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AIBU?

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Original poster

to insist that DH takes tomorrow off

248 replies

iyoul · 15/04/2012 21:30

Have namechanged because I'm embarassed by the immaturity of this
DS doesn't go back to school until Tuesday so I'd asked my brother and sister who are both back from university at the moment to look after them. My brother and sister are both Tottenham supporters whilst DH is a Chelsea fan (I couldn't care less). We went to the pub to watch the game with a few of DH's friends as well. DH's team won and after it ended he started goading them even called them a couple of cunts.
They decided to leave and him and one of his friends suggested that they were off to make love to each other because that is what Tottenham fans do apparently, I briefly said see you tomorrow and my sister said fuck that we're not going out of our way to help him. We now have no childcare for tomorrow, AIBU to say that DH should take the day off to deal with it as he has caused this problem.

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wertio · 15/04/2012 23:24

Your DH has been a prize prick of that there is no doubt, however I think your brother and sister are also unreasonable to make you a piggy in the middle of this. The way they told you just to "fuck that" is pretty horrible IMO.

Bohica · 15/04/2012 23:31

Our company also have 3 emergency days paid carers leave per year so worth him asking what the procedure is for when one can't attend work due to calling his emergency childcare providers a pair cunts.

Pair of cunts?
Bunch of cunts?
Cluster of cunts?

I'm not sure.

ilovesooty · 15/04/2012 23:33

worth him asking what the procedure is for when one can't attend work due to calling his emergency childcare providers a pair cunts

Grin
M0naLisa · 15/04/2012 23:38

Did he get through to them?

Original poster
iyoul · 15/04/2012 23:45

No he hasn't, I suspect they are deliberately ignoring him and they won't answer if he phones from my phone either. Its too late to phone my parents to try and get them to talk to them as they will be in bed. I did ask them to stop but I accept I was not vociferous enough and that my see you tomorrow comment as they got up and left was ill-judged so I've left a couple of texts with friends who can hopefully bail us out.

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HotPinkWeaselWearingLederhosen · 15/04/2012 23:49

I suspect they will not answer as they are pissed of with your dh and think he will only be calling to try and get them to look after your dc's Sad

squeakytoy · 15/04/2012 23:50

which he is....

HotPinkWeaselWearingLederhosen · 15/04/2012 23:51

exactly.

Bohica · 15/04/2012 23:53

I bet You DB or DS call you first thing to reinstate the offer.

They will be pissed off with DH but will alos remember your DC will be wanting to see them and you have done nothing wrong.

That's as long as it's the first time this has happened.

I really would leave DH to sort it out in the morning though. I wouldn't want him to think it's acceptable behaviour especially towards your family.

Hope it all gets sorted.

nolito · 15/04/2012 23:54

I can't believe the casual manner in which the OP is addressing this, he has behaved apallingly to her sister and brother who I assume are both young considering they are both at uni. She appears to have just sat there and done nothing whilst this was going on and is more upset about her childcare arrangements ie. what she can get out of them rather than any personal hurt or upset this has caused them.

ealir · 15/04/2012 23:58

I don't understand why they are choosing to hurt their nephew in response to some fairly grubby behaviour on behalf of their sister's husband and his friends Confused.

Nyac · 16/04/2012 00:01

Sounds like your dh has something a bit wrong with him if he behaves like that.

Had you not realised OP?

musicmadness · 16/04/2012 00:11

I'd do exactly the same as your bro and sis. It wasn't friendly teasing about Chelsea winning, it was massive personal insults.

I'm a massive rugby supporter, so is one of my mates. We support different teams and are constantly teasing each other, especially when the teams play each other. Banter is one thing (and in good humour) but being called a cunt is just vile.

I doubt it is just your DH they are angry at by the way - you sat there and watched him insult them and did nothing. I'd be just as angry at you and definitely wouldn't be doing you any favours the next day!

tinkertitonk · 16/04/2012 00:25

What are you and DH doing with children? He sounds about 12.

WhereYouLeftIt · 16/04/2012 00:31

So OP, is he taking care of the children tomorrow or not? And does he still feel big and clever about calling your siblings incestuous cunts?

HotPinkWeaselWearingLederhosen · 16/04/2012 08:14

Who looked after your dcs whilst you were at the pub? Can they look after them?

fedupofnamechanging · 16/04/2012 09:21

If my husband spoke to my brother and sister like that, he wouldn't be my husband for very long. You sat there and let him do it. If I was your sibling, I'd have said 'fuck you' too.

You and your husband behaved atrociously and even now, you are concerned about losing your child care, rather than with your disgusting husband and the hurt and offence he (and you, by your silence) have caused your family.

Shame on both of you

Rosa · 16/04/2012 09:25

I just don't get it ... Never have, 22 men and a ball on a patch of grass and grown men crying when the team looses, fights over which team is best, hour long programs on the ref was paid/ biased/ an idiot . The coach should have done this / that ...Now insulting family members seems to be par for the course... Nope just don't get it .....

Mrsjay · 16/04/2012 09:28

what an arse him not you I hate football for this very reason . I dont blame your siblings for not baby sitting for you , how insulting I hope he took time off to look after his children ,

Mrsjay · 16/04/2012 09:30

in fact i think you behaved just as bad with not defeanding them this wasnt playful banter this was abusive language towards your sister all in the name of the friendly game of football Shock ,

doihavetonamechange · 16/04/2012 09:32

I know in black and white its shocking, but as someone who spent years of my life going to the football (sadly), its day to day banter in the pub after a game.
They were probably all as bad as each other and your brother and sister are out of line refusing to mind DS, its not his fault it is.

It sounds to me like they all need to grow up.

Mrsjay · 16/04/2012 09:35

My dad is into football scottish team and some of his language is awful Blush i just dont get it ,

PooPooInMyToes · 16/04/2012 09:38

What a twat! Yes he should take the day off work seeing as he called the childcare a cunt!

This is why i hate football. Blokes act like such idiotic morons about it

Merrylegs · 16/04/2012 09:39

Interesting debate on 5live now (if you can surmount Nicky Campbells' huge ego) about behaviour, language etc of football fans. 'The feral underclass' someone has called them.

Mrsjay · 16/04/2012 09:42

I watched one of those police programmes well Dh was watching , and they were at a staurday football match , the officer said you get grown men who are respectable all week have good jobs blah blah and turn into complete morons on match days !