AIBU to be incensed by this pregnancy announcement on FB?

[CCsgirl]

Acquaintance on FB has just announced that she is " gunna be a mammy for the first time!!!!". She was with the father for 2 weeks and he is now in jail. She says as far as she is concerned her baby "dusnt av a daddy". She has been in her job for 4 weeks. 37 congratulations on her status so far. AIBU to be totally incensed that this is seen as acceptable and something to be congratulated?

Bloody hell . MN is horrible at the minute

Time for a break I think

OP YABFU

Be careful perplexed, you might be accused of making a "massive leap" (not by me).

Perplexed pirate, you are a faceless name on an Internet forum, I don't care whether you like me or not, it's irrelevant to me. Maybe we could wish young women would think twice before shagging around without a second thought for the consequences?

I have come to realise its not this girl that has caused me to be angry and sad, it is society.

It's easy to judge the young pregnant woman. It's easy to have a knee jerk response. It's easy to feel superior when comparing your own life to that of someone who wasn't as canny as you.

It takes strength of character, guts and dignity to show compassion and kindness for people like the young pregnant woman.

OP, if you waited until everyone was employed full time AND in a committed long term relationship before having children the population would decrease alarmingly.

And the blokes? What do you wish they would do?

You don't quite get my point about accidental pregnancy and fertility, do you?

arthurfowler is right. Also- like I said before, instead of being angry at her, save some of that anger for the bloke who got her pregnant and ended up in prison. At least the pregnant FB friend is taking her motherhood seriously and sticking around to raise her baby.

When is "society" going to stop blaming the single mothers who bravely raise their children and start blaming the irresponsible fathers who bugger off?

So rather than waiting until people are in committed long term relationships it's preferable that children are conceived in short term casual relationships rather than have the population decrease?

Horrible thread

Ayerobot, if course I get your point, you are suggesting I am infertile. Thank you for that.

Where does the 'shagging around' come in? The woman in the case - she IS a woman NOT a girl, had a relationship. That relationship ended. He is in prison. She hasn't said she doesn't know who the father is. She's said he's not going to be in their lives.

You're not really angry or sad though, Are you? It's very clear you take great pleasure in judging this woman and others like her.

I can't imagine what it must be like to have such an empty life that I would need to think badly of others to make myself feel superior.

Just remember that you're not untouchable CCs, Life could slap you in the face at any moment and you could be the one being judged.

No,OP, not preferable at all, but accidents happen and you can't bend the world or the people in it to fit your ideals.

Don't twist my words to change my meaning.

CCsgirl how are you going to cope if you have a DD or DS who ends up with a baby outside of a committed relationship?

Are you going to hoik up your judgy pants or are you going to support them?

Ayerobot was pointing out that you don't KNOW you've avoided pregnancy through 'skill' or through other biological issues - which could apply to either or both of you. You aren't alone in that. The same applies to everybody who has remained non pregnant when that was their wish.

This WOMAN has been in work for 4 weeks. She was with the father 2 weeks. I have obviously said enough. Goinv now to ponder whether the fact I have never had an accident means I am infertile as suggested. Serves me right I suppose.....

CCsgirl I think you might need counselling if this makes you angry to this extent. People have always done things differently to each other, that's the way it is.

No, that's not what I'm saying. My point is that you can't be smug about preventing a pregnancy (when others haven't) when you don't know whether you actually are.

Just one reason why your sense of superiority is flawed.

in previous generations if a man got a girl pregnant he'd marry her and raise the child. now because of the welfare state these feckless fathers go off without a second thought or feeling responsibility

In previous generations bot the man and the woman would be forced to marry. Thank goodness we now have a choice.

Please don't forget the feckless mothers in all this too crescentmoon.

"I have come to realise its not this girl that has caused me to be angry and sad, it is society."

I think thats very true. It seems perfectly acceptable to have children with no means of supporting and no long term partner. Given contraception has a very low fail rate, use two methods together and the chances of an "accident" are very very remote.

YABU to have befriended her on FB in the first place but then I dont see the appeal in adding all and sundry in the first place.

No one is saying you deserve infertility, That's rotten.

I honestly hope that when you decide to have children it all going perfectly, It's a wonderful experience.

Children are beautiful, Innocent beings and should not be written off before they are even born because of their situations like you have done with the child in question.

Yes, so what you are suggesting is that perhaps the reason I have never been pregnant is not because I have been very careful but because I am infertile. You are splitting hairs. At least stand by what you said?

No. I am saying you don't know. So you are affording yourself an undeserved bout of smuggery.