to be a bit sad for dd

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So there is a important football match coming up. DH is a big fan and is going. Unfortunately it is on dd's 5th birthday. She does not want to go. So now mil, fil dh and ds are all going to the football.
AIBU to be sad that everyone is going to the football on dd's birthday or am a being plb.

GetOrf you are not taking this seriously, clearly this match has the power to inspire a generation, to lift the nation's spirits etc etc

two thoughts from me -

1 - you will be able to make it a nice day for DD still
2 - your DH is a dick... not for going to the football per say, but for not WANTING to be with his DD on her birthday, and for taking her brother with him - I would be seriously pissed

I think people are far too precious about birthdays That's exactly what my DH's parents have always said.

He doesn't visit them much, cos they are miserable sods who can't be arsed to make their own kids feel special

Just because it isn't premier league doesn't make it less important. Lower league supporters tend to be more loyal anyhow. I don't see what league it is makes any difference at all. The question is whether he should miss his dds bday or not.

The felt right when I typed it, but actually just looks wrong at the end of that sentence (sorry DH)

HOld on, DD was asked and didn't want to go. She can have a lovely day with her Mum and a family celebration later.

No, I completely agree. It is just as important as the intergalactic final between Spartak Betelgeuse and Ursa Major Wanderers. ie not at all.

No I am not taking this seriously - I am sorry.

I actually think the lower leagues are all right - I went to watch a League 2 match just before christmas and it was great fun.

But I can't imagine traipsing along with the rest of my family on my dd's birthday.

I don't think it is a problem being excited about a child's birthday. It's not precious. I imagine those who think kids are spoilt re birthdays today probably had decent birthdays themselves. It is shite to have your birthdays considered as just another day when you are grwoing up I think. It is only one day a year to me made to feel special.

Dare I say 'Come on you Hatters!'

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Of course the match is important. The OPs daughter can have a nice day on Saturday and then a proper party on Sunday.

It wouldn't bother me, we tend to celebrate birthdays on the weekend before with family/friends and maybe have another small cake on the day. We have both worked on all the dds birthdays. If its a school day we wouldn't see grandparents etc on the actual day either.

It is just as important as the intergalactic final between Spartak Betelgeuse and Ursa Major Wanderers. ie not at all

It isn't important to you. Just as you are entitled to feel this way, others are entitled to feel differently.

But they're wrong. I know this is difficult to deal with, especially if you invest a great deal of time, money and emotional energy into an obsession, but they're wrong.

Wrong in your view

Yes, she was asked and didn't want to go. Because it is boring and shit to her and all normal people. I can imagine this conversation...

DH: Do you want to come and watch me play Dungeons and Dragons on your birthday?
Me: Umm, no.
DH: You were asked, therefore my work here is done.

People on MN can be so miserable and mean about birthdays and Mothering Sunday and Christmas. Why can't people expect a little special thought? Especially a 5 year old, whose DF is taking her DB out on HER birthday.

I have never had a boyfriend who liked football. I must have subconsciously made it a pre requisite.

I just couldn't stand this kind of crap. I have a really good friend in a work colleague but he drives me batty when he starts talking about Suarez. I know far too much about Liverpool football than I ever want to.

YANBU to be sad, but if DH, DS, MIL and FIL are all fans then they should go.
Maybe its at Wembley and it would be a big thing for DS to go.

They can all see DD on her birthday before they set off, and you could plan a celebration for her on another day.

Games like this dont happen too often.. it will be a really memorable day for DS.. let him make the most of it and enjoy it to the max.

Tell DD she is so important her birthday is a sort of festival, spread over lots of days

I don't really remember most of my birthdays growing up. I don't see why it's such a big deal to spend time with mum on the day and have a proper birthday tea the next day.

No no! Just wrong, actually.

I'd love to hear the rationalisation though.

It wouldn't happen. DP wouldn't even try to put football before DS.

It's not rational: it's emotional.

And, as I said, wrong from your perspective

It's precious to want people to be at your birthday as a child but it's not precious to have your football matches take priority over everything else as an adult?

Not even going to attempt to explain why it's so terribly, terribly important?

Can't blame you tbh, Rebekah Brooks' lawyer has an easier brief.

But the birthday party doesn't have to be on the day. The date of the match isn't going to change.