celia, glad its all out in the open -and agree with lots of posters you seem perfectly capable to me.. there is more to work than academic though, painting, doing up old pots or whatever and selling at fetes and ebay..am hopeless at crafts myself:) but just trying to say, not everyone is academic.
agree, enjoy your time with your ds, learn to drive, even at one of those places you go for a week and take the test- dh could look after your ds and bond a bit:) be nice for when ds starts school or nursery... sounds like you need some wheels! or you could get a bike for the summer, with a child seat, get out, make some buddies for yuou and ds?
agree too, its both your money. i am a sahm and i never feel bad about spending:) its not like i am buying lv shoes for trotting round the shops, just normal spending, coffee shops - teaching dc's how to sit nicely in cafes etc. hair cuts, etc accept the joint account, why not? and do the accounts for the home- out of interest, does he have an allowance to to spend and save the rest?
btw my dh works all hours and has been known to stay out til the wee hours. once or twice. i went ballistic as like you say its not fair on the dc's or me. he will do it again i know, but i am better prepared now, ie have a plan- get up, get kids out of house, turn off mobile, (empty milk down sink, thank you previous poster) go to activity or indoor soft play, lunch AND dinner out) plus buy myself something, a new book or magazine, or clothes. and of course, no horizontal jogging. for ages:)