to ask if you smack your children?

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I am not talking beating! Just a smack on the hand or bum when they are being very rude or naughty.

Nope, never.

No never.

No.

Me neither. Have confiscated stuff though and my first step has a dent in it

No never.

Yes I did. Smack not hit- big difference IMHO

Why?

No

I think people that do occasionally give their kids the odd smack will not admit to it on here.

No.

No.

Yes. I don't feel great about it, and usually I do it when I'm tired/stressed and wound up by their behaviour.

I've never smacked my youngest though, he's 2.5yo and so chilled out. I probably worry more about not smacking him than I do about smacking the others, I fret about favouritism, and having higher tolerance levels for him, but I do honestly think that he's a much easier child to parent. If he was my first born, I could answer your question with a smug 'no'.

No, i dont hit people - would be most odd to make an exception for little kids.

No, never. I think children should have the same right not to be smacked as adults do actually.

Absolutely no. I think it is ridiculous to teach children that hitting people is ever ok.

Yes, for something dangerous. It's not something I feel the need to justify

I am asking because I have done it in the past (albeit very rarely) and wonder if I am the only one. Like you say, not hitting, but one smack.

No difference between smack and hit apart from in the mind of the person justifying it.

How is it going to help the situation?

No, never. There in lies the way to ruin. I think if I lost it that much it would terrify them. I don't want my children to be frightened of me as I was of my mother. I expect good behaviour and I explain to them what that behaviour is. Yes, sometimes it doesn't quite work out like that...but that is what warnings and the thinking corner is for.

Respect is to be earned. How could they respect me if I hit them? Also, how can I tell them not to hit etc if I did it myself-bit like telling them not to fucking swear?!

Yes. When she was pre verbal. Probably about 3 or 4 times. Not a big deal.

no. and I really mean that.

3 children and have never smacked and never would. I was smacked as a child and don't think it did any harm at all (physically or psychologically) but think its just totally wrong and goes against anything you would want to teach a child.

no my little ones get freaked out even by shouting, they cry when mr t comes on tv. i must admit I'm a soft touch, anything for the easy life.

No, never. How is teaching them that is it ok to smack (and they don't really understand to what level) when someone is being naughty but no doubt go mad/smack them again if they did it to someone they felt was being naughty? It confuses them, and is hypocritical.

There are many far better ways to discipline a child and teaching them actions have consequences without the need to raise a hand.

I see hitting as multiple smacks and hitting, to me, is much harder than a smack.