to be fuming at my DSis and her sodding wedding?

[MsIngaFewmarbles]

DSis has been looking at venues for her wedding for next year, asking advice and generally being very excited about it all, revving my 3 DDs into an orgy of excitement over being bridesmaids. Fine, no problem, I'm thrilled that she has found the right person and love a nice wedding.

She TEXT me tonight telling me that they have now decided (and have booked) a wedding abroad instead. She'd love us to come. I called her back and calmly asked for details etc, and it turns out we would also be caring for my DN (4) whilst they have a 'honeymoon'.

I am fuming.

1. She TEXT me this information? WTF????
2. Why the hell did she tell my DDs that they would be her BMs if it wasn't all definite?
3. If we did manage to spend our entire holiday budget (and then some), we would be spending our time looking after DN

Dare you to 'like' this thread or link it on FB.

Yes Jareth, I will alienate her forever Actually, it would appear from texts I've had from her that she has been thoughtless and stupid assuming we could all go, but she seems upset and a bit angry with herself for not thinking it through. Only her BFF is being a tool about it. I think maybe she'll change her mind and write off the deposit. Could be wrong of course but she does have a habit of diving into ideas then realising if you leave her alone that she needs to back out. That's why I am so peed off with her friend winding her up.

ah, ah but it could work in your favour, you know - like when you whinge about your family but as soon as someone outside the family starts agreeing and whinging back, you feel the need to defend them? So if the BFF goes on and on and on about how mean and selfish you all are, your Dsis might start to defend you all, which will make her realise how selfish and thoughtless she has been and ta-dah!

I get the feeling the BFF was fancying the holiday in Cyprus herself, but who knows why in April!!

Well, OP, if Dsis goes ahead with her plan to marry abroad and you don't go, you could have your family holiday of your choosing, and buy the DD's some bridesmaidy style dresses to either wear to the family party or just to dress up in. TBH, that is all child bridesmaids do, dress up and look nice. Go mad and make them each a little posy of silk flowers and get a little tiara each from Claires or something. Don't see why the DD's should miss out because their aunt is being so silly.

4K is a hell of a lot of money to ask anyone to pay. She is VVU.

DSis apologised for BFFs texts late last night, she said she had no idea that she was sending them. I still don't know what she's planning to do re the wedding though.

DDs were our bridesmaids when we got married 3 years ago, TBH the more I thin kabout it, the less bothered I think they'll be (especially if we manage to pull off a short holiday and a trip to Disneyland Paris) They can have pretty dresses etc for her evening do when they get back.