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Original poster

To find DPs behaviour last night really mean?!

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shouldIbecrossaboutthis · 10/02/2012 08:31

Ok ladies, I am after a bit of perspective; I am a regular but have name changed in case I get a thrashing!

I am 10 weeks pregnant. Every evening I get really bad nausea, not actually sick, but feeling like I might be sick. The only thing that makes it go away is eating crappy food, but sometimes I feel so sick I can't stand to cook.

Last night was a bit like that. DP offered to go to the supermarket to get some super noodles [shame] but they really help with the sickness. He then cooked them for me, which I was very thankful for, said thanks etc. He also made his own dinner from leftovers. I cleaned everything up.

I then had a bath and went to bed @ 10pm. Fell asleep in bed with the light on waiting for DP to come up. He came up 10.30ish, woke me up, got into bed and then refused to turn of the bedroom light!

I also refused to turn it off as we have the rule the last one in turns it off. It's not like he even politely asked if I would turn it off. He just point blank refused to do it!

AIBU in thinking this was mean? The only thing I can think is he felt hard done by getting me some super noodles and cooking them. Should I be more understanding? Was I as bad as him by not turning it off?

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Hairynigel · 10/02/2012 08:35

Sounds like a bit of a non issue tbh

JamRagRolyPoly · 10/02/2012 08:35

He should have turned it off.

So what happened in the end?

21YrOldMan · 10/02/2012 08:41

Why don't you ask him?

"I'm a bit confused as to why you didn't turn the light off last night"

You can get 100 replies here and pick your favourite, but you still wouldn't actually know the reason.

skippy84 · 10/02/2012 08:42

This is the most boring thing I have ever read on Mn

Original poster
shouldIbecrossaboutthis · 10/02/2012 08:42

I fell asleep with it on, woke up around 3am and turned it off.

Hairynigel, would you happily get out of bed after being asleep for 30 minutes whilst also feeling sick every time you move?

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shouldIbecrossaboutthis · 10/02/2012 08:43

21 year old man I did ask him last night. He said he didn't want to.

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HeidiHole · 10/02/2012 08:43

He should have turned it off. No question

OneLastSoul · 10/02/2012 08:44

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OffMeTrolley · 10/02/2012 08:45

Ah the old I am precious and pregnant syndrome, everyone must pander to my desires

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shouldIbecrossaboutthis · 10/02/2012 08:51

offmetrolley not at all, I would have liked him to turn out the light even if I wasn't pregnant. As I said, we have the general rule that the last one in the bed has to turn it off. I just felt like his behaviour was even meaner because I felt sick because I am pregnant.

onelastsoul good thinking, I will do just that!

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squeakytoy · 10/02/2012 08:53

Well if you had fallen asleep already with the light on, it wasnt a case of it keeping you awake...

bettybat · 10/02/2012 08:57

What's even with that stupid rule?? Why do the two of you even need a rule like that? I don't get it.

Both of you are just being idiotic and unreasonable. Heavens above!

NigellasGuest · 10/02/2012 09:02

YANBU as you have every right to B a little bit U in your condition IYSWIM?

and actually it wouldn't have taken much for him to just get up and turn it off for heavens sake - I would get the whole thing totally out of proportion a bit niggled by this aswell, TBH!

LaBoccaDellaVerita · 10/02/2012 09:05

Wind up right? I mean seriously - it's a wind up isn't it? The idea that two grown people have time for frippery like this in their lives is just laughable! Or it would be if it wasn't so tragic.

21YrOldMan · 10/02/2012 09:08

He said he didn't want to.

In that case he was being a dick and YANBU.

But at the same time, not turning the light off isn't quite DV.

BluddyMoFo · 10/02/2012 09:13

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Chubfuddler · 10/02/2012 09:15

Was he reading? Maybe he wanted the light on so he could, er, see?

rhondajean · 10/02/2012 09:16

Maybe he's suddenly developed a fear of the dark.
Yawn.

maras2 · 10/02/2012 09:16

Leave the bastard.(my first time)

rhondajean · 10/02/2012 09:16

Maybe he's suddenly developed a fear of the dark.
Yawn.

ditavonteesed · 10/02/2012 09:16

leave the bastard

Portofino · 10/02/2012 09:16

Is this one of these "90% of threads on MN are made up" posts that Penandink was waffling about yesterday? I really, really hope so. Hmm

upahill · 10/02/2012 09:18

Get one of those pull switches over the bed.
They are fab.

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shouldIbecrossaboutthis · 10/02/2012 09:19

You're all right, it's not a major thing, he didn't beat the shit out of me I agree, no-one died etc.

I posted to find out whether I was somehow at fault here. I would never think of asking someone who had gone to bed early because they felt sick, to then get out of bed to turn the light on when I had just walked past the bloody switch! Maybe I am just too nice and expect to much from other people?!

bettybat I kind of assumed everyone has that rule. To me, it makes no sense that one person passes the light switch to get to the bed, whilst the one in bed has to get out of bed to turn it off!

I should have added (not that I think it will make much difference as IAclealryBU) he was next to the switch when I reminded him not to forget to turn it off. Which is when he said he didn't want to.

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sausagesandmarmelade · 10/02/2012 09:22

I think you are as bad as each other....both of you need to grow up before this baby comes along.

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