to insist that DH takes tomorrow off

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Have namechanged because I'm embarassed by the immaturity of this
DS doesn't go back to school until Tuesday so I'd asked my brother and sister who are both back from university at the moment to look after them. My brother and sister are both Tottenham supporters whilst DH is a Chelsea fan (I couldn't care less). We went to the pub to watch the game with a few of DH's friends as well. DH's team won and after it ended he started goading them even called them a couple of cunts.
They decided to leave and him and one of his friends suggested that they were off to make love to each other because that is what Tottenham fans do apparently, I briefly said see you tomorrow and my sister said fuck that we're not going out of our way to help him. We now have no childcare for tomorrow, AIBU to say that DH should take the day off to deal with it as he has caused this problem.

And people who do it don't deserve to be employed.

i tend not to believe then coconutty.

besides what one person will take to the bed for another person will work through.

whats the weather like up there on your high horse ilovesutty?

I define "ill" as being unable to get up and drive to work.

The OP's husband, if he has to take the day off, should be using his AL, not adding dishonesty to his already appalling behaviour.

Get up early, leave the house before dh is up and leave him a note saying as you have messed up the childcare, over to you to sort out. One of three things will happen 1) He will take the day off and look after dcs 2) He will arrange for someone else to look after them or 3) your ds will turn up as planned and agree to have them after all.

But I bet you don't do that OP, I bet you sort it out yourself .

Shame.

Yanbu totally upto him to sort of he's in a fit state!

and thats what i said ilovesooty. he should take leave, NOT phone in sick.

I can only assume that people who stay off when they're not ill have no sense of responsibility to their colleagues, or have not experienced a situation like potential redundancy where sickness records are an influencing factor.

Yanbu your husband should sort it out. I agree he was out of order but I am still shocked that your ds has refused to babysit. I think parents are allowed x amount of parental leave in circumstances to arrange childcare. Have a look on the direct gov website or hmrc.

Sorry, scuzy - seems as though we agree on that point!

What are these jobs some people have where they can take a day off work with no notice? Your husband is an immature idiot but your siblings agreed to look after your children, not look after your husband. Why should they let you down? Also why do you need 2 of them to do it?
I would be angry with sibs and husband over this. I see no reason why you and the children should suffer due to it though.

Whilst I'm not pleased with either my brother or sister if DH hadn't started it it wouldn't have happened.

2rebecca- They do most things together, they are inseperable at times

FFS, what is it about football? Why can't people just realise its a bit of fun and get a life..? yep, a bit of banter goes with the territory - but why can't people take it for what it is - why do they have to go over the line into insults? If I were you, I'd be furious!

I have to say, calling someone a cunt is never acceptable IMHO and your dh owes them a serious apology. Likewise "joking" about incest. But on the other hand, your sister's not just letting your dh down, she's letting you down too - and that's not on either. Sure, they should be fuming with your dh, but it's not fair to take it out on you and your son.

But totally agree with you, the situation is of your husband's own stupidity making, so it's up to him to sort it out tomorrow.

Bang all their heads together I say (and that's just for liking football!)

Thinking about this OP couldn't you phone or text your brother or sister apoligising for your husband and emphasising how much trouble them not doing doing it would cause ( I know its not really your fault but you might them to change their minds).

Your brother and sister have let you down horribly IMO, they are cancelling with the intent of causing problems for their own family members because of something said to them. Its highly immature and irresponsibility of them

Did you defend/stick up for ur siblings/tell ur dh he was being a prick? If not then you're in the wrong as well and I don't blame your brother and sister for how they have reacted.

How would they have reacted had their team won ,would they have goaded and teased your DH, if they would have done then they are BU as they are being sore losers and taking it out on you. If they wouldn't then I still don't think they come out of looking good as they have decided to hurt you and your DS to get revenge at your husband.

I had never come across many Chelsea fans until I moved to an area of London that is predominantly "Chelsea"... and all I can say is, the vast majority of them are ignorant, racist, gobshite thugs. Men and women.

They are vile to anyone who is not a Chelsea supporter, and on match days, the sound of sirens racing to all the pubs in our area is a regular noise.

Can you not tell ask him to phone them and apologise, see if they won't change their minds? Or failing that phone them yourself and agree that he was a twat and couldn't they still help you out anyway?

What a pair of divas, their team loses they get a bit of stick and so they throw their toys out the pram and causes their sister a massive problem with next to no time to solve.

I cannot believe people are blaming the brother and sister here. If someone was goading me and called me a cunt, I would be very unlikely to want to do them any favours either!

yanbu and your husband behaved despicably, calling them cunts and making incestuest comments to them is vile!

your husband made this mess, he sorts it out and he dam well needs to apologise!

incestuous (sp)