Was I unreasonable here.

[Yummymummyyobe1]

I was going to name change for this but don't think it is necessery. Anyway here goes.

My DP, me and our DS1 live in quite a nice area. We are on first name terms with the three neighbours to the left of us and are quite friendly you know the sort of thing popping in for a cuppa, and neighbourhoog get togethers as well as lists of contact number and spare keys to one anothers homes.

Anyway to the right hand side there are how do I put this delicately?? a couple of properties where the famliy's/tenants are less then salubrious police visits are numerous and their genral behaviour is frightful for example their children seem to think it is more than acceptable to trespass on private property by climbing over the wrought iron work and playing chase across the four front gardens.

So today my DP and his father popped out for an hour whilst I stayed in with our DS1 whist he napped. Anway the door bell went and as bold as brass a member of the family to the right had the audacity to knock on the scrounge. We had just had a delivery of baby related items a new supply of nappies and formula you know the sort of thing. She stood on the doorstep and asked if I had some spare baby formula and nappies as they were sort this week. I politely said we didn't (a small white lie a know) anyway after this she stood there and asked if I was sure, as we have a small baby ourselves. At this my blood began to boil a little as no should mean no and not a chance to negotiate.

Anyway after storming down our front path and slamming the gate closed I overheard her say something about people like them. Ha what a nerve I think she has that very wrong and how we would help the people to the left (which I would as they put their famlies and children first).

The reason I said no are as follows:

1. They all have mobile phones
2. Most of them smoke
3. They always have a drink in their hand
4. Have Sky

under normal circumstances not an issue but if you can not afford to look after your child then some if not all the above are not needed, and surely any parent would put their child first before luxury items.

Was I unreasonable to turn her down based on the above grounds or should I have helped?

Thanks xx

I'd probably have given her a couple of bottles worth of formula and a couple of nappies, but made a bit of a song and dance about it, and make sure she knew it was a one off.

As if...xx

God bless you OP.

I personally have never done a day's work in my life, smoke, drink and watch Jeremy Kyle and I PERSONALLY ensure that my benefits come from YOUR tax deductions.

It'd make you sick, wouldn't it?

Well - starving that baby will teach a lesson won't it

Well done you

How big is their tv though?

Don't come on here giving us half a fake story

I don't care if to don't like them, you could have helped their baby.

I'm going to give up work and move in to the left of the OP.

Once upon a time...........................................

Oh, sorry, wrong thread. Perhaps.

1. They all have mobile phones - Who doesn't?

2. Most of them smoke - Doesn't mean they can't accidentally run out of nappies on a Bank Holiday weekend

3. They always have a drink in their hand - How else are they supposed to hold a drink?

4. Have Sky - Yes, they should ring Sky now and cancel this month's subscription...explaining that they ran out of nappies and formula on a bank holiday weekend. I'm sure the very nice people at Sky will get some delivered

Piss off usualsuspect I already live there with my 29 children.

I've already given up work and rented (through benefits) the house next to OP. The sky dish goes up tomorrow.

Why did you have formula delivered if you never use it?

You use formula

I'm sorry if people are finding it hard to swollow but there are no urban myths here. As far as I'm aware there are no young baby's in said house the youngest is a toddler so DS nappies would not fit anyway. I just thought it was rather odd and off hand to call when there is no relationship of any kind between the said family and ourselves.

LOL usualsuspect

I'm going to smoke in the garden of my new house and flick my fag ends over her wrought iron railings.

Ignore me! Bit pissed and misread a post.

I wouldn't have said no, I couldn't let a baby lie in piss & hungry.

Was it the first time she knocked to ask for help?

Yes, I absolutely hate helping people unless I have known them personally and they are of the same class as me.

I have to get my class-o-meter out in order to ensure they are suitable recipients.

If the lady had been wearing Boden, would you have handed over the goods?

I bet they were going to snort the formula...

Can someone mend the roof?

Something's dripping on me....

Oh please! Take your judgey pants off OP! You are assuming that the benefit scrounging Jeremy Kyle generation 'neighbours to the left' are soo beneath you that you won't offer an olive branch compared to the neighbours on the right. Yes so perhaps saying yes once opens a door for continuous 'begging' but surely offering a mother a helping hand is the 'neighbourly' thing to do!? You don't know the background as to why she may need some bits. If this was a regular occurrence then yes I would understand your perspective. However, as a seemingly one off YABU. You've clearly never had the mis fortunate of being down on your luck!

We have to use formula at the moment QuickQuickSloe as I have been quite unwell the past week and have been on various antibiotics and also DS is a very very hungry baby.

Soooo

It now turns out they don't even have a baby, so they wouldn't need the formula and the nappies wouldn't fit anyway?

Errrr doesn't that point to the fact they probably needed it for someone else's baby who is visiting them?

Perhaps the parents forgot the baby bag with the nappies and formula in?

Either way, it would have nothing to do with your neighbour's drinking, smoking, mobile phones or Sky TV!

Jeez

What?!? Why would they ask you for formula and nappies if their child was too old for them?

Stop being weird.