Co-sleeping what the big deal?

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excluding you're not drunk of course,

I am actually quite interested I hear snippets of that is quite controversial

was watching breakfast the other day about controlled crying and how one mother did controlled crying from birth nad her kids were never allowed in her bed I was quite [:o]

Why do a lot of people disagree with co-sleeping ?

My co-sleeping is becoming an issue now as my toddler is 2 but the size of a 4 year old. but other than that I'm actually relieved I didn't pace the floors.

AIBU to wonder why co-sleeping is a controversial issue.

I meant :o not grin.

I don't know about 'a lot of people' but, as a noisy sleeper and having a baby that's a noisy sleeper, sleeping in the same room meant we spent all night waking each other up for no reason. IME it's 'baby sleeping in the next room' that seems to be the more controversial choice. :)

No idea. I've never co slept and I'm glad of it. I'm far to selfish to share my bed, that's my only space away from ds.
No problem with anyone who does co sleep though. Different strokes for different folks and all that

Don't know why it's an issue. Each to their own.
I was co-sleeping before it had a name.

I've never co-slept. My DS sometimes gets in bed with us for half an hour in the morning that's it. I would never have been able to sleep with him in bed with me all night.

Each to their own though.

I'm too lazy to pace the floors I need my sleep as ds stopped napping in the afternoon when he was 1! argh.

I saw a TV debate on it once and I couldn't believe the venom the poor speaker received from a studio audience. Everything from cot death to mental illness was blamed on co-sleeping.

Both my children slept with us until the age of 3 (child 1) and 2 (child 2). I hadn't planned it, but I was scared to just dump child 1 in a cot by herself when I got back from the hospital, I used to carry her around all the time as well (in a sling) when I was doing household tasks.

Both kids are now teenagers, obviously still alive and with no personality disorders so far as I can tell!

It's because it's too complicated to tell people how to do it safely, so HCPs are instructed just to tell people not to do it at all.

Plus the fear that you'll never get them out of your bed. Yeah, because you can imagine them phoning you from university saying "Mum? I just need a little cuddle :("

Ohhhhh I so want a snuggly newborn to co-sleep with and carry around in a sling :(

It's a big issue because we are generally very keen to get our children to learn to cope by themselves - settling themselves to sleep, not extended bfing etc.

There is a lot of hysteria about co-sleeping and that as usual is mostly down to ignorance.

I guess you've just got to do what works best for you, the safest way possible.

beingfluffy I've never co-slept but never ever dumped my DS in a cot either

Each to their own and trying not be judgemental but in my (limited) experience, friends who have co-slept have had real problems getting their children to self-settle - two of my dearest friends still have issues getting their children to sleep - at ages 9 & 7 - they wake every night and come into their parents' room. One friend has never had a full night's sleep since she has had the children.

I am probably biased as I put my DS in his own room from the day we got home from hospital and he never had a any problems getting to sleep on his own - probably just pure luck .

I don't see where 'not co-sleeping' = 'pacing the floors'

I've never brought DD into bed with me. I've never paced the floors. She has her own little bed, which she seems to love, and when I put her down into it, she does a weird sleepy grin and wriggles like mad as if she's snuggling in.

The reasons I have never, and never intend to, co-sleep are:
(1) I am a restless sleeper - I like pillows, duvet, rolling over to get comfortable
(2) I am a worrier - I would NOT sleep, as I would constantly be checking DD hadn't wriggled to the bottom of the bed etc
(3) I have tried really hard not to get DD into 'habits' that I eventually come on here looking for solutions for - she doesn't get, and never has been, rocked to sleep, never needed to sleep in my arms, I have, thankfully, taught her very very early on how to fall asleep herself. I have never left her to 'cry it out' because she is able to fall asleep herself without crying
(4) I like the thought that if Nan babysits or I go away for a weekend, her sleep is not affected by that 'crutch' not being there
(5) I love my bed, and always have, from being little. I want DD to feel that same about her little space.

Yeah, 'co-sleeping' as a term is up its own arse.

Sometimes DD sleeps in her cot, sometimes she sleeps with us. Depends if she needs us or not.

It's no biggy

My ds is in his own room I would be too scared to put them in their own room from day one though lol.

well I co-sleep when he wakes up lol.

gnocch I have never 'paced the floors either'

I like cosleeping as I have a newborn but havent got out of bed once since she has been born 7 weeks ago. Im lazy and dont want to get up at night

Coslept with dd1 to and now she is 4 and sleeps 12-13 hours a night in bed at 6 every night and we have had noisy parties in our flat with her in the next room and she never stirs.

I co-slept and paced the floors. Do I get a medal?

I wouldnt have minded a bit of pacing the floors - think of the calories

I have always co slept, I did when ds was tiny use towels instead of pillows for my head but that was the only change I made really. Unless he could touch me ds refused to sleep and even now he hardly sleeps at all so it works best for us.

Lots of 'rod for your own back' views around imo, but I don't tend to talk about our kids sleeping in our bed (just dd now) so I wonder if it's a lot more common than the doomsayers think
Also a lot of strange views on your sex life
People are just nosey!

Lots of 'rod for your own back' views around imo, but I don't tend to talk about our kids sleeping in our bed (just dd now) so I wonder if it's a lot more common than the doomsayers think
Also a lot of strange views on your sex life
People are just nosey!

There isn't one,
DD2 would BF and fall a sleep next to me.

DD1 would formula feed, and sometimes co- sleep more often she didn't because she was a terrible fidget.

I have never ever considered it necessary to think deeply about it. We simply did what let us all get some sleep.

Like wise both our and their bedrooms were at 20°C not 18°C because we all preferred sleep to being cold.

The huge fuss about co sleeping really broke out after DD2 was tiny and as far as I can see if you don't drink and don't smoke it's a ridiculous fuss over absolutely nothing anyway.

When I had DS my mother said to me "Don't take him into bed with you, you'll never get him out, your cousin didn't leave his parents bed till he was 10!"

Well I sat and thought about that one morning while I was desperately trying to get DS to sleep, and realized that the fact that said cousin had an alcoholic abusive father may have had more to do with him sleeping in bed with his mum till he was 10 than the dangers of co-sleeping did.

Brought DS into bed with us and couldn't be happier. Except now he likes to spread right out (he's only 5 months) and gets cranky when I cuddle him in the night, so it might be time to try him out in his own cot.