to tell an elderly gent to f*ck off

[Helenfellows33]

i was on a family day out on a steam train and on the way home an infirm old man got on with his carer. she left shortly after and he was on his own in his wheelchair with me and my dh and dc's. this journey was about an hour long and ds being cranky started to cry. and the old man turned to him and shouted at him to be quiet boy. at this i told him to shut the fuck up and a list of words i cant mention here. dh backed me up although i was telling a friend later she said he was ok too this as he was old, we are now not speaking cause of this. AIBU for doing that to an elderly person.

So, you swore in front if your own child... Nice. But your saw fit to swear a torrent of abuse in front of other peoples DC? Disgusting.

If this sort if thing happens to you as often as you say then maybe you should think about how your family comes across to others.

I have found elderly folk to be the rudest group I have cone across, especially on public transport. They piss all over the teens round here in that respect, . But that is absolutely no excuse I am afraid.

Oh come on, OP.

You know perfectly well that you were completely and totally wrong to do what you did.

The elderly man wasn't right to do what he did but you didn't deal with the issue - you just went into a foul-mouthed rant.

If I had been in the carriage alone I would have intervened and told you to stop being so abusive to someone who couldn't get away from you. If I had been there with the DSs I would have gone for the guard and removed my children from the carriage in case they came in for some of your aggression.

YABU

Good grief.

People who confuse standing up for yourself with being an aggressive , mouthy, thick harridan are definitely on the increase.

I love the fact the OP sees no irony in her telling someone to shut the fuck up and yet bleats on that "no-one talks to my family like that".

Carry on the way you are sweetheart, and no-one will talk to your family at all.

Someone else mentioned how rude he was. Was this before or after the whole train was treated to yourlittle performance??? Stop trying to justify what you did, op, you are a bloody disgrace. (and your DS is two, so quite aware of how you behaved, and capable of copying it). Horrible.

(and yes, of course we believe you that your husband would have gobbed off even if the "elderly gent" had been a gang of teenage thugs with knives in their hoodies.

Keep trying to convince yourself.

Your poor children.

OP is one classy bird. Not. Vile behaviour on her behalf and a terrible example to her DC. Shame on you, OP.

You know what, this thread makes me feel rather better, about a time I got "carried away" earlier this week, and automatically told another child off for kicking.

I've been thinking all this week about how maybe I could have handled it better, because the other family didn't seem too happy about it.

But you know what, I didn't swear, raise my voice, or use personal insults once.

I feel much better now.

YABU. Have you not ever thought it may be a good idea to modify your language in front of your DC?

What a lovely vocabulary you are teaching them.

I generally try to avoid the horror of it in the main anyway, BigJessie, the prospect of happening across aggressive, mouthy harridans and curmudgeonly old men merely serves to reinforce my existing aversion!

You would not have been unreasonable to have calmly said to him "Please do not speak to my son like that" but what you actually did was dreadful. You sound like you then revelled in what had happened instead of being ashamed. I am sorry but I do not blame your friend for her reaction.

Very sad

Yes, YWBU...and I suspect you know that because this thread seems a bit sensational.

eugh! the pair of you (you and your dh) sound like you were dragged up by the back door of a pub. your poor son. expect meetngs with his head about his language when he is older.

You were U, your DH was U and the old man was also U.
Don't complain about others behaviour if you dish the same out yourself.
I would move away from the whole miserable lot of you.
Imagine being stuck in a carriage with you lot .

Is this a wind up ?
If it's true, all I can see is an old man saying 'be quiet' boy'.
Obviously a bit grumpy but a lot of elderly old men in wheelchairs are.
As a matter of interest what were the list of words you used that you can't mention here?
Tell us, we are allowed to use lots of sweary words on MN.

a list of words i cant mention here

Too explicit for MN? OP you're excavating unchartered new depths of expletives if that's the case. Little charmer aintcha.

Blimey. That's all.

Why do all threads about public transport lately seem to involve swearing at people in wheelchairs?

Yabu. Dreadful behaviour.

Or maybe this is a reverse AIBU and the OP is in fact the 'elderly gent'?