Was it that odd, or is MiL overracting?

[Midnightmoon]

Had some bad news today and I was very upset the 2 older Dcs where on play dates. So it was just me, Dh and Dd2. Dd2 was asleep when it happened so it was just me and Dh. We curled up on the sofa and after crying all over him I fell asleep on him.
Was woken up an hour later by MIL who just lets herself in. She walked in and saw me still asleep on Dh at this point. She immediately jumped into a lecture on how this should not be done at all and using my Dh as a bed was direspectful towards him. Dh said he didn't mind and said she shouldn't of woken me up. (This is because I haven't been sleeping alot recently but MIL doesn't know this and if I'd of known she was coming I'd of tried to stay awake) MiL wasn't happy at this and asked where the Dcs where. Told her the 2 Dcs where out with their friends. She said I was awful mother and what if something had happened to the Dcs while i was asleep and they needed taking care of. I said that Dh would of woken me up plus Dh could of taken care of them otherwise. MiL pulled a face and then walked upstairs woke Dd2 , came down told me I needed to 'get cleaning' rather than laze around sleeping all day.
Dh got grumpy at this told her to leave and that she didn't know what I did for my family and that if it wasn't for me there was not way he would be able to do it all, she then left.
So was it that odd or am I the only one who has a very comfy Dh. :o

What a total evil b, how could she say such a thing and drag up awful memorys for u all because she couldnt get into your house!! So sorry to hear what happened to ur ds, it was a crash and none of ur fault. How dare she lay blame on u and talk to u like s!!! Hope u cut them out of your lifes for good , really cannot believe what im reading im surprised neither of u lamped her one. Stand ur ground dont let her in your house again. My pil are awful but oh my lord these are worse!-they need to come up with a book"how to b a mother in law" for bitches like her

So sorry she said what she did but your DH sounds fantastic putting you first. Well done on the changes you have put in place, keep strong

So glad you and your husband are standing your ground against this disgusting woman, who doesn't deserve to be a mother and grandmother. Very sorry to hear of your awful loss and I hope you never have to deal with the poisonous old hag again.

I'm sorry to hear she behaved like that, obviously you are better off without them, yes without the both of them. How could she bloody dare to say something like that?

And good on your husband to support you as he should. When my MIL attacked me, exh just got out of the room and spent the rest of the day crying at having falling of with his mum. You are fortunate to have him on your side, that woman should be put in a leash and wear a muzzle when she is out.

Midnight I'm so sorry that horrible woman invaded your home again. How dare she pretend to apologise and then behave so appallingly! I'm utterly shocked at the things she said to you.
Thank goodness your DH can see her for the poisonous creature she is. After that experience I would guess he won't take any future apologies seriously.

They have effectively cut themselves out of your lives - what a blessed relief!
Enjoy your family in your newly PIL-free home!

Crazy lady.

I cuggle up to and fall asleep on my DP all the time, he's comfy!

Definitely get the key back or change the locks and tell her she has no right letting herself into your home.

Jesus titty fucking christ! I'm so that I've just dribbled wine down my chin.

Your mil is inhuman. You would be justified in killing her and making it look like an accident after what she has said to you. What a despicable excuse for a human being, how anyone can behave like that to people they are supposed to love and cherish is beyond me.

She's lucky she's not my mil, I would bitch slapped her so hard her ears would be ringing. How dare she. I truly hope you and your DH (who sounds completely wonderful in spite of his fucking lunatic parents) move away and start afresh with people that actually care about you. Your children certainly don't need to be exposed to those awful people even if they are family, they are better off never knowing grandparents who behave so disgustingly.

I'm so truly sorry about your son. Words fail me.

Sorry. Had too much

I have been lurking but I literally looked like this when I read your update.

I am so desperately sorry that you have lost your son, and am appalled that she would bring that up. She is vile vile vile and thank God your DH sees that.

But I would give you one word of advice. My ex MIL once when too far and ex finally said "enough". He meant it and was very protective of me and our family, but he did get very down for a while when he finally had to accept what a toxic bitch his mother was. He was ok after a few months but he did get upset and very depressed for a while while he came to terms with not only what she had done that final time, but what she had done his whole life but that he had swept under the carpet so that his mummy still loved him. He wasnt nasty and he didnt take it out on us, he was just....sad, sometimes.

Maybe just keep an eye on him incase he seems to get a bit quiet or upset?

He is a good man and I felt a warm glow when I read how he stood up for all of you :)

Posted my last post after reading page 1, just caught up and OMFG! I agree with the majority. What a horrid, vile and disgusting person she is. What she said to you was totally unforgivable and if I were you I'd be cutting them completely out of mine and my children's lives. You should't ever have to take that sort of crap let alone in your own home.

I am so sorry to hear you lost your son in such a terrible way.

Oh my goodness, what an absolutely ghastly woman and I am just so sorry for all you have been through.

And I am so impressed how you and your dh have stuck together through thick and thin.

You and your dh may like to read Toxic Parents, but in the meantime you may want to look into getting a restraining order. She really is that dangerous.

I am so sorry that you lost your child.
Your MIL is evil, pure nasty sick in the head evil.

Please cut her out of your lives, you will be much better off.

I am so sorry about your son. Whatever happens wrt seeing her again I don't think you should ever leave your children alone with her..... She will tell them the accident that killed your son was your fault. She is nasty and spiteful and will think nothing of telling lies about you to your children.

Oh how awful, that's just utterly inexcusable. Poor, poor MrMidnight and you too.

So very sorry for your loss.

Oh dear.
Your mil has some personality problems doesn't she?
Keep that chain on. She sounds quite unhinged and hell bent on using whatever she can, no matter how hurtful or harrowing, to score points in her game. People like that should be avoided whenever possible.

I'm so sorry about your little son. Your mil is a horrible person.

There are no words to explain how vile I think she is & tbh I think that you are saints for having anything at all do do with her after her blaming you for your first son´s death.

It´s all about her, isn´t it?

She´s lost a GS, yes & I can´t imagine how that hurts, but fucking hell, you´ve lost a child.

I wouldn´t be able to ever see her again.

Oh Midnight I am so so sorry to hear about your son. Your MIL is not a normal person and I wouldn't blame you if you never saw her again. I know I wouldn't be.

I'm sat here like this

I hope you will be changing the locks to all the external doors in your house. It's all well and good keeping the chain on when you are there, but would she dare try to get in when you are not there?

Well done to you and your DH for handling the situation with dignity and I'm so sorry for your loss.

Note to self - read the whole thread, not just the OP and last page [facepalm]

I see you've changed the locks.

I'm speechless! I really have no idea what to say, so am sending you all a {{hug}}! It seems to me that there are some people in this life that you are much better off without, and they are two of them!

Oh, and your lovely husband sounds like a real brick. X

That is unforgiveable.

I would never ever see that person again. If she ever tried to impose herself into my life again I would get a restraining order (or whatever the local equivalent is).

No chance, no how, I ever speak to someone who would say such a thing again.

She is an utterly vile, cruel excuse of a human being. Your dh sounds brilliant and fwiw I'd be cutting her out completely.

So sorry for your loss x

Fucking hell!

Your OP made her sound irritating and rude, but your update shows that she is utterly vile. Cut her out of your lives, you don't need that crap from anyone.

So sorry for your loss.

Fucking Hell! She is not the full shilling to screech something like that.

What a horrid woman she is.

I would never ever have anything to do with her or FIL ever again, and I certainly wouldnt allow her to have my DC.