to wonder why my neighbour needs so much help from her mum and dad?

[ssd]

my neighbour is married with 2 kids in school.

they family are fit and healthy (her words) with no underlying problems

they parents are, or at least seem, more than capable of looking after 2 kids

so AIBU on judging her on the amount of help she gets from her parents?

they are there every day, usually seperately, taking the kids to school, picking them up again, bringing in shopping, doing the garden, walking the dog, god knows what else

why do the parents need help every day?

why don't they want the in laws to get a sleep in/time to themselves and look after their kids themselves?

why do the in laws feel the need to always be helping, don't they realise they look like they can't stay out of their daughters life even for a day?

am slightly jealous and slightly confused why 2 grown up fit able bodied parents need the help of their parents every single day? it just looks like they cAN'T DO A BLARDY THING BY THEMSELVES. (OOPS SORRY) CAPS ON

YABU, it's non of your damn business.

Stop being a nosey judgemental cow.

Sounds like they are a close family - how lovely!

YABU

Some families are just a lot closer than others

I know my inlaws would want to be round all the time if they lived closer

My parents though would only come for a cuppa if invited

"why do the in laws feel the need to always be helping, don't they realise they look like they can't stay out of their daughters life even for a day?"

Prehaps her parents want to spend time with the kids. Prehaps they inlaws and the parents enjoy their time together. I see my FIL at least three times a week. My children are healthy and I have a good marriage. I enjoy my inlaws company. Admitally my FIL is more like a third child than actual help, but I still love him.

Its one of those situations where its really none of your business. Especially as there might be factors that you don't know about.

Seriously?

fucking hell...

Physically healthy, fine, but what about depression etc? She wouldn't necessarily disclose that to you...

Jealous?

Probably because they want to help and they want them there. I would love to be able to spend that much time with my family (and have that much help!!).

YABU

Maybe the grandparents' like being there and being involved. The wanting to be involved in your dcs' life doesn't end when they turn 18/21. I visit my children and grandchildren on all my days' off and at least one day in the weekend. I try and pick up the grandchildren from school...I love it.

Just think in some cultures all the family live together
Like on c4 My Family - the Indisn family had 4 generations all under one roof, it's nice

"am slightly jealous"

Yes. Yes you are.

SSD..... Do your parents/in laws help
you?

Yep you sound very jel to me!

How lovely of them to help out no run along and MYOB!

now

Maybe the inlaws are controlling bossy arses with their own key and your neighbours would gladly be rid of them but the inlaws have built a secret tunnel into their house so every time they change the locks... there they are again!!!

she may be depressed, don't know about that

get that families can be close, but when does close become doing too much?

the gp's look knackered, the parents look great, seems wierd 2 adults would demand such a lot of help when they probably could do a lot of it themselves

Do they work?

no sara, we don't get any help but we manage, guess I just dont understand why 2 adults that look like they could manage too have the gp's there every day to do things for them

dad works, mum doesnt

But how do you know they are "demanding" the GPs' time? How do you not know they are actually doing it willingly?

Have you any idea how much people don't need to hear what you think about your neighbour? And how many of us need that amount of help but just plod on. Piss off OP