To think I am as invisible on MN as I am at home?

[gaunyerseljeannie]

You know how it is, you speak.. no-one appears to hear, you clean, no-one cares, you cook, its yucky etc etc etc.
Well yes and I just accepted that as part of the motherhood deal, but thought MN was somewhere I might get noticed/ heard/ interacted with, but so many times I post and never get a thanks or even a WTF? I am beginning to feel like I am still at home............. anyone out there?

I feel the same most times on here. I still haven't worked out how to get noticed!

awwww it's alright, I'll talk to you, what you want to talk about?

Yanbu to think it, but yabu to care. I think you have to be around for a wee while or be generally hilarious or obnoxious to get notice tbh. I'm neither, so I'll just continue to comment I'm sure people read I just don't warrant much response.

Are you Scottish Jeannie?

Sweetheart, I know how you feel about the first part.
I've never seen your name before, have you been on here long? Where do you post?

Sorry you feel that way. Maybe you need to post a lot more :) But at the end of the day, not many posts are 'responded' to - it's more like a series of monologues!!

Hello jeannie .
Think we all feel like that sometimes.

I think most people here (including me) are 'background' posters. I think you have to be very quirky or in a well known rare situation to be noticed.

Me too, feeling a bit unloved in rl so I'm a bit needy at the mo, that will pass in a day or too and then I will be to not giving a crap whether I get noticed or not.

Ummm... I can see why you feel the way you do, but on a forum as big as MN, I think you've got to accept that you're not always going to get an acknowledgement to your response to a thread. On big threads, I think it's a bit precious to care - the posts that get the responses are the ones that disagree, are particularly contentious, or are from regulars that other posters respond to because they 'know' them.

On smaller/slower moving threads though, I do get what you mean - I've typed out long posts to try to help the OP and not had that effort acknowledged and you do think 'why bother?'. But that's the point really, isn't it - why bother? Because you choose to - it's a public forum, after all.

Sounds like the real issue for you is not feeling heard in your personal life. Want to talk about that? (In which case Relationships may be gentler than AIBU...).

Hello jeannie, MN is just like that, really really busy and loads of people about, but they all seem to be rushing past.

Is there anything in your life that DOES make you feel noticed?

Happens to all of us... Guess we're not 'well known' enough yet for
People to reply to!

Everyone feels like that sometimes.

Often it is people who post loads who just get noticed. Which can't always be a good thing

If you actually look at things most posts don't get a personal answer.

The site is fast-moving, Don't take it personally.

I feel the same way. We can all be invisible together.

Hi Jeannie.

I felt like you do when I first started posting (not here, on another chocolately parenting site ;) ) but really, try not to take it personally. When I joined here, I just posted anything and everything. Sometimes I get a reply, sometimes I don't. You just have to shrug at it all. Now I post all over the site as opposed to AIBU.

A great big welcome from me anyhow :)

I don't recognise you but I bet you don't recognise me . It's better that way, why would you want to be recognised by a group of strangers on the Internet?

You know that this is how the nobdies started - don't you? Exactly like this.

You don't want to bet noticed here, everyone in the UK thinks MNers are basket cases. Best to go under the radar.

Come and join the Plurkers. We are dead friendly and talk to everyone! Plus it's really slow moving so everyone can keep up. And we get to ask all the stupid questions that you may be too shy to ask other posters. :)

Sorry about dead. I have been talking to teenage ds.

This thread has made me look at the names of the posters on this thread... The only one I recognise is pagwatch! I don't really know what that says or what it means! You are probably all wondering who I am too!

Hi jeannie

Just carry on posting, don't let it get you down.
I only post mainly on the nice light hearted non controversial threads so I don't think I'm noticed that much. I don't really care. I just do it anyway.

I will look out for you on my travels!