CCsgirl, you might be 'intelligent' enough to see that this is not an ideal situation for a baby to be brought into, but you seem to be lacking in a lot of other very desirable qualities.
Look, I agree with you to a certain extent. For me, personally, having children in wedlock after I'd graduated from university, experienced a little bit of life, had met the right man, settled down and was well and truly financially solvent was the only way to do it. This is right for me.
However I wouldn't deign to suggest that this is the only right and acceptable way to do it, and that anyone who doesn't live up to my arbitrary set of values is somehow lacking or a failure.
You lay claim to intelligence, but as I say, not to many other qualities which are equally, if not more important. Tolerance. Acceptance. A lack of judgement. Empathy. Someone who extends the hand of friendship or support.
I understand what my2centsis is alluding to. I'd rather be friends with someone who was open-minded and friendly and accepting, than with the sort of person you've painted yourself as on this thread - disapproving, righteous, judgemental. You come across as unhappy - many people who have to big themselves up and sit in superiority on others often are. People who genuinely live and let live are generally happier in themselves.