AIBU to be incensed by this pregnancy announcement on FB?

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Acquaintance on FB has just announced that she is " gunna be a mammy for the first time!!!!". She was with the father for 2 weeks and he is now in jail. She says as far as she is concerned her baby "dusnt av a daddy". She has been in her job for 4 weeks. 37 congratulations on her status so far. AIBU to be totally incensed that this is seen as acceptable and something to be congratulated?

Rabbits agree

Well if her DP is in jail that is his fault not hers

why are your pregnancies more valid then hers just becasue they had a better start

YABU im afraid.

I had hidden this thread but I wanted to add a quick update. Just cant help judging a bit more. Apparently the father could be the one who is now in prison or her ex fiancé, DNA test pending.......

She's telling all and sundry on Facebook that she doesn't know who the father is... and there's a DNA test pending...?

Since when could they carry out DNA tests in utero?

I thought you had befriended her?

I suppose by your logic it would be ok if it were the ex fiancé as then the child was conceived in a long term serious relationship? And I presume he's not in prison?

May I suggest you watch Jeremy Kyle? There is so much "fodder" there for you to feel superior about you'd just love it. Your mouth would be so cat's bum your lips would stick together permanently!

Then perhaps you could write a letter to the daily mail about what the world's coming to.

She has said words to the effect of - criminal dad is saying baby not his, who knows, could be ex fiances, we will find out on June something - I don't understand the june bit, she is due end of the year? I don't need to watch Jeremy Kyle, obviously???

Thought you deleted her

Again, still fail to see how you found all this out if you are no longer friend's on Facebook. And as has been said several times on this thread, if it bothers you that much, why don't you just ignore?!

I think she's winding you up.

June will probably be the dating scan, though why if it winds you up so much are you interested.

I have deleted her, someone else who knows her has text me as she thinks the whole thing is really sad too She isn't winding me up, I haven't spoken to her or had and contact with her for 16 months and live in a different country, why would she bother? Far from being incensed I am now simply bored and will do as you all suggest and ignore it in future.

Your so bothered by the life of someone you haven't seen for 16 months? In that case I suggest you get a life!

It's sort of admirable that you came back to this thread op considering the almost universal response you got, but I'm just wondering why you had to come back to add this information? Did you expect us all to say "well that's alright then, if she doesn't know who the dad is then everyone should tell her to get an abortion and not offer her congratulations".

You seem determined to make us all agree with your judgemental pov, why can't you just accept that in this case most of us won't?!

Yes, I never had an accident either, in spite of being a tad forgetful with my OCP. Turns out I had a duff ovary. Clever me.

Poor girl, yes the situation is probably not ideal, but how many of us have had much loved and cherished babies in less than ideal circumstances? I know I have. She doesn't deserve your scorn and derision, and actually it's not her sexual practice you object to is it? If she hadn't got pregnant you wouldn't give a monkey's who she was 'shagging' as you so eloquently put it. You're just worried where 0.000001p of your taxes is going.

I hope this girl gets the support she needs from her real friends and experiences all the joys motherhood can bring. I am sure it will be the making of her, I don't believe there is anything more formative.

DNA test pending?
Yeah course it is.
Us chavs are forever popping into Boots and using our points on DNA tests.
'Celt when we get them free with four cans of Red Bull.

Well. A relationship broke up and she had a fling on the rebound with an unsuitable man (as we so often do), and is aghast to find herself pregnant and alone, thus turns to her facebook friends for support? It's possible that until she gets her dating scan that she won't know who the baby belongs to, as is the nature of an unexpected pregnancy at the point of one relationship ending and the other starting.

You can either choose to make it a scandal and gossip with your friends about her, or have nothing to do with it if you feel so strongly about it, and I know which I'd chose as the better person.

Personally at the very least I'd feel sad that she was in a difficult situation and perhaps offer any advice I had, at best I'd offer her the support of a friend, perhaps my experience just makes me see things differently to you.

Actually none of the op's taxes will go on her anyway because she lives in a different country apparently.

"I'm told accidents happen, I'm 34 years old and it has never happened to me?"

Indeed, I've never been to Australia , I'm always skeptical when people tells me it exists. (!)

I actually pity you, going by your posts you are obviously very ignorant to the fact shit happens sometimes.

Why don't you just delete your entire Facebook account? There isn't any point having it if it's just for the pleasure of sneering at acquaintances.

Seeing as most of the sneering was related to the father in prison you should be pleased it might be her ex fiancées.

I think it's a good idea to have a DNA test in a lot of situations where an accidental pregnancy occurs from a short relationship. It's no reflection at all on the mother and everyone knows where they stand, and she won't have to put up with years of sneering and gossip either. Good for her for being responsible and having the test.

In fact I wish I knew who she was so I could offer my congratulations.

So you obviously have told everyone your opinion as now people are txting you with the latest info for u to judge some more?

Pull ur pants down a little op your judge pants are up so high u have a camel toe

You sound more ferrel every message

YABU, better watch you don't give yourself a wedgey? (sp?)
My mother had me at 17 her relationship with my dad didn't last the pregnancy her subsequent boyfriends have ranged from junkies to peodophiles (tbf she didn't know this until after she found out I had been abused) we never had 2 pennies to rub together.

Yet here I am with a decent job, I own my own home I'm in a decent marriage (we have our problems but good overall) with two beautiful polite well mannered children.
My point is don't assume the child will be doomed just because of its circumstance!

OP has a point; made up women are getting themselves pregnant all the time. It's appalling.

When will it end?

My mum's fruend's daughter just had a baby. She is young, a bit of a tearaway, and is a bit "text speak" so we were all a bit concerned as to how she'd cope we she announced her pregnancy, especially as she had recently seperated from the father (before she found out) because he had started to show signs if violence (sensible girl).

However, her news would never have been treated by anybody we know as anything but a cause for congratulations.

During a pregnancy she met a new man who seems absolutely lovely, she has had the baby now and is breastfeeding (not that that should matter, but I bet the op being judgy and having never had a baby will probably have opinions in this too) and coping far better than I did with a newborn, despite being woken at 2 hourly intervals at night.

So don't judge a book by it's cover. If this girl had met her new boyfriend before she found out she was pg, she would be in the same situation.

I assume the 12 weeks thing is because if she can date the of more accurately, she will know who the dad is. Which implies that she didn't quite hop into bed with the new chap quite as quickly as you presume.