"Rhubarb, why would you obviously draw a line for craps, does that mean those that don't are wrong? You've practically been saying that some more private posters are wrong to not want to do certain things in front of others as they are all just natural bodily functions to not be ashamed of. Why stop at craps and think that that is the correct way?"
Hownoobrooncow could you please tell me where I have been saying that some of the more private posters are wrong? Because I actually apologised to EasilyBored if I gave that impression and also gave quite a personal account of why my attitudes are like they are. If you are gunning for an argument then you are targeting the wrong person and you have obviously not read my posts.
I have asked why having a period was compared to toilet issues. Having a piss and a crap are toilet issues, but having a period is not. It is not the expulsion of waste as a result of the digestion of food as I am sure you are aware, it is the detachment of the womb lining. It happens only to girls over a certain age and it happens every month.
The reason I feel quite strongly about it is because in some cultures this is still seen as a shameful thing. Some women are not allowed out of the house when they are on their periods. That is why I believe it is important, to me, that my children see periods as an everyday thing that is no big deal whatsoever.
Some posters don't mind their kids coming in whilst they are on the toilet and I have to confess that this has happened to me once or twice when I've forgotten to lock the door. But I kinda go by the reasoning that if it is no big deal to them then it shouldn't be a big deal to me. I don't want to teach my kids to be embarrassed in their own homes in front of their own family.
That does not imply that those who are very private ARE teaching their kids those things. But in my experience, with my own mother, that's exactly what it did and that's the reason why I want to be open with my own kids.
MrsHels - I still don't like dh seeing me naked, but that's because he sees me in a different light to the way the kids see me. Children think nothing of seeing their parents naked and only know it's a big deal if you turn it into one. For me I realised just how normal it was when the kids would rush in to use the toilet when I was in the bath and would hardly pay me any attention at all. I then realised that my body was not under scrutiny and that it was actually rather nice not to feel shy or embarrassed in front of them. My 11yo dd still doesn't mind getting undressed in front of me and that is a great thing because at her age I was beginning to see nakedness as something shameful.
And Flump - I've got a bigger handbag 