to take the £20 my ds (8) found on the floor from him and give it to my dp

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I was out today with my dp and my three dcs. DP paid for us to go to a theme park and then have lunch; over £100. Not that he counts, but I do as I am watching my pennies at the moment and I appreciate how generous he is.

Walking afterwards on the beach my ds found £20 on the sand. As he was dancing gaily around waving it I whipped it out of his hand and gave it to my dp, saying that it was only fair we should do that as he had spent on us all day.

My ds was a gutted but I felt I could hardly not pass it to dp who had been so generous. He took it (reluctantly)but said that he would spend it next time we all go out.

I feel I was a bit mean to my ds. WIBU?

Yabu

It wasn't yours to give away.

Yabu if you had found it fair enough but you didn't.

Yep, totally unreasonable, it wasn't your money

It was your boyfriends choice to take you all out and spend over £100. What choice did your son have?

No I wouldn't have done it.

If you're not going to teach your DS to hand these things in (and that's totally up to you) then you should have let him keep it rather than give it to your DP who wasn't the one lucky enough to find it.

If you had found it yourself and didn't want to hand it in then fair enough...you would have been giving it to your DP.

But taking it off your son, just doesn't seem right imo.

god yes yabu! your dp was treating his family not something to be compensated for.

yabu on two counts. It should have been handed in, if not claimed it would be your DS's.

WHo should it have been handed in to? It was on a beach.

It was your partners choice to spend his money
Your son had no choice!

YWereBU! It was not yours to snatch and give away.

Yabu. My 8 yr old would have a hairy fit if I did that. If you felt awkward about your DP spending so much, you should have chipped in.

You could have just suggested to DS that wouldn't it be nice to give it to DP after he spent a lot, or that he could buy everyone chips or a cup of tea, but to take it was a bitU.

YABU to have given a £20 note that wasn't yours to your dp and he is also BU to have taken it.

What lessons do you think the pair of you have given your ds?

Whipping it out of his hand was cruel and I think you were totally wrong. Maybe if you had allowed your son to keep what he had found he would have offered it towards the day out anyway...

You need to get the money back and apologise to your son imho.

YABU - as Viva say - twice over.
If you find a £20 note, then the right thing to have done would have been to take ds to the police station and get him to hand it in.
When he got it back / or, as you didn't choose to follow that route, then it's his good fortune to have found it, so not yours to choose to give to dp or not.

Hand it in to whom?

That's what I was trying to say but BackforGood put it better than I did.

If you're going to adopt the 'finders keepers' attitude then you should stick to it...and allow whoever found it to keep it.

YABU

YABU - agree with the others..

x post. The police then? For £20 found on a beach? I think that is unnecessary and a bit precious tbh.

YABVU

YABU that was a bit mean I think.

bamboo some people insist their children hand in lost money/property and some don't.

But I think the point here is that as the OP chooses not to (and that's her choice) then she should have let her son keep it.

It seems you owe your ds 20 quid!

blimey girls - I haven't killed anyone! But I do feel mean. I will give him the £20.

Nearest police station was twenty odd miles away btw.