to object to the t-shirt worn by shop assistant today...

[margoandjerry]

In the dry cleaners this morning. Perfectly pleasant young man serving - he was polite and everything. His t-shirt said "Doggy style. The bitches love me". Why is this ok? It isn't ok. I'm pissed off.

Why are you pissed off? Seems perfectly fine to me.

I don't think it was suitable work clothing tbh, but I find it hard to get wound up about t shirts. I think it gives you the heads up that the wearer is a bit of a prat. This can be handy, if otherwise you would have wasted valuable time, before finding that out.

I think its quite funny. I wouldn't have been pissed off

What karma said.

To me, not offensive but marks him out as either 14 years old, an idiot or both.

Not suitable for work in a customer facing role though

You are being stupid and ridiculously a touch uptight.

I remember years ago wearing a F.C.U.K t-shirt and getting a load of verbal off an elderly gentleman! I tried to explain the whole French Connection thing but the poor dear just didn't get it.

No, it's not ok Margo.

No, it's not ok Margo.

Not suitable for a customer-facing role. I would normally have had my DCs with me and my DD would have read it and asked what it meant. Not impressed by the casual sexual references or by the reference to women as bitches...I'm surprised anyone thinks that reaction is stupid. Oh, sorry,
stupid

Not OK workwear
Obviously
Is he trying to impress young boys with sexist humour or trying to offend "bitches"?

Inappropriate for work wear, definitely.

Totally inappropriate for work wear and I'm amazed to find people disagreeing. Offensive language, sexual reference and disrespectful to women. And I really wouldn't have wanted my DDs asking me what it meant.

That is so not ok.

I promise, I'm the least uptight person you will ever meet.

But that is SO not okay, on so many levels.

No, it's not OK. I really dread the first time my DD is able to read one of these T-shirts on someone and it's going to be soon as her reading is coming on well. I hate the thought of her absorbing some of these messages.

It's nearly as pleasant as the one I saw once that said "Liquor in the front, poker in the rear"

I was annoyed enough on my own account, just at the general crassness of it and unnecessary-ness and lack of respect for women and just customers in general. And this is about respect generally and not particularly about my DD.

But just as Farlo says, my DD is just getting to the stage of absorbing everything about her and taking pleasure in the fact that she can tackle all the words she sees about her. For her to have to absorb this .

And halfpastwine, I'm afraid I'm with the "poor dear" on the FCUK t shirts. Not the same issue but I did think they were pretty crass. And that joke outlasted its limited lifespan by about a decade. It was all a bit ooooooh swearing, get us.

Is it an independent or a chain cleaner? Either way, I would send a letter (not an email) stating how you went to pick up a couple of suits, not be insulted by their employee. Just say what you said here - the chap was nice but his T-Shirt was not acceptable and see what they come back with.

This sounds a bit twatty - but there is an opportunity to educate a few people here. Sexism is the last socially acceptable 'ism' so every refusal to accept it, done in a sensible way, is a step on the road to its demise.

Stupid boy, probably thought he was being cool and funny I would have probably asked him why he wanted to advertise the fact he has sex with dogs, because he couldn't possibly be talking about human women with such disrespect.

Art I like your style. It's actually a nice shop generally. I'm actually a bit embarrassed to raise it because the main person in there, who is always lovely to me and the DCs, is a really quite elderly Indian man (definitely not born here). I think we'd both be mortified by the discussion. A letter might be a good way to tackle it.

margo surely if your DD did ask, you would tell her the truth? - which is that 'bitches' are female dogs and that his t-shirt is saying that dogs like him?

You don't actually need to explain the pun, surely.

I hope you never see a Tool t shirt, the back says 'Jesus is a cunt'

Pmsl and shouldnt as have stitches!!

I used to work in a pub with a man who wore a t shirt with "cum with me" written on it. He didnt have many takers

A 11 yr old at my sons sport group wore a t shirt saying "the best sort of job is a blow job". Wtf??????????

Really, really not ok.

yes obviously I wouldn't have gone into rear-entry sexual positions with my 5 year old!

I would have made something up. Or hoped to bump into a neighbour serendipitously and changed the subject. Which is what happened when we were in the supermarket and she asked me whether grown up men have willies the same size as her brother's (who is 2.5). I was SOOOOO pleased to see our neighbour and her children and greeted them very enthusiastically. We tackled the subject later - I just didn't fancy doing it in the pasta aisle

And I like your style - I want to be Margo Leadbetter when I grow up :)