like to invite you all to my post party party Wine and cake for all.

xx

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Yummymummyyobe1 · 06/06/2012 22:24

usualsuspect thank you I don't tend to take offense easily and I don't see the point in getting angry. After all I asked for peoples opinions and that is what people are offering.

xx

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RachelRagged · 01/05/2017 20:48

What a cunt . . IF you are for real hang your head .. So to make your stuck up point you punish the baby ?

Hate people like you , ,you and your nice area !!

RachelRagged · 01/05/2017 20:49

YummyMummy . .Tells me a lot about you with that .

SmileEachDay · 01/05/2017 20:50

Zombie thread

JesusInTheCabbageVan · 01/05/2017 20:53

Zombie zombie zombie.....

WorraLiberty · 01/05/2017 21:05

Wow! That was a blast from the past Shock

Motoko · 01/05/2017 21:48

It was featured on Mumsnet Madness today, so that's probably why it was bumped.

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