AIBU to be incensed by this pregnancy announcement on FB?

[CCsgirl]

Acquaintance on FB has just announced that she is " gunna be a mammy for the first time!!!!". She was with the father for 2 weeks and he is now in jail. She says as far as she is concerned her baby "dusnt av a daddy". She has been in her job for 4 weeks. 37 congratulations on her status so far. AIBU to be totally incensed that this is seen as acceptable and something to be congratulated?

Why does it bother you so much?

Incensed? Seriously?

YABU and also very judgey.

YANBU they should be lobbing bricks at her.

I suggest you delete this person if they cause you this much rage.

Poor woman. Acceptable or not it has happened, and she'll need all the support and encouragement she can get.

I wouldn't be impressed if it was my daughter, I'd hope she'd be more sensible than to get herself into what will be a difficult situation, but a baby is always a lovely thing.

So would you prefer her to have an abortion against her will?

YABU.

One of my friends is the mother of a child who's dad is in prison. She had him put there after he beat her up while she was pregnant with his child. I think she is very brave.

If you don't like this person's status updates why don't you just unfriend her or hide her posts instead of being judgemental and nasty about her.

not enough going on in your own life, op?

It's up to her whether or not it is a thing to be congratulated, and as she is posting the news on FB rather than running to an abortion clinic then it is fair to assume that yes, it is to be congratulated.

It may be far from (your) ideal, but there are far worse things people can do than have a baby.

Well I can't judge, I was pregnant 10 weeks after meeting DH and we are very happy 7 years later.

She sounds thrilled about the baby and a baby is innocent and new, so don't judge too fast, unless of course, you are perfect yourself.

Well it's not exactly a great situation for an innocent little baby to be born into, but perhaps the congratulations are from people who are willing to support her. This is something she will inevitably need.

You being incensed and denouncing it as not acceptable is hardly going to help matters is it? Have you considered being there for this person, instead of judging her?

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YABU, it must take a strong person to put a brave face on such a difficult situation

What is it exactly that annoys you?
That she got pregnant straight away?
That she has a crap choice in men?
That she can't spell?

If she is happ then be happy for her. Her life isn't exactly going to be a bed of roses from now on.

Sigh... 'dusnt av a daddy'.. yes I'd be incensed too

She is clearly thrilled about the baby,she is a 20 year old girl who shags some waste of space and accidentally gets pregnant. She is not and never was in a loving relationship and can't support a baby financially. I pity the poor child. Why is it unreasonable to be angry that this is seen as acceptable? She is now deleted. Plenty going on in my life, but as a reasonably intelligent person I can't help but wonder how we got here?

lol, i agree OP, some people dont have the common sense they were born with

there was a similar one on another forum i was on, kept getting up the duff two mins after meeting, then being shocked when it didnt work out and she was left holding the (poor little) babies.

hey ho. i guess the babies will grow up with the same lack of common sense and so it goes on. I dont get incensed, couldnt really give a stuff, but do feel a tad sad for the poor kids

I imagine those who've congratulated her are responding to the fact that she sounds happy about being pregnant and are therefore happy for her.

The other details of her life are none of your (or their) business!

YABU. I was a wayward teenager when I fell pregnant, drink, drugs and smoking. Father fucked off sharpish.

I found myself a job, gave up all the drink, drugs and smokes. Buckled down and tried my darnedest to do right by my boy. I've raised him for the most part by myself. Worked my backside off to give him a stable home and a loving environment.

If anything all the likes are a good thing, if she's anything like me the support she receives will get her through the harder moments of single parenting. Her past actions are no reflection on how she will be as a mother.

I'm not surprised you are incensed. Deliberate bad spelling pisses me off too.

Well the spelling and phrasing would grate with me but not the pride and joy she is taking in being a mother. I was pregnant when I didn't plan to be. It happens to a lot of people OP. One day it might happen to you. Maybe restrain your puritan urge to purse your lips?

YABU to have a friend who uses text speak.

She's a 20yr old woman...not a girl.