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to not understand why people find out the sex of their babybbefore its born?

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ChaosTrulyReigns · 09/05/2012 13:40

Not judging, not sniping, just wondering.

Smile

I know we all do things differently and I like to live and let live and all that, but the emotions that I felt when finding out the sex of my baby after given birth were incredible and I can't imagine the emotions experienced when told at 20 weeks could in any way compare iyswim?

Obviously I understand sexing a baby if there's health implications. Smile

As I said I'm not judging or sniping, just genunely curious as to people's rationale.

Is it a bit like the Evervest attitude?

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HeathRobinson · 09/05/2012 13:41

Overwhelming curiosity! Grin

sparkle12mar08 · 09/05/2012 13:41

Because I'm nosy and a control freak and hate surprises! I can't imagine not knowing!

OneOfMyTurnsComingOn · 09/05/2012 13:41

I must admit, I wonder this too. I didn't find out with either DD, and won't this time.

MyNameIsntFUCKINGWarren · 09/05/2012 13:42

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Figgygal · 09/05/2012 13:42

Because its a surprise whenever you find out and finding out early is bloody practical Wink

whackamole · 09/05/2012 13:42

What is Evervest attitude?

I found out. Both times. Because I wanted to! It was amazing enough seeing another human being come out of my body, not sure how much more amazing it would have been to have not known the sex - either way, I would have been happy.

Tee2072 · 09/05/2012 13:43

Evervest? Do you mean Everest? Because it's there?

I don't know. I didn't find out 'til he came out. And then he peed on me.

True story.

Me: 'Is it Adam or Zoe?'

MW: 'Adam. And he just peed on you!'

Was a CS, BTW, good thing he didn't pee on my wound but on my sterile drape!

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kickingking · 09/05/2012 13:43

Because they can't wait?

I don't really get it either, didn't find out for either of mine.

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ChaosTrulyReigns · 09/05/2012 13:44

Warren. Are you a pyshcic? (however it's spelt?)

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Figgygal · 09/05/2012 13:44

Oh and if I hadn't wanted to know I would have been disappointed as DS was so obviously a boy that I'd seen his bits before the nurse pointed them out they were very obvious.

HipHopOpotomus · 09/05/2012 13:44

because there are 2 options, and everyone is different.

I'm with you totally though chaos re not finding out, but I understand completely why others will. People seemed very shocked I didn't find out at the scan about my 2.

DeathByChocolate01 · 09/05/2012 13:45

I don't have kids, but I don't think I would be able to wait to find out the sex - I would be too excited! I'm quite impatient when it comes to "wait and see" type things (I was always the one who poked and squeezed the presents under the Christmas tree!) and I think I'd want to find out as soon as possible because it would be like coming a step closer to "getting to know" my baby. And I think it would be nice to be able to refer to the bump as he or she rather than it, and come up with names and stuff.

signet2012 · 09/05/2012 13:45

I found out a few weeks ago. My main rationale for it was I have found it very difficult to believe I'm actually going to have a baby and for some reason felt the need to know if it where a she or a he. To make it more real to me I guess.
I was also panicking about names (Again, logic?!)
When I found out it was a little girl I was made up, and surprised due to the ratio of boys to girls being born particularly in DP family - only one girl in 50 something years.
I have a condition that is genetic, which is more prevalent in females. (nothing serious so was not a big part of the reason)

But mainly because I am nosy!

DP was wanting to know for financial reasons, (he thinks even some of the neutral items have a boy/girl vibe)

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ChaosTrulyReigns · 09/05/2012 13:45

Yup, Tee, "because it's there/because I can".

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gobbledegook1 · 09/05/2012 13:45

I did so I could but stuff that wasn't all boring white or yellow and because I'm impatient.

RunningOutOfIdeas · 09/05/2012 13:46

I don't understand why you would want to wait. I am nosy, but also don't see the sex as a big deal. At the 20 week scan I find out if pip has 2 arms, legs etc., so why not find out the sex too?

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Ramekin · 09/05/2012 13:46

I did the first time because I am impatient.

The second time I wanted to prepare DD1 and tell her she was having a sister, rather than just a baby or at least that is my excuse, not just because I am impatient

Pascha · 09/05/2012 13:46

I have no patience whatsoever. We didn't tell anyone else though. Also for DH to get used to it as he always thought he would have one sex and I didn't want him to be disappointed when faced with the other at birth.

Mrsjay · 09/05/2012 13:47

so they can buy gender colour clothes or just nosiness loads of reasons i was told DD2 was a boy from an ultrasound but that was years ago its all 4D now , i didnt bellieve them i liked the suprise ,

Ithinkitsjustme · 09/05/2012 13:47

I never wanted to know myself but think that if someone else wants to find out then that's their business. I can understand why they would want to for various reasons. Eg. financial implications, 2 bed house boy/ girl scenario. My own sister lives in Kenya and it is very difficut to buy things out there. She found ou she was having a boy so she could stock up while here on a break. I was desperate for a girl (everytime actually) and didn't want to know beforehand because I knew that if I was told at 20 weeks I was having a boy I would be disappointed, while I also knew that after I had the baby I wouldn't actually care. I'd just be delighted with whatever I got (and i was!). Lots of people thought I shold have found out because they thought I should prepare myself, not my choice, but obviously some other peoples.

Kveta · 09/05/2012 13:47

I found meeting my DS pretty emotional, despite knowing he had a penis 21 weeks before he was born.

I found out that he had a heart, and kidneys, and a brain at the 20 week scan, didn't see why not to find out what genitalia were hanging about at that stage too.

But I did have hideous pregnancies (am still in pg number 2, with a girl) and anything positive at 20 weeks was a good thing. It was a wee boost at a shitty (well, sicky) time.

As for all the 'we don't care what we're having, we just want a healthy baby' simpering from some people of my acquaintance - well, we were pretty keen on having a healthy baby too! And knowing what sex that baby is before said baby arrives makes precisely fuck all difference to how healthy they are at birth!

MoonlightandRoses · 09/05/2012 13:48

Two reasons:

  1. Finding out I was pregnant in the first place was a massive shock and I thought it might help with coming to terms with that (didn't really Sad).
  2. I am a practical soul and like prepping / planning (helped with that).
catgirl1976 · 09/05/2012 13:48

Overwhelming curiosity for me too. I am not good with waiting or patience

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ChaosTrulyReigns · 09/05/2012 13:48

See, I'm not a fan of blue for a boy/pink fur a girl stuff, so that didn't bother me in regrads to purchasing decisions.

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