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AIBU?

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Original poster

to insist that DH takes tomorrow off

248 replies

iyoul · 15/04/2012 21:30

Have namechanged because I'm embarassed by the immaturity of this
DS doesn't go back to school until Tuesday so I'd asked my brother and sister who are both back from university at the moment to look after them. My brother and sister are both Tottenham supporters whilst DH is a Chelsea fan (I couldn't care less). We went to the pub to watch the game with a few of DH's friends as well. DH's team won and after it ended he started goading them even called them a couple of cunts.
They decided to leave and him and one of his friends suggested that they were off to make love to each other because that is what Tottenham fans do apparently, I briefly said see you tomorrow and my sister said fuck that we're not going out of our way to help him. We now have no childcare for tomorrow, AIBU to say that DH should take the day off to deal with it as he has caused this problem.

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t0lk13n · 15/04/2012 21:32

Yep he should....in fact leave the house extra early so he is stuck with him and he will have to sort him out. What an idiot over a stupid game!

scuzy · 15/04/2012 21:34

yabu.

was your DH drunk? sounds like an ass. this the norm with him? what is it about football that brings the assholes out in men! had an ex once who wouldnt talk to me for the whole evening and sat with a face on him like a slapped arse if liverpool lost.

he should def make arrangements, not you.

JollySergeantJackrum · 15/04/2012 21:34

yanbu. totally his fault.

Panamama · 15/04/2012 21:34

Your DH and his friends behaved appalling :( how horrible for your brother and sister to be sworn at and humiliated like that. Too bloody right he should be the one to take the day off.

minxthemanx · 15/04/2012 21:35

OMG you poor thing. How old are these people - adults, supposedly? Def make him take the day off - just get up and go to work early, and remind him that it's due to him being an immature arse that your poor DC have nobody to look after them.

scuzy · 15/04/2012 21:36

meant yaNbu! apologies.

remote · 15/04/2012 21:36

YANBU

Coconutty · 15/04/2012 21:36

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CalmaLlamaDown · 15/04/2012 21:36

Wow, how embarrasing for you. YANBU at all. Is your DH often like that?

ilovesooty · 15/04/2012 21:37

They all sound incredibly childish. Your husband was rude and provocative, but I don't think much of your sister's attitude either.

scuzy · 15/04/2012 21:37

and as well as take day off to mind ds, he should apologise to your sister and brother. i'd be mortified!

McHappyPants2012 · 15/04/2012 21:37

Yanbu, he caused the problem so he can sort it out

scuzy · 15/04/2012 21:38

why ilovesotty? should she have smiled and taken it? though i do get that she was letting them BOTH down, not just OP's DH with whom they had a problem with.

curiositykitten · 15/04/2012 21:38

No, you're not unreasonable to expect him to sort this mess out.

They were unreasonable, however, to leave you up shit creek just because your husband is a dickhead.

HateBeingCantDoUpMyJeans · 15/04/2012 21:39

Do you think they really meant it?

ilovesooty · 15/04/2012 21:40

No, she shouldn't have had to smile and take it, but she's now let both parties down when her sister (the OP) was totally blameless.

linioj · 15/04/2012 21:41

I would try asking them again, there is nothing more dissappointing than when your team loses heavily in a big game and to then have it rubbed in your face, however after a couple of hours their normality sanity should have returned.

scuzy · 15/04/2012 21:41

true ilovesooty i get ye.

mynewpassion · 15/04/2012 21:41

As if they wouldn't have had rubbed his nose in if Spurs won.

ENormaSnob · 15/04/2012 21:42

I wouldn't babysit for someone who called me a cunt.

ilovesooty · 15/04/2012 21:42

In the OP's position I wouldn't be expecting my husband to dump on his colleagues by taking the day off. I'd be expecting him to try to sort it out by aplogising to the people he offended.

Original poster
iyoul · 15/04/2012 21:43

He had a few drinks but he no he doesn't normally behave like this but I never go and watch football with him normally

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modelesque · 15/04/2012 21:44

Yanbu

Sorry op that it causes difficulties but good on your ds and db for refusing to help out, I'd be the doormat that would feel guilty for letting you down.

unuat · 15/04/2012 21:45

Am I the only one who thinks your siblings are in the wrong, it you agree to do something then you can't just cancel at the 11th hour because your team lost a football match and you got teased about it.

Metabilis3 · 15/04/2012 21:46

Leave the bastard. He's a Chelsea fan.