Was it that odd, or is MiL overracting?

[Midnightmoon]

Had some bad news today and I was very upset the 2 older Dcs where on play dates. So it was just me, Dh and Dd2. Dd2 was asleep when it happened so it was just me and Dh. We curled up on the sofa and after crying all over him I fell asleep on him.
Was woken up an hour later by MIL who just lets herself in. She walked in and saw me still asleep on Dh at this point. She immediately jumped into a lecture on how this should not be done at all and using my Dh as a bed was direspectful towards him. Dh said he didn't mind and said she shouldn't of woken me up. (This is because I haven't been sleeping alot recently but MIL doesn't know this and if I'd of known she was coming I'd of tried to stay awake) MiL wasn't happy at this and asked where the Dcs where. Told her the 2 Dcs where out with their friends. She said I was awful mother and what if something had happened to the Dcs while i was asleep and they needed taking care of. I said that Dh would of woken me up plus Dh could of taken care of them otherwise. MiL pulled a face and then walked upstairs woke Dd2 , came down told me I needed to 'get cleaning' rather than laze around sleeping all day.
Dh got grumpy at this told her to leave and that she didn't know what I did for my family and that if it wasn't for me there was not way he would be able to do it all, she then left.
So was it that odd or am I the only one who has a very comfy Dh. :o

So you're not allowed to hug her son? How does she think she got grandchildren?

I really want her to come round and try and unlock the door!!

Sorry Midnight, I can't imagine how bloody annoying it must be for you.

She was completely wrong, and I would be ranting at her for letting herself in, why can't she knock? And what if you were sleeping? your husband was awake, wasn't he? And she has no right to tell you that you should clean your house, it is your house, and why did she wake up your little one? children should not be woken up, they need their sleep to grow healthy. Your mother in law is mad, honestly, everything she did and say is plainly wrong

has she not been round yet?

'She went into the kitchen and put the chicken breast from the freezer in the oven and said we would have lunch here. She wouldn't go when I asked as 'its Dhs house not mine'

For real? That chicken would have been slung out of the window. Seriously.

Has she been round again yet? And how was mothers day? -hope it wasnt too much of a nightmare- ur mil sounds dreadful

Well?

She came today.
Me and Dh were eating lunch and Dd2 was having a nap. I heard scratching against the front door then a car pulled off. I went to take a look and a car was pulling off. It looked like the IL's car so I told Dh to be on the look out.

Half an hour later we could her yelling, Dh opened the door but kept it on the chain so they couldn't get in. FiL was yelling asking What the hell we were doing. MiL then demanded her mothers day present. Dh said No as they were being unreasonable. FiL said he was a horrible son. They left in the car.

An hour later they came back. FiL stayed in the car and MiL came to the door. Dh kept the door on the chain again. MiL said she was so sorry, she loved us all and she was very sorry for her behaviour. As Dh went to open the door she barged in and asked where Ds was. I said he was in Nursery and she started calling me a bad mother. Dh told her leave and she said No, So he said he would call the police. MiL walked out the door but was still yelling. Dh told her to just go. She called me a murderer and basically that I should of died that day.

(Background to that comment. Me and Dh were in a car crash 7 years ago. Dh was driving but it wasn't our fault. But our first Ds died because of it. He was 1.6 at the time. Me and Dh where in the front. MiL believes it was my fault as I put the car seat in and put Ds in it. There was nothing wrong with the car seat, it was just the way the crash happened )
Dh lost it, told her that she was never to talk to me like that and she would never see us again if she thought that was okay.
She left in the car saying she didn't want to see us again anyway.
and that was that.

Good God, what a bitch for that last statement.

Omg

She has some horrific unresolved issues. Your dh sounds fab. So sorry that you had to live through that, and what an awful comment. You and your dh should spend more time cuddling on the sofa, you deserve it

Oh my word!!!! Your MIL is being hugely unreasonable, and downright mean too. Well done to your DH for dealing with her like that. have some tea and flowers for yourself

Wow. I would never let her in my house or near my children again after saying that, what a hideous thing to say. You poor things, I can't imagine dealing with someone saying something so disgusting after the grief you must have suffered.

You poor darlings. I don't think anyone would blame all 3 of you (DH and DS) for snuggling on the sofa for the foreseeable future.
You haven't lost anything by never swing her again, those comments are unforgivable.

DC not DS, sorry

My God. I am so sorry about your son.

I hope you and your DH cut all contact with his parents forever now.

oh, god. I thought she was bonkers before, but she is actually unbelievably cruel. I actually want to punch her in the face.

I would be done with her after this, honestly. I'd not stop my DH from seeing her, but she would not be welcome in my home, and my children and I would not be going to her's.

I am so very sorry for your loss.

Wow. I can't believe how callous your mil is

I'm so sorry to hear about your ds , that must have been an awful thing to have happened to you.

It seems she is best off out if your lives but I can't help feel sorry for your dh for having a mother like her

Oh dear Lord Midnight, I couldnt believe what a bitch she was before, but reading about your loss...words fail me.

She is a bad bad person, evil is not a word I very often use, but for her to say that...again words fail me.

I have been lurking reading this thread with growing horror at your awful Mil. Your last post brought a lump to my throat. Nobody I know would ever say something so utterly cruel and hurtful to me like that. You know it wasn't true but she's obviously got a screw loose if she comes out with stuff like that. I'm so sorry you've had to put up with crap like that after everything else.

I do hope you've managed to get rid of this woman once and for all. She may be your Mil but that's not the kind of influence you want on your children. Just please, please stand your ground here. I'm so glad your dh is on your side. I hope you're rid of her now and that everything gets better.

How horrendous, she has SERIOUS issues

I'm glad you and dh have each other and your dh recognises what awful awful behaviour she is displaying.

Time to get a restraining order...
She's unhinged.

Oh my God, I'm so sorry to hear about your son. You poor things to have had that happen and then this woman throw it in your face in an attempt to hurt you as much as possible when she finally realised you and your (magnificent) DH aren't going to take her shit any more. What a piece of work.

OMG you poor thing. Your DH sounds wonderful, good on him!

Vile and calculatedly cruel.