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to give DH a stern talking to when he gets home?

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CailinDana · 09/03/2012 17:44

DH's works full time in a flexible, non-stressful job that he loves, I'm a SAHM to an active but relatively easy going toddler. DH's jobs around the house are: cooking dinner each night (his choice, he loves cooking and hates clearing up), emptying the bins, washing his own clothes and hoovering at the weekend. That's it. Every so often we have a "discussion" about housework (ie I tell him he needs to keep on top of his jobs) he agrees he needs to buck up and he is very good for about a month afterwards. Then, everything slowly starts to slide. If I mention anything there's always an excuse: "I've been very busy," or some such.

This week my patience is wearing thin again. The bins are overflowing, and every week for the last three weeks they've been like that at some point. He's been ill for the last couple of days so I've said nothing and just worked around it because if I say anything I'll get the "I've been ill" and I'll look like a massive bitch. However, not long ago he rang me to ask if it's ok if he goes to the pub for a drink. I said yes even though I was a bit hacked off that I unexpectedly have no help with DS this evening (hate that, but I can deal with it) but more so because those bloody bins have been driving me nuts all week, I've said nothing because he's "ill" and now the poor "ill" baby is off to the pub!!! Grrrr!!

Am I being petty or should I tell him I've had enough of this? I mean, emptying the bins isn't too much to do of an evening is it??

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RhinosDontEatPancakes · 12/03/2012 20:52

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Goawaybob · 12/03/2012 21:18

Excellent post Rhino

Its about common sense and consideration, not a to-do list

I came home from my voluntary job today (knackered actually) thinking about the mess in the kitchen. DP had been home for lunch and had loaded the dishwasher and cleaned the surfaces. He didn't have to do that, he only came home for a bite to eat, he works bloody hard - i'll get flamed for this

I texted him to thank him

RhinosDontEatPancakes · 12/03/2012 21:42

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MrsTerryPratchett · 12/03/2012 22:04

I believe in the thank yous. Both ways, though. I get thanks for doing the overnight, he gets thanks for the laundry.

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