to be a bit sad for dd

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So there is a important football match coming up. DH is a big fan and is going. Unfortunately it is on dd's 5th birthday. She does not want to go. So now mil, fil dh and ds are all going to the football.
AIBU to be sad that everyone is going to the football on dd's birthday or am a being plb.

Not every footballer is on a massive wage and if it is the sunday Luton game then these players are hardly going to be playing for the money.

It is all very well not liking football, there is no rule that everyone should but it is wrong to dismiss a whole profession due to the high profile goings on of a few.

I don't think so personally. The wages are far too high and the disgusting behaviour of a fair few high profile players reflects badly on the whole thing.

Same as the hooligans who spoil it for the nice fans. Tarnishes the entire thing.

I don't like football as it's shit, not because lots of players are cheats and rapists.

Of course it reflect badly but also a lot of good can come out of the high amounts some footballers are earning.

Just look at the work the Didier Drogba Foundation is doing and unlike the likes of Bono and Geldof he is using his own money rather than just hugging a starving africa child infront of a tv crew.

cowbag it's not shit. You find it shit. That doesn't make it shit.

I'm sure there's something you love that I think is shit but I wouldn't be so rude as to say so quite so bluntly to you. Because this football fan is not a hooligan

Hey, I admitted my view of this was unbalanced and skewed. I have no hesitation in saying I think football is shit to anyone's face, I do, frequently!

I also didn't say ALL football fans were hooligans, although I did expect someone to decide I had!

And saying I think football is shit is no worse than the chant in the stands to the opposing team of "you're shit and you know you are!"

Yeah. Whatever

Coz you know it's true!

No, I really can't be bothered to argue tbh. What's the point? You have made your mind up.

I'm not sure any of the players on Sunday will be highly paid, this isn't premiership or even close.

The match is late afternoon, if they are going from Luton you will still have the morning to do things, if they're going from York then it will be an all day thing.

I think then most important thing is to make sure that dh knows that even if his team lose then he is to be celebratory and upbeat with your dd about her birthday night regardless.

There's nothing to argue: I am entitled to think football is shit (and say so) and should not take priority over DDs birthday, you are entitled to think football is the bees knees and nothing should stand in the way of going to a game.

I am not going to suddenly "get" football any more than you are suddenly going to think it's shit.

You are entitled to think it's vair rude of me to say it's shit, and I am entitled to think that it's no ruder than the chants at the ground etc.

Exactly what I said at 13:03 cowbag

No you didn't you said you couldn't be bothered to argue as I'd made up my mind. Implying I was wrong!

Are you determined to have an argument with me cowbag?!

I said "You have made your mind up"

You said "I am not going to suddenly "get" football"

To me those are the same thing. Any implications you read into my words are yours not mine.

I don't think its healthy for children to get used to their actual birthDAY being a totally magical important day. I have a friend who's parents treated it like it was , everyone made a massive deal out of it, cancelled things, said how special it was etc. She's now 31 and still expects everyone to be available on the actual day and sees her arse if you have other plans.

I don't think it does any harm for kids to get used to the idea that sometimes celebrating birthdays isn't always going to happen on the actual day.

I said there was no argument

You said you couldn't be bothered to argue - which means you think there is something to argue about!

Not the same

Christonabike give it a rest!!

Seriously? YOU keep REPLYING to me! FFS

It is a bit shit

And it's really sad to tell someone to shut up because you don't agree with them! Just ignore my posts if you don't wish to engage with me!

I am. Because I'm hiding this thread before I say something I really might regret!

Like what? Seriously, I have said nothing that is unreasonable, I've just refused to be badgered into shutting up and agreeing with you!

YANBU OP purely on the grounds I am sick to death of football and severely outnumbered in this house with 2 DSs and a DH who are obsessed. I don't get why it takes priority, I really don't.

Football is never a good enough excuse to miss anything.

I don't think its healthy for children to get used to their actual birthDAY being a totally magical important day. I have a friend who's parents treated it like it was , everyone made a massive deal out of it, cancelled things, said how special it was etc. She's now 31 and still expects everyone to be available on the actual day and sees her arse if you have other plans.

Weirdly, this also describes my most annoying sibling, her birthdays are a nightmare as she flounces and wants such a fuss. Yet my parents didn't make a fuss about birthdays really, a normal amount but as I said upthread, my dad didn't give a monkeys! Only one of the three of us is like this, even though we all got roughly similar birthday treatment as children.

So maybe some people are just destined to be twats about their birthday whichever way you play it?

Maybe, but I still think its setting a child up for a lot of disappointment if birthdays are treated like the birth of an actual new Jesus Christ