Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

to be a bit sad for dd

290 replies

shopping81 · 16/05/2012 15:24

So there is a important football match coming up. DH is a big fan and is going. Unfortunately it is on dd's 5th birthday. She does not want to go. So now mil, fil dh and ds are all going to the football.
AIBU to be sad that everyone is going to the football on dd's birthday or am a being plb.

OP posts:
upahill · 16/05/2012 18:20

I didn't suggest that I merely said as a five year old that's how my brain would work come his birthday.

I don't understand how you would know that for sure.
No matter how you try to imagine it you are still viewing things with an adult perspective.

upahill · 16/05/2012 18:21

Got you Pullupapew!

PineappleBed · 16/05/2012 18:21

I don't, I merely suggested that's how my brain would have worked as a five year old

tyler80 · 16/05/2012 18:23

I don't remember whether my dad was there when they cut the cake at my 5th birthday, I don't remember whether my mum was either. I presume one of them was, however I was sat in the car outside sulking after throwing a strop about something or other Grin

I think having a fun day minus her dad and brother for part of it is fine, I doubt she'll remember the detail in years to come.

GrahamTribe · 16/05/2012 18:24

JosephineCD, I don't think it's the CL Final, hence my comment above. Assuming that the OP is in the UK the chances are the family would be away from home for more than 6 or 7 hours if it was.

PineappleBed · 16/05/2012 18:25

It's all down to whether she cares or not. OP has she said anything or is she just being "yay it's my birthday" normal child and you're adjust a bit sad (oh and in the spirit of the board YANBU to be a bit sad, it's not like you've demanded everyone not go or anything).

PineappleBed · 16/05/2012 18:25

She = DD rather than op

gordyslovesheep · 16/05/2012 18:28

yabu - have a nice breakfast and do something the day after - she will not explode

purplesel · 16/05/2012 18:41

YANBU - I always came/come second to my fathers plans(football, pub, DIY e.t.c) on b'days and other special days - and when it happened this year at the age of 32, it still hurt like hell.

My mum and other family/friends always do there best and I love them for it- but I hate my birthdays with a passion because everyone else's kindness is overshadowed by the fact he doesn't give a toss.

If I were you - I would make it very clear that if he skips this then he better be prepared to spend at lot of time making up for it.

Original poster
shopping81 · 16/05/2012 19:08

Hi. dd was upset when she was 1st first asked/told.
Although seems ok now.
Match is playoffs for promotion to league 2 I believe.

OP posts:
Original poster
shopping81 · 16/05/2012 19:13

O and no he won't be at birthday party. Won't be home from work in time.

OP posts:
bruxeur · 16/05/2012 19:13

Oh ffs, it's bloody pub league as well.

There might be a smidgen of comprehension of it wasn't a bunch of fat biffers kicking each other for 90 minutes.

bruxeur · 16/05/2012 19:13

of=if

PullUpAPew · 16/05/2012 19:15

Oh, play offs for promotion to league 2... not quite as important as some of the suggestions upthread!

bruxeur · 16/05/2012 19:16

I mean, you can see that down Chip Alley every Saturday night. And there won't be as much hair-pulling and handbags.

Havingaminutespeace · 16/05/2012 19:17

I have a soon to be 5 year old, and a football fan DH. I'd be mightily pissed off with DH if he decided to up and take half the family off to the football on the day of his birthday.
In fact, I'd be more than pissed off, I'd be steaming mad!
Couldn't give a flying if it was the most important match of the season or whatever, you do not all up and disappear at the expense of your child's birthday tea!
Nice to know where his priorities lie. Sad

iguanadonna · 16/05/2012 19:22

I wouldn't let them go. Not a chance.

Mrsrobertduvall · 16/05/2012 19:27

I don't think dh was there for everyone of dcs birthdays...wasn't a huge problem.
I do think some people are over reacting.

ilovesooty · 16/05/2012 19:28

When my friend's team reached the play off finals (for the Premiership) he sent his wife and daughter on holiday to Spain and followed them the next day.

Does this mean he's a York or Luton fan and he's planning on being at Wembley?

A child's birthday tea doesn't have to be on the actual day.

ilovesooty · 16/05/2012 19:30

Oh ffs, it's bloody pub league as well.
There might be a smidgen of comprehension of it wasn't a bunch of fat biffers kicking each other for 90 minutes

If you're not a football fan you just don't get it.

Get0rfMoiLand · 16/05/2012 19:32

Promotion TO league 2? So they are not even in the league yet?

Oh yes really important once in a lifetime match, that. Watching Chippenham United V Mansfield or something. Grin

bruxeur · 16/05/2012 19:32

And thank Christ for that.

Of course, no-one on the gaping lacuna side has actually tried to explain it either - could there be a reason for that?

purplesel · 16/05/2012 19:32

Sorry - this touched a nerve and I may have been slightly melodramatic. But I still think YANBU.

And even at 5 I think your daughter my find it odd - especially as so many other family are going.

Ilovedaintynuts · 16/05/2012 19:33

I wouldn't mind, I would make the birthday celebrations another day.
I think people are far too precious about birthdays, even with their kids.

ilovesooty · 16/05/2012 19:35

Promotion to the league is quite a big deal. Both York and Luton have waited quite a long time.