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To think that I should complain about a teacher when DD (15) says no

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Menashaday · 12/05/2012 15:35

yesterday DD (15) reported that a teacher at school has stuck a plaster over her mouth because she was talking too much. There is a bit of history about being chatty in class and this seems to be have been jovial and light hearted. DD isn't upset or complaining and she says I shouldn't complain because things would be worse. The teacher also did it to a boy in the class and shouted at him when he took it off. Hence DD keeping hers on!

This feels wrong and actually that this teacher should not be teaching - she retires this year in any case.

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 17/05/2012 10:27

Noblegiraffe - my impression is that May is not justifying her son's behaviour (iirc, she did tell him to be quiet in class), and that the issue wasn't that her son was getting told off when he talked (which is legitimate discipline), but that when several children were talking, her son was the ONLY one to get told off - and that's what the other children interpreted as the teacher picking on her son.

noblegiraffe · 17/05/2012 12:42

Indeed, and usually children know bog all about behaviour management when applied to other students. I have had lots of experience of parents making the same complaint as May and in every single instance the child was being 'picked on' because they were misbehaving, and they were certainly not the only child being disciplined. I've had to explain to parents that other children in the same class had had detentions, phone calls home, been put on report, or that their behaviour was being managed a pay grade above mine and by different means. 'Oh, I didn't know that' the parent would reply. No, but you decided that instead of thinking that I actually knew what I was doing you would take the word of a kid instead of assuming professionalism on the part of the teacher.

As mentioned upthread, teachers really don't have the time or inclination to pick on kids and discipline those who have done nothing wrong. If your kid is talking in class, let the teacher tell him off FFS.

Sunscorch · 17/05/2012 17:14

Yes, & I would like you not to make sweeping statements on a public forum, but I guess that's not going to happen!

Sorry, sweeping statements like what?

Bigpants1 · 17/05/2012 18:24

Er, let's see...
" I'm pretty sure all uninformed opinion is teacher bashing."

Sunscorch · 17/05/2012 18:32

"I'm pretty sure all uninformed opinion is teacher bashing."

Quite aside from the fact that you've misrepresented what I said by switching the object and subject, that was a comment on the question of definition.

I've said all teacher bashing is uninformed opinion, on the basis that if it's informed fact, it's not "teacher bashing" but legitimate comment on an individual.

So that's no more a sweeping statement than is "All proper nouns are capitalised in formal texts".

Bigpants1 · 17/05/2012 19:30

Sorry, was chatting, so didn't hear you..

AgentZigzag · 17/05/2012 19:44

They are big pants aren't they?

No offence like.

Sunscorch · 17/05/2012 20:14

Absolutely amazing. And you're grown women.

AgentZigzag · 17/05/2012 20:17

And you claim to be a grown man.

Sunscorch · 17/05/2012 20:19

And you claim to be a grown man.

Well, not so long ago, my penis wasn't relevant.
Not sure why you're bringing it up now.

AgentZigzag · 17/05/2012 20:20
AgentZigzag · 17/05/2012 20:21

I'm not sure either.

AgentZigzag · 17/05/2012 20:22

Arf at your irrelevant penis though Grin

LineRunner · 17/05/2012 20:27

Penis??

Bigpants1 · 17/05/2012 22:10

If you are not sure re the relevance of your penis, I suggest, you pay better attention in the Sex-Ed. Classes...
And no, you Don't need the sticking plaster for it...
(double Arf at irrelevant penis).

Sunscorch · 19/05/2012 07:10

I'm sure you think all this is terribly witty, but I have higher expectations for the rest of MN.
I think they can see how ridiculous you're making yourselves look, just as well as I can.

shushpenfold · 19/05/2012 07:13

An entirely dangerous thing for a teacher to do in class...from her job security point of view. If it was either of my daughters who can deprive every donkey of its legs within a 50 mile radius though I would probably laugh and agree to take it in the manner in which it was offered....trying to use humour make a point.

mumeeee · 19/05/2012 12:25

A teacher sticking a plaster over a pupils mouth is very unprofessional. Some children do have allergic reactions to plasters. It is also very humiliating to the pupil. However if your DD wasn't upset and doesn't want you to complain leave it for now.

Bigpants1 · 20/05/2012 00:24

You were up very early today. Did you have lines for not paying attention in class?
Once theyre finished, there are several threads re teachers/schools on the Board at the moment, so better get yourself along there. There could be some punishments,(plaster sticking), to dole out for "teacher bashing."

Bigpants1 · 20/05/2012 00:39

Sorry, that was for Sunscorch.

Bigpants1 · 20/05/2012 00:44

AgentZigzag,
My mum says Im not allowed to go out with Nigel, cos he gave me nits! I like Billy now, cos he chases me in the playground & shares his play piece.
ps. I saw you picking your scab in Assembly when we was saying prayers-I'm telling. x

Sunscorch · 20/05/2012 10:21

You were up very early today. Did you have lines for not paying attention in class?

No, I was up to take my cubs on a scavenger hunt in London. But thanks for the concern.

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